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(@susansmith1950)
Eminent Member     Montgomery, Alabama, United States of America
Joined: 12 months ago

Hi.  My femme name is Susan.  I am new to dressing.  I'm excited about dressing but afraid..trying to understand the urge to dress.

  Looking for friends.

 

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(@michellethomas)
Joined: 1 year ago

Eminent Member     Rochester, Michigan, United States of America
Posts: 10

@susansmith1950

Welcome to CDH.  You will find friendly and support from all of us.  I to was afraid, but knew I was starting to be true to myself.  Enjoy finding yourself and all that CDH has to offer.

Michelle

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Ambassador
(@alexina)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 2210

@susansmith1950 Hi, Susan, you're among like-minded friends and you've found a lovely safe place to embrace and explore your feminine side. (And all men have a feminine aspect, well done on recognising yours and not burying it)

Read some profiles and posts, I was amazed to find people very like myself after a lifetime of feeling alone and uniquely weird!

So welcome to CDH, enjoy!

Allie 

 

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Ambassador
(@jacquelinelarkspur)
Joined: 1 year ago

Famed Member     Gateshead, Tyne and Wear, United Kingdom
Posts: 1497

@susansmith1950 

Hi Susan, welcome to CDH.

Part of your intro post is easy to answer; you are among many, many friends here! This site is comprised of a whole load of wonderful individuals, all of whom share the same passion as you do. So rest assured, you are not alone. Make yourself at home!

The other bit is not quite so easily dealt with. The urge to dress takes different forms from person to person, and no one really fully comprehends it. It's simply part of who we are, and it's best to accept it as such. Fear is a natural and understandable part of the process, and that's mostly down to society's expectations. Fortunately things are changing for the better in that respect, and acceptance of what we do and why we do it is rising.

As for the excitement you feel, well... that's the bit to take hold of and cherish, especially for someone new to crossdressing. There's lots to explore, what with the makeup techniques, the clothing choices, the shape you're aiming for and how to achieve it, the wig choices, and perhaps even the voice. What you do with it all afterwards is the journey, and that is different for all of us. You've come to the best place to help you with that exploration, so feel free to ask questions and seek advice anytime.

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Lady
(@susansmith1950)
Joined: 12 months ago

Eminent Member     Montgomery, Alabama, United States of America
Posts: 8
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(@lucyb112)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Staffordshire, United Kingdom
Posts: 1005

@susansmith1950 

Hi Susan,

Welcome to CDH.

The urge to dress can be a little confusing at times and can lead to some quite conflicting emotions.
You’ll see questions about it on the forums once you look around, so you can take heart from the fact that you’ve certainly not alone.

You’ll quickly discover that we’re a very friendly and supportive bunch here, so have a look around and feel free to ask anything you want to know. 

Lucy 

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Lady
(@susansmith1950)
Joined: 12 months ago

Eminent Member     Montgomery, Alabama, United States of America
Posts: 8

@lucyb112 thank you!

 

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Duchess Annual
(@theresanyc)
Joined: 9 years ago

Estimable Member     New York, New York, United States of America
Posts: 61

@susansmith1950 This is truly a wonderful place to express your feelings and how other like-minded people also feel.  It's the moderators that make it a safe place so you can be honest about your thoughts which is really great.

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Baroness
(@river)
Joined: 1 year ago

Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
Posts: 827

@susansmith1950 45+years doing this and I still dont get it.  but like everyone has said . it is what it is may as well embrace it and have fun. Welcome to the group. Cheers RC

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Managing Ambassador
(@ellyd22)
Joined: 2 years ago

Majestic Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
Posts: 5221

@susansmith1950

Hi Susan

Welcome to CDH 🙂

I'll start this reply by saying 'Hi, I'm Ellie'. 🙂

But, in my case, that ISN'T my 'femme' name.

It's the name that I call myself.

It's the name that I've called myself for some considerable time now.

It took me a long time to realise that I'm trans, but that's what I am 🙂

With that knowledge came the understanding of my own particular urge to dress. These aren't 'women's' clothes to me ... they're simply my clothes.

Somewhat inconveniently, I was born a guy. That TOTALLY sucks. But I self-identify as female. And THAT, when I accepted it, is completely wonderful 🙂

Dressing is natural to me. I feel uncomfortable when I'm NOT dressed.

It isn't anything that I've ever felt ashamed of or guilty about. It's who I am. Feeling guilty about it would be like the sky feeling guilty because it's blue, or the sun feeling ashamed because it's hot 🙂

I STILL don't understand WHY I'm like this. I've just learned to celebrate it 🙂

You'll meet lots of girls on this site, each with our own story.

I doubt if any of us really understands the 'urge to dress' ... but we DO know that it's something that unites us.

Welcome home 🙂

Hugs

Ellie x

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Lady
(@susansmith1950)
Joined: 12 months ago

Eminent Member     Montgomery, Alabama, United States of America
Posts: 8

@ellyd22 thank you.  so much!

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(@melodeescarlet)
Famed Member     DC/Baltimore, Maryland, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Hi Susan! Welcome to CDH! Everyone's journey is uniquely their own, but in reading some thing and perhaps talking to some people you might find some insight into your own motivations. And keep in mind that this may change as you go along - you don't have to settle on a single reason.

We're glad to have you here!

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Lady
(@steffief)
Trusted Member     Missouri, United States of America
Joined: 12 months ago

Hello and welcome - Im new too and have had such a warm welcome.
I am sure you will too

Hugs!

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Baroness
(@chrisfp99)
Famed Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 years ago

Hey Susan, you are so welcome! As Melodee says, we are all on our own individual journey. But here at CDH we all share something in common, and that binds us all together. There's no need to feel afraid. And I think trying to understand the urge to dress is unproductive. There's shed loads of discussion on this here and I don't believe anyone has nailed it. Best to just go with the flow. We are how we are. Embrace your feminine side and enjoy the journey. You'll find some of the girls here are out to wives, family and friends, and are dancing at the local club en femme. Others, like me, are 100% closetted and dressing opportunities are ridiculously rare. I feel no fear or guilt, I just love those fleeting opportunities to slip into something girly, but I'm extremely careful not to get outed. One of the girls here will be exactly at your stage so read the forums, ask questions and rest assured you will find support. If you fancy it, pop some details into your profile and let us know a bit more about you. 

Hugs, Chrissie xx. 

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Duchess Annual
(@firefly)
Noble Member     Panama, Panama, Panama
Joined: 7 years ago

Hi Susan.

Welcome to CDH, a friendly, understanding and supportive community.

Gisela 

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(@aliceunderwire)
Illustrious Member     Near Burlington, Vermont, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Susan,

Welcome to CDH.

Alice

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Susan -

Welcome to CDH

XOXO
Suzanne

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Duchess
(@karla1958)
Honorable Member     Not in New Orleans, Louisiana, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Hi Susan and welcome!

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(@hottestwitch)
    Leicester, Leicestershire, United Kingdom
Joined: 3 years ago

Susan - relax and enjoy the experience:  you'll LOVE it!  Holly XXX

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Lady
Topic starter
(@susansmith1950)
Eminent Member     Montgomery, Alabama, United States of America
Joined: 12 months ago

thank you!

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Baroness Annual
(@secretpassions)
Noble Member     Wisconsin, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Hi Susan,

 Welcome to this beautiful community of learning, sharing, and acceptance!

Blow Kiss Lara

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Lady
(@denises924)
Reputable Member     Massachusetts, United States of America
Joined: 1 year ago

Hi Susan~
Welcome to CDH. You will find loads of information and lovely, sweet ladies who are happy to share their experiences with you.

Denise
❤️

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Lady
(@susansmith1950)
Joined: 12 months ago

Eminent Member     Montgomery, Alabama, United States of America
Posts: 8

@denises924 thank you

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(@justnikki)
Prominent Member     Seattle, Washington, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Welcome, Susan! I don't think there's a one of us who hasn't asked 'why', but at some point for me the why stopped being important and acceptance became the goal. Since then, I am more comfortable in my own skin, more confident in the world (en femme and en drab), and more open with my friends, my family, and myself. I wish as much for you in your journey. You've come to the right place for support and commmunity!

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Lady
(@susansmith1950)
Joined: 12 months ago

Eminent Member     Montgomery, Alabama, United States of America
Posts: 8

@justnikki thank you so much

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Lady
(@lillie)
Reputable Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

Susan, Welcome dipping your toes into the pond, is very exciting.

 

Lynne 

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Hostess
(@fishingr8)
Illustrious Member     Montana, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Susan nice to meet you and happy you found and joined us girls here so as these many wonderful ladies here have said all ready i cant add to them much .. The one thing i can say is as a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. Like Miss Chrissie Smith has mentioned if you please return to your profile page and fill in some more please as this is how we get to know you better thanks.. If your still worried and afraid after being here a bit and reading these forums and posts just remember girlfriend we don't bite well a few girls do be careful (ha ha ) just kidding .. Once again girlfriend nice to meet you and hope to see you around for a chat sometime soon.. 

Stephanie Bass

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