GF to CD

Welcome Can!  I'm afraid I'm the last one you'd want relationship advice from, but on behalf of your bf and the community thank you not only for your support (which is rare enough) but for being proactive about seeking assistance.  If you haven't already I'd encourage you to check out the forum for wives and SOs, though of course we're happy to help you here as well.

I think the most important thing at this stage is communication.  Find out what her comfort level is, and make sure to be transparent about yours.  Any relationship is about give and take and the way to make that happen is to keep the conversation going.  It's entirely appropriate to set boundaries as long as they're reasonable ones, and that goes for both of you.

Hi Can

Welcome, and thank you for taking the time ti enquire.

I hope you are able to find the information you're looking for to make things easier on both of you.

My gf and I have been together for almost three years, she was introduced to Olivia before she made the choice to move in. Although super accepting and supportive like yourself there are still times when anxiety kicks in. Her fears stem from any possible confrontations that might come up due to the few narrow minded people out there. Its getting better and easier for her gradually. I let her choose my outfits when we're going out together so she can decide what she thinks others will accept. We also have alot of honest conversations regarding all things CD. Its good and I hope rhat things work out for you as well.

Olivia

Welcome from me as well. Though my wife has known about my occasional dressing for a long time, it was difficult for her at first to accept me wanting to dress more often, and more completely.

So some good honest communication is the key, and trying to set limits that both of you can live with. Personally, I don't push the dressing too much, but she does help me shop. At first it was tough, but now she seems to genuinely enjoy shopping, and helping me.

Amy

Well you have taken your first steps in the right direction.  For some ladies this is a lot to handle and many can not nor will not accept it sad to say.   We have a lot of similar traits and characteristics but al a little bit different.

It will takes lots of open and honest conversation as to what each of your expectations are and what he wants as well as what can you handle.  It will be a learning process for both of you but can be a great experience as you both explore together.

Feel free to PM if you wish

hello and welcome to our world. its nice that you are exempting with his x dressing. most woman are not and will not stand for it for some reason or another.  like the other girls here have posted. i could not add any more to it, but take it slow and learn, read up on it more from this site. reading others post and stories are very interesting. we are not hurting no one, we are just showing off our feminine side of us. woman have it also but afraid to say so! i have been x dressing for many years on and off, i started with a pair of tights in a school play i was hooked from there. later in years my fem side wanted to come out again and this time for good , i have my own female attire. wife knows but will not help with make up or see me even tho she has. she is getting better at my x dressing but i don;t push the issue.   feel free to read my profile, in the mean time read up and learn, let him dress up and be feminine for a while.  i added you to my friends list.  if you need any more advice feel free to send me a post.

Welcome , this is certainly the place you’ll find many of the answers you are seeking. For you it would be extremely difficult. I saw the shock from my wife as for us we were married for many years and only a short while ago that I opened up to her . The biggest concern was the mistrust I caused. Seeing her and the hurt that it caused was hard. We had many talks and through this agreements and guidelines were set and together were slowly working it out. But Cdh and it’s resources helped my wife and myself understand more about our individual troubles. I learned more about myself and she with help from a wonderful group we have here exclusive for my wife where many GG gals like yourself could receive the help and support to get the answers your wanted to know. This group – private ( wives and significant others ) . For you special ladies where Cders are not allowed. Meet with them and get the support you need. Look into other forms written by others who talk about their experiences, their questions they may ask with many offering help and advice so everyone can understand better on so many confusing topic . Many face this troubling ordeal but be assured you have support and help from everyone here . Relax, get comfortable and enjoy being part of this wonderful community that really does care for all that passes through our doors. The best to you both as you venture through these new paths together . Very happy meeting you and welcome.

Stephanie 🌹

Hi Can,

Welcome to CDH. In my opinion you have come to one of the kindest groups of people on the planet. I am sure you will find the help here that you need to move forward in your relationship now that you know your BF is a cross-dresser.

Hugs

Autumn

My wife knows but can't accept it. I think many women have the incorrect fear that CDers are gay, when there are less homosexual CDers than in general population.  Or that being with a person dressed that way make them a lesbian or that people around them will think that and that they DO care what these strangers think. Or that we are trained to interact with males vs females differently, and now you are confused as to how to interact with the person. If you see the person as a coin, with 2 sides but still just 1 coin, it might help. My wife tried to imagine if I was in a horrible, disfiguring accident and came out very changed - not ugly but now pretty - could she still love the person? She could not, but she did ask me to dress fully and come to her. So 100% accepting means what versus what are your fears? You are okay in private but not sure what would happen in public? Reasonable questions. And your BF may have strong fears as well. So go slow. If it is a public vs private issue, try walks together in a park or wooded area. Play tennis both in tennis outfits. Things that 2 women might do, rather than nightclub. Get nails done together. Those might ease fears.

Hugs, Ellen

Welcome Can!