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I'm Cassandra. I'm in my mid 40's, but have known about my gender difference since adolescence. I spent most of my life trying to conform to social "norms", never really quite fitting in. In constant battle with myself about who I was, I was miserable. After a failed marriage that ended horribly, and not in my favor, I made an attempt on my life. Thankfully, a song came on the radio, that brought me back to my senses before I got too far into it, and I got the help I needed to at least deal with the the symptoms of my "condition".
When I met my current wife, we fell in love hard and fast. During this time, I was still trying to play my social "role", so much so that I was all but lying to myself as to whom I was. So when I finally managed t0 tell her about myself, five years into our marriage, it drove a huge wedge between us. She had married a Michael, not a Cassandra... or what ever it was that I was calling feminine "side" then. It was very hard on both of us, because we both still loved each other very much, but it almost ripped us both apart. However through it all, we still managed to remain best friends. We just got to a point were we just didn't talk about the elephant in the room.
Last week, through the help of a mutual friend, we tackled that elephant together. Through a lot of communication (even arguments), some mutual acceptance of who we are (yes, I also had to come to terms with who she is, very straight), and a dash of compromise, we are now looking at a bright future together, where ever this journey takes us. I believe it has brought us even closer than before. While my wife is still uncomfortable with some aspects of who I am, she is very supportive and accepting[ed.] as I continue to explore and nurture my femininity. We both realize that we still have a long and hard road ahead to find mutual happiness and fulfillment, but we're doing it together.
Now that I have the dark and gloomy out of the way, (I do apologize if I triggered anyone) I really didn't intend on being so candid. Currently, I am still "in the closet", meaning that while I have obviously told some people that are close to me, I'm not quite ready for public life as a woman. This is actually my very first "public" showing. I can thank my lovely wife for finding CDH for me. She really is a saint in my eyes. I look forward to meeting everyone, sharing ideas and tips, and expanding my social support network.
Hi Cassandra and welcome to our community. You will find everyone here will support you and give you the confidence to tackle that elephant in the room. Everyone is a friend so feel free the talk to everybody and make friends. Love Hugs & Kisses. Kathleen.
Cassandra
welcome to cdh. This is such a beautiful place to where we all here enjoy the passions we love. And to enjoy these feelings with someone close to you is so important. I too embrace that as my wife has supported and help me in so many ways. It didn't start out that way and took many talks to come to agreement's and guidelines set so neither of us especially her weren't uncomfortable on how things were going. Slow and easy as she puts it. The help I found here and with the encouragement I’ve received from many of theses remarkable ladies help ,to offer advice which has given me true understanding and the confidence to feel good about my self. Looking for friends, many here and looking to meet. Share a story or two and chat about anything thats inportant to you. Very happy to meet you and looking forward to seeing you here. Enjoy your journey.
Stephanie 🌹
Hi Cassandra, Teralynn here. I will send you a proper welcome post some time today, but after reading your introduction post I just had to respond. My heart goes out to you for what your crossdressing has caused you to experience in this life. Somehow, you have made it this far and you are still standing. Remember in the end, “love always wins” if you stay the course. More later. - Blessings
Hello all,
Thank you for the warm welcomes. I'm super excited to be here. I look forward to a chance to chat with all of you. I will pop in from time to time, as I'm sure we all have busy lives. But thanks again and my heart goes out to all of you 🙂
Cassandra, Teralynn here. As promised, I am now giving you a proper welcoming post. You have joined a fantastic group of people who will amaze you with their kindness and support. Consider this your on line home. If you ever get another “dark and gloomy” period you can get all your sisters here to help you get through it. That wife of yours is a keeper. She has stayed with you and has worked through the hardest period of acceptance it appears. She should consider being a member of this site also. I do believe it will be a blessing for the both of you. If I can ever be of service please feel free to contact me through this site and let me know how I can help. A post on my home profile page wall will get the fastest response. - Blessings
Hi Cassandra,
Welcome to CDH.
Alice
