Friends vs List of friends

Davida I understand what your saying. When anyone sends me a friend invite I send a pm to them letting them know I want real friends that want to stay in touch. Many have never responded so I don’t friend them, others respond enthusiastically and I have made some great “real” friends here. Good luck and keep going, there are some great ladies here!

🍷C

Thanks Doll 💋👩🏻‍🦳 I guess I’d rather be lonely  be lonely than treated like trash. I realize sometimes it’s just ignorance

Davida, I really wish you luck in finding those friends-friends. I’m replying because I noticed you un-friended me, so just giving my opinion about it

Talking only from my perspective, I have a more-than-full-time job, family, and many other things which occupy most of my time, more so these last couple weeks.

When I have time to be online I spend time with friends I have going back almost 10 years in Facebook and I sign in into CDH a few times a day on my phone when I take a quick break at work and try to keep up with what is going on, where I read messages in the forums, read articles, look at photos and if I’m lucky enough may get some minutes in the chat.

Expecting so much time and attention from somebody who you just met online after sending them a short message seems to be unrealistic, but againg, I honestly hope you find the kind of friends you are looking for.

Gaby

Ms.Gabby thank you for your input and response. I totally loved our conversation time. Your such a delicate. I also have a double plate of duties & responsibilities. I hope my message isn’t negative. I’m not looking to have a large list of CDH friends but a couple of Gurls who want to be Friends. I understand very few would limit themselves to such a small number as me. I hope to remember what you told me when you share the good, the bad and the ugly. If I were to have a large number... I wouldn’t likely be able to. My thought is, “if you want friends than be a friend” that’s all I’m looking for someone to talk through this new experience of MTF Crossdressing. I hope I’m not sending out an offensive message 💋👩🏻‍🦳

Oooh I just reread that comment... there’s no edit.

Hello, I understand what you mean. I am terrible with computers and I don't know how to check my email yet, but I will try not to "ghost" you that way. If I do, it will be because I haven't figured anything out yet. I have two or three Facebook accounts that I can't get back into, so I'm sorry ahead of time, ha ha. Do you "lol" here?
Anyway, I felt like I needed to reply

...and apologize to you, even tho I literally just joined this forum moments ago.

Heh heh, I better quit rambling and go figure my email out. I'm gonna write your info down with actual pen & paper in case I mess up computerwise.

(on Facebook messenger I'd have left a kissy face emoji here)

I feel so guilty! ;_;

I do try to keep up with all my friends on here but sometimes with my limited amount of online time the squeaky wheel gets the grease.  Not to mention I'm selectively OCD so I tend to wait for people to respond to my messages before sending new ones.  I'm truly sorry if I've offended you!

*hugs*

HaHaaa Please don’t feel guilty! If I could have found an edit or delete button I would have used it. I’ve enjoyed every conversation I’ve been privileged to participate in. We have lovely Gurls here in the CDH Community. As I mentioned it’s only my personal frustration not to hurt someone else. I’m so new to the MTF Crossdressing experience that I’m hoping to find a few Friends to walk through this adventure rather than collect a large list of friends. With a few Friends I am more likely to remember important details shared than I am with the large list. I’m thinking I am more likely to have someone share the good and the bad of their actual Dressing challenge even as I am more likely to ask for advice from a actual Friend then to but out on blast. My way of thinking is, “ if you want a Friend than be a Friend” and that’s pretty hard with a large list of friends. There is so much about the Dressing World that I don’t know about that I’m just looking for a few Gurlfriends to share the experience with. It’s frustrating to think you’ve tapped into that with conversation and than you see their off and running creating and exploring new personalities. If I could have found the delete button of this...I would have used it. Because it’s coming across far more negative than I had imagined. Thank You for responding and Doll, I really did enjoy our previous chat time. 💋👩🏻‍🦳

I completely relate.  One of the reasons I got out of social media in a big way was it became such a numbers game.  Quality over quantity is my philosophy.  And yeah, a delete button would be nice but before I go into my rant about what I'd do differently maybe I'd better cut it short. 😉

Friends are hard to find but when you do find them it's worth the time and or wait.

I know as I just joined and don't have any, yrt. 🙂

Finding friends may be some what easy but to holding on  to them well  that's something  else and in many cases isn't ment to be. All I know is I have associated with more here than in real life  ,met, talk with and enjoyed conversations with  in the last couple of years. But as have been mentioned people come and people go and that will never change. Embace even a small part and know at least were not alone . 🌹

I do have several members I have accepted friend requests.  I have come close to several members.  Some are still here and some are gone.  I have found it takes time to get to know each other and what things you have in common.  I try to keep in touch with the ones I have being close to but sometimes I get very busy with life and my CDH responsibilities.   I know I need to be better but I need to prioritize my time.

I hope you find some true friends.  It is a real blessing.

Hugs,

Kayla

Managing Ambassador

Hi Doll; I’m surprised and wonder how I caught the attention of such a Delightful Dove as yourself. Thank you for taking the time and sharing your comments. To tell you the truth after I read my post; if I could have edited it or even deleted it, I would have. On the threshold of 60 I have come to value FRIENDSHIP above many other things that used think was a priority. I would have at least edited if not deleted my post... but having said that... I probably wouldn’t have had the privilege to have met you💋👩🏻‍🦳

In the short I've been here, I have been friended by many, and some I've never heard from again. That I don't understand, but its' also why I don't use facebook.

If someone sends me a friend request, then I always accept, as I don't want to be unfriendly, esp when I still feel new here.

I'm with Davida, that I much prefer a few good friends, than getting into a number count. Though I always try to be a friendly person, here, or anywhere, and have many friends in my life, but of course the vast majority are best called casual ones, with only a few very good ones.

Amy