Hello

@beckyw 

Hello Rebecca. Welcome to a great community for us crossdressers. Like you I've been dressing since I was 11. I've purged wardrobes over the years. My wife has mixed emotions about my crossessing. Sometimes she allows me to dress and other times she can't stand me in clothing. I walk on eggshells alot. I wear panties everyday and she knows this. But the feel of female clothing is intoxicating! I hope your wife will understand. We have two young grandchildren living with us, so my opportunities to dress are limited. Good luck Rebecca. 

Jennifer 

@beckyw Hi Rebecca welcome

I too purged clothing too , that is nothing unusual

i am married too but wife does know although she does not know about me doing it now

I stopped for awhile but it resurfaced ,  Hope you stay with it  this is a good place to soundboard and ideas 

@beckyw Welcome to CDH from another UK girl,

Hugs.

Anna

@beckyw 

Welcome Rebecca from another UK girl - I might not be too far from you either, being just over the Bucks border into Bedfordshire.

I think you've come to the right place!  We love to talk about our experiences 🙂  This community will listen and won't judge if you do want to talk about anything, and will support you whatever your decision.

Hugs,
Fiona xxx

@beckyw 

Hi Rebecca,

Welcome to CDH from another UK girl.

Your post contains a lot of similarities to many of us here. 
There’s a lot of closeted CDs here, myself included, and lots of us have found that purging doesn’t actually solve anything.

I’d never talked about this with anyone before joining here, and felt pretty alone.

By being here you’ll soon realise that you’re far from alone. This is a very warm, friendly and supportive group.

You’re right in that ultimately, the decision as to whether to tell your wife will be your own, but I would suggest that first you have a good look around here, read posts and articles, and feel free to ask anything you want 

If you need any help with anything, just shout up

Lucy x

@beckyw 

Hi Rebecca

Welcome to CDH. Yet ANOTHER UK girl here ... I'm in Norfolk.

This a wonderful, safe, place to chat and make friends. I hope you love it here as much as I do.

I'm trans, and my earliest memory of wearing girls' clothes (which I remember putting on since they seemed the most natural thing for me to wear) was aged around five.

I'm single now, but I was in a relationship for 15 years. I never told my partner about the dressing, since from various comments she'd made over the years (whenever she saw someone in the media who was crossdressed or trans) I knew exactly how she'd respond 🙁

I'm sure that your intro post will stimulate a lot of useful comment, but only you can be the judge of your own home situation.

Hugs

Ellie x

@beckyw 

Hi, Rebecca and welcome to CDH.

I see you've had a few replies already, all extolling the virtues of this wonderful family. All true! Most of us have been in the same situation as you, many still are.

I can only echo what others have said, take some time to look through the forums and profiles and you'll see how others have handled telling their wives and SO's. And don't be afraid to ask, even what you might consider silly questions, one or a hundred of us will be able to answer.

Oh, and enjoy being a member here!

Allie x

@beckyw 

Hi Rebecca, and a belated welcome to CDH from another UK girl. I'm up in Tyne and Wear.

Rest assured, there are lots of us in a similar position to yours, so you'll have no shortage of advice on "The Talk" with your wife. We can only share our experiences, but, as you rightly say, the decision is down to you. You know your wife best.

My own situation is that my wife knows I like to dress, but doesn't like to see me dressed. I'm currently in between purges as it were, but I honestly don't know if my wife knows I dress when I'm alone (though I suspect she does know but says nothing; a DADT relationship, which is perhaps the most awkward of all).

I have had "The Talk" years ago, and it didn't go well. She tried to be tolerant, but admitted she couldn't deal with it, so I purged. Naturally my urge returned, as it always does. Now I dress in secret, because I don't want to cause my wife distress.

I can't tell you that you should or should not have "The Talk". It works spectacularly well for some, whilst for others it can be a deal-breaker. All I can advise is that you consider your wife's background, upbringing, attitudes and beliefs, and let your decision be informed by that.

@fishingr8 Aw, thank you, honey.