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Im new here, still a little unsure of why I joined. So I guess a little about me. If periodically dressed up to certain degrees from time to time going back to being a young teen and wearing my sisters slip when she wasnt home. As I got older, it would be years until I would take it further, maybe bra and panties with rolled up socks to act as breasts. It wasnt until this past summer that I had an opportunity to take it further. My wife and I wear living apart for a few months as I had talen a new job and had moved ahead of her. All alone, I took the opportunity to go all out, bra, panties, sexy dress, breast forms. Ect. Learned a few lessons. I shouldnt have bought high heels, and a wig from the party store doesnt serve well. And I was completely lost when it came to make up. I muttled my way through dressing up and was no way near passable, but loved the feel of my shaved legs under stockings and felt sexy as hell. I have not had the opportunity to do so since then, and everything is locked away in a toolbox. I have no clue where to begin, if I was even to reveal the desires to my wife. We come from two differnet worlds, she grew up in a very restrictive family, and I have been around the block a few times. The desire to dress up has grown stronger though. I have been able to used legitimate reasons to do certain things, such as shave my legs so its easier to tape up my bad knees, plus its becoming more common to do so, and buy wear stockings underneath my knee braces to reduce irritation. She has been ok with this all as it is reasonably justified. I think she would freak if I tried to push it further. I am probally both the masculine and feminine between us. I have all the power tools and the kitchen appliances. I am better at picking out clothing, and have gone to the store to buy her a pair of shoes, and help her pick out clothes and bras when shopping. Even if she were to be supportive, she wouldnt be much help in the dressing up part, as she almost never wares make up, thats something I definatly need help with, but I also relize that I want to becarefull not looking alot better as a women than she does. Im thinking of suttle hints delivered in a humorois manner to gauge her reaction before taking it further. Any insight welcome. Look forward to getting to know you all.
Hello Deena and WELCOME to CDH. I enjoyed your little intro letter. There with the Grace of God, go all of us! Feel free to peruse our site and talk with all the girls....they love to meet new girls and assist them on their journey. You tube has a lot of videos about the art of make -up and how to apply. Some of the make-up manufacturers have the same type of videos. I recommend L'Oreal Paris and Max Factor/Covergirl. I am taking a course with Lucille Sorella.com and coming along nicely. Study the models in Ladies Mags.....see how they are made up and try to copy. Start using female skin soap, conditioner, facial scrub and above all moisturizer. Start to trim your eye brows to obtain that female type brow. Look on internet for wigs....human hair is preferrable......Use price as a guideline. You will be amazed at what a well made wig will do for your looks. I hope this helps you a bit. My door is always open....come on in....set a spell...let's chat. I look forward to hearing from you.
Lady Veronica
Deena,
Living a Trans Lifestyle and being Married is never easy. You seem to downplay your wife in your post. Both her looks and how she cares for herself. She is a large part of your life and I hate to discourage your cross dressing, but you owe it to her to be honest with her. Your going to have to treat her as the person you'd like to be treated as. Let her know how you feel about dressing. Or else move on before you both have a family to worry about.
If you intend to carry on your CD lifestyle you need to be honest with yourself, and give yourself the free time it takes to be the woman you'd like to be.
Trust me I've been there twice.
Deena ; welcome to cdh. I'm so happy you made this decision to join us as its a place you'll definitely make good use of. If it's information, if it's understanding this site will offer the enjoyment to learn first hand the experiences many girls here have encountered. I too am still quite new as I just joined just last year myself. But from here reading tutorials , reading all the forms by these beautiful ladies I have learned so much and in a way this place has help me open up to my wife of many years of marriage. I do understand your thoughts on telling her as it was for myself . Not knowing her reactions and feelings towards this. But for me it just got too strong and slowly brought it to her attention. I did not dress in big ways, basically panties for the last few years than hosiery and I knew more was coming so I took the first step and told her in a very discreet way. Our relationship was quite strong so one evening we sat down and the talk happened. This was probably the hardest thing in my life the pressures were immense but I knew I had to say something because eventually I would have been caught. Her reactions "oh yes , confusion, mistrust , anger, that I didn't tell her earlier. These feelings were always with me since my 20's but family and of course society force it into silence. But in time with her slowly accepting she started to allow Stephanie to appear. Allowing her but with caution to show her feelings , taking small steps and with guidelines I was allowed to express myself in ways I never thought possible . It does take time . I hope this experience reaches you as it is such a wonderful feeling to enjoy our femininity and have your significant other by your side enjoying the journey together. Best to you. 🌹
Hey Deena, well can't just shave one leg. I too have a bum knee caused by my earlier exploits in life and just might use that excuse to shave my legs. It's a tough road you are on for sure and I'm sure you can find insight through others on this site that are friendly and full of advice. There has also been successful stories of girls coming out to there wives but also sad stories. My advice is not too much at once that usually scares 'em. But being here on the CDH site is a great start. Hugs - Terrisa
Hi Deena. Fabulous intro post. Thanks for taking the time to give us such an insightful read. I am in a very similar situation as you, but I have a different perspective that what some of the others have offered. I’ts not about being right or wrong for me though, it’s all just perspective. If you would like to chat, give me a mail!