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Hello, I’m Lucinda, I’m 19. I’m gender-nonconforming, and am seeking to identity and appear as female in the next year or two. My femininity is validated through the styles of female dress and hair from the 1960s, i.e. poodle skirts, skirt suits, blouses, modest dresses, coats, and most especially, bouffant hairdos. Vintage fashion and hair is one of my greatest passions, and I’m hoping to one day always be able to dress in this style and always have my hair in a massive bouffant hairdo, just as a lady of the 1960s would have.

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(@ellyd22)
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@teasedandlifted 

Hi Lucinda

Welcome to CDH 🙂

You'll find that this is a very warm and supportive space. The girls here are amazing, and it's a wonderful place to make friends.

I have to ask though (and I'm sure many other members are dying to ask as well) ... where does your fascination with the 1960s come from? It would be intriguing whatever the circumstances, but it's especially so since you're only 19 🙂

Ellie x

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@ellyd22 So, ever since I was little, I’ve had an odd perspective on hair. I can remember being little and seeing woman having their bleached in foil or in rollers, and it made me feel embarrassed. As to why, I can’t really say. I’d be incredibly embarrassed to have my hair washed at a salon as well, and I’d try my best to avoid it. Eventually, just by chance and these preexisting feelings, I realized I was fascinated by large hairstyles, and it culminated in an interest with hairdos of the 60s, since that’s when incredibly large size was emphasized and adored. I loved the idea of my hair being heavy, and always feeling it on your head. I started to view massive hair as a sort of crown that came naturally from one’s own body, and I became enamored with the process of creating a bouffant, because to me, it’s such an in-depth transformation. Long hair is permed, then teased heavily, sculpted, and sprayed until it’s as hard as rock, completely altering the hair, and changing the way that woman would be viewed, since hair changes the face so drastically. It also forces the wearer to alter their life, as it’s a very demanding hairstyle to have, and I adore that idea so much: devoting incredible amounts of time to a massive crown. Large hair such as that makes a woman feel like royalty, it simply changes your being and how you feel. And this is all such such an immensely feminine way to view hair, and the hairdo’s required upkeep forces one to be feminine. It’s all so incredible to me. As my fascination with hair cemented, I began to love the prim and proper styles of the 1960s. It was a very put-together era of immensely feminine clothing that seemed to go perfectly with the hair of the era. Then, I decided I’d want to dress in these clothes, and from there, it turned into a full-fledged desire to be a prim and proper lady of the 1960s. I also simply began to adore the gaudiness and extreme outdatedness of this fashion. It mystified me, and I adored the idea of it’s outdatedness, and I took great satisfaction in the idea of being a very young person but wanting to dress in this very outdated styled of hair and fashion. Apologies for the long reply, I’m incredibly passionate about this 🙂

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My first exposure to these styles of hair and clothing came from Pinterest as my fascination with large hairstyles was in its infancy

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@teasedandlifted 

I’m incredibly passionate about this

That's definitely coming across!

OK, sticking just with the hairstyle, some more questions 🙂

(Sorry).

Do you already have the length of hair required for this, or will you have to grow it?

Also, you say that when you were little you were embarrassed by seeing the women with their hair in rollers, and also that you'd be embarrassed to have your hair washed at a salon. So, the obvious next question ... are you planning to achieve the desired effect on your own at home?

Ellie x

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@ellyd22 No worries at all, I enjoy talking about it. Currently, my hair sits at what I think is about 17-18 inches in length. While I have more than enough to achieve a large hairdo, I’m still just not in a place where I can go through with my goals. The main though is because I want my hair to grow even longer, as I’m trying to achieve a truly massive bouffant. 
As for my childhood embarrassment, that’s subsided and not really a part of me anymore. I do intend on gaining my own skills with this sort of hair later on just to maintain it, but I’d want to achieve my desired effect at a salon. I’d love to have my first bouffant done by stylist, and I’d want to partake in the tradition of ladies of the 1960s of going back to the salon each week to receive a new perm so their hair will hold. Someone else doing my hair is an important part of this for me.

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Posted by: @Anonymous 95830

It also forces the wearer to alter their life, as it’s a very demanding hairstyle to have, and I adore that idea so much: devoting incredible amounts of time to a massive crown.

You are aware of the amount of maintenance required.

Our daughter had long hair down to her bum until somewhere around 20-25 yo. I don't remember exactly. She cut it on her own because she was tired of its weight.

Can you do this with wigs? Seems more doable.

 

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@harriette Yes, I certainly could do it with wigs, and I actually am intending on having a large blonde bouffant wig made in the next few months. This wig is a large flip with bangs, and two large curls at the bottom. I do want to own some wigs, but in the end, I want to achieve this goal with my own hair. Hair is very sacred to me, as is bouffant hair, and I deeply desire to go through the process of having my own hair put into a bouffant and maintaining that hair myself. When I’m able to dress and have my hair how I want, I don’t want any trace of my old self to remain at all, and I simply couldn’t forego having my real hair in a bouffant

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@teasedandlifted Have you looked for a hair salon that you would trust to do what you want?

I also wonder about the logistics of having a bouffant during your normal day.

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  • @harriette I’ve done a little bit of searching for some vintage hairdressers near me, and found a few leads, though I can’t say I’ll always be living where I am, but I feel alright in my ability to locate specific hair stylists. As for the day to day with a bouffant, I do accept that it won’t be easy, and I may have trouble with things like driving or certain doorways, but I’ll accept the risks. For any other challenges, I’ll just simply do what women did back in the 60s: lots of hairspray and lacquer.
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@teasedandlifted from one who was there and often found himself sticking to his dates hair I love the looks also.  Even back then I want to look that way.  Welcome to your new home full of sisters.

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@teasedandlifted Welcome to CDH, Lucinda!

What a fascinating introduction! I, too, am interested in learning what is behind your passion for this era of fashion and style. I mean that I was not exposed to that fashion era much, and I would love to have a select few of my own, but I would want to fit in today, too.

I am also interested in knowing if you go out in Virginia crossdressed this way, since your profile is still pretty sparse.

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@harriette If you refer to my first reply to @ellyd22 , you can see where I explain the origins of this passion 🙂. I understand the desire of wanting to fit in, but personally, I’ve never truly fit in socially, but I can at least say I was myself. I love the idea of enhancing that and expressing myself even more, and pushing myself away from the norm in a more intense way. As of now, I don’t go out dressed this way, I’m still in the process of preparing, because I simply am not in the position to right now and don’t have the time, as putting this sort of hair and fashion together would take quite a while. My goal is to achieve what I want with my hair and clothes in the next year and a half to two years.

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@teasedandlifted Thanks. You posted your reply just after I posted mine, so I will catch up now.

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@teasedandlifted 

Hi, Lucinda, what an interesting introduction. My own preferred decade, fashion wise, is the fifties. I love the style of the time in everything, clothes, cars, how the grass and trees were lots of shades of grey.....

Seriously, more or less, you couldn't have found a better place to share your passion, and I agree with Ellie here, that shines through in your writing. You'll find acceptance and support in buckets here, all the girls are lovely.

Bee happy (sorry, I don't normally do puns, that must be a certain Ms Davis' influence)

Allie 

 

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@alexina 

Don't blame me ... I'm very well beehived 🙂

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@ellyd22 

I hold my earlier comment to now be self evident! 😂

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@alexina I’m happy you thought my introduction was interesting. I’m happy you can see this in my writing, and I thank you for the kind welcome

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@teasedandlifted 
HI Lucinda, 
Welcome to CDH! So nice to meet you. I hope you can take a looooong time and enjoy the company of us girls!

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@teasedandlifted 

Hi Lucinda, welcome to CDH.

You'll have already gathered we love to chat, so feel free to join in anytime!

And thank you for sharing your passion for the styles of the 60s. A good few of us have some first-hand knowledge of that period, so your arrival here will undoubtedly prompt a number of walks down memory lane.

The 60s was indeed an exciting time of many changes. A lot of those were reflected in the clothing. This is especially true of women's fashions, which evolved throughout the decade. Is your focus on early or late 60s?

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@jacquelinelarkspur My focus is going to be on the early to mid 1960s, as that’s the period of time when the bouffant was it it’s height, and when the prim and proper styles of dresses, blouses, and skirt suits were in fashion, this is what I mean by 60s hair and fashion.

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@teasedandlifted 

Hi Lucinda, and a warm welcome to CDH.

I love your dressing style, and I’ve loved reading your conversation with Ellie.

As others have said, your passion shines through in your words.

I think a lot of us here will be very interested to see how your quest for a massive bouffant hairdo progresses. I know I certainly will. 

Hugs

Lucy x

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Love bouffant hairdos!! You have great taste.

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@chanel Thank you so much!

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Illustrious Member     Montana, United States of America
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Hi Lucinda nice to meet you and happy you found and joined us girls here and quite interesting girl so hope to see some pictures of you all dolled up sometime .. Have fun and dont be shy we love a good girly chat ..

Stephanie Bass

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(@firefly)
Noble Member     Panama, Panama, Panama
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Hi Lucinda.

Welcome to CDH. Have a nice time here.

Gisela 

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(@aliceunderwire)
Illustrious Member     Near Burlington, Vermont, United States of America
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Hi Lucinda,

Welcome to CDH.

Alice

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Hi Lucinda and welcome!

Heart

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