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Lady
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(@lisagirl2112)
Active Member     Mesa, Arizona, United States of America
Joined: 7 months ago

Hello all I’m Lisa. I joined this group a while ago and I am finally getting around to my new member post. A little about me…

My first experience dressing was when I was around 6. My mother found be in my sisters closet wearing one of her skirts. At that time I wasn’t sure why I had the desire to wear female clothes but as the years went on the feelings grew stronger. In my early teens I started to fully dress, utilizing my sisters clothes but it wasn’t an easy task. I would have to use the rare opportunities when I was home alone or resort to other means. My desires were so strong that I would use the clothes that my sister would leave in the bathroom. (Probably explains some other things about me). 

when I moved out on my own it was liberating to have my own clothes and to be able to dress freely when I wanted to. I would often use Halloween as an excuse to go out dressed in public and there was a certain thrill that came with that. 

Fast forward to the present. I am married now but when I was first seeing my wife I thought that I could control my desires and stopped dressing. Recognizing my faults now, it should have been a discussion before we committed to each other. Long story short I couldn’t suppress my desires and now I am living in a very complicated situation. Discussions with her have been challenging as she wants nothing to do with my dressing. My ability to express this side of my life and having support has been difficult and is part of why I joined this group. 

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(@jessicacynthia)
Joined: 2 months ago

Reputable Member     London, United Kingdom
Posts: 167

@lisagirl2112 Welcome to CDH.

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Managing Ambassador
(@ellyd22)
Joined: 2 years ago

Majestic Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
Posts: 5098

@lisagirl2112 

Hi Lisa

Welcome to the Forums!

I'm in Norfolk in the UK.

I'm trans, and some of my earliest memories are of crossdressing. You can read about them in my absurdly full profile.

To save people looking it up, it's here 🙂

Profile – Ellie Davis – Crossdresser Heaven

I'm 61 now. I've never been married, but I did live with my ex for 15 years before that relationship finally broke up (for reasons unconnected with crossdressing).

Like you, I thought that I could put a lid on who I really was for the sake of the relationship. I managed that for pretty much the whole time that we were together, but after we separated it definitely exploded. After she'd gone and the dust had finally settled I realised how unhappy I'd been.

She never knew about the crossdressing, but from various transphobic things she'd said over the years I can guarantee that she would not have been receptive. At that time, the available information was so poor that I hadn't realised that I was transgender. Although it might sound odd, realising that - and finally understanding myself - came as a huge relief.

It was a loooooong time after that before I found this wonderful place, but CDH really has been a godsend. It's changed my life for the better in so many ways.

Apologies ... I've rambled!

Welcome again 🙂

Now you've touched base with us all, don't be a stranger.

Ellie x

(PS - Halloween in the UK is NOT the same as in the US. I really wish it was!)

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Ambassador
(@gafran)
Joined: 9 months ago

Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 1053

@lisagirl2112 

 A belated but still deserving welcome to CDH, Lisa!

 As you may have experienced here. That this is the place for all things feminine. 

 A place where we can support and assist you in your journey of being your trueself. No hiding, no excuses, no shame or embarrassments!

 Welcome to the Pink Fog! 

 Fran 🥰 

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Lady
(@nataliecd)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     Minnesota, United States of America
Posts: 63

@lisagirl2112 I'm sorry to hear of your situation with your wife but I am glad you have found us! Hopefully the community here can help and offer encouragement and support when you need it.

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Lady
(@joannajoy)
Joined: 1 month ago

Reputable Member     British Columbia, Canada
Posts: 180

@lisagirl2112 Hello Lisa, welcome!! You are not alone here, many of us find ourselves very much in your shoes! Hugs… jo

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Ambassador
(@alexina)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 2135

@lisagirl2112 

Hi, Lisa, welcome to the family 😊.

Your story, and your current situation at home is certainly not unique. Lots of our members are in what's known as a DADT (don't ask, don't tell) relationship as far as crossdressing goes. Many others are still "in the closet" and no-one, other than us, knows about their secret.

This community, though, provides a place where we can share with like-minded sisters, in safety. That's important because a big worry is being discovered, that doesn't happen here.

What does happen is lots of sharing, celebrating successes and proving encouragement and support to each other. You will see lots of us say how much being part of this family has changed and improved our lives so stick around and I guarantee we can help you.

You'll know your way around by now so I'll just say, don't hesitate to ask if there's anything we can help with.

Allie x

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Princess
(@erinb)
Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

Welcome Lisa to CDH nice to meet you hopefully you see how wonderful this community here is and that most use ladys here understand myself don’t have a supporting SO either but don’t let you get you down here we will support you and guide and help in anyway we can 

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(@aliceunderwire)
Illustrious Member     Near Burlington, Vermont, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Lisa,

Welcome to CDH.

Alice

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Hostess
(@fishingr8)
Illustrious Member     Montana, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Lisa so nice to see you here as i might have welcomed you before but thats ok as sometimes it deserves repeating so hello again he he .. You know as a sister and family member you were welcomed back a few days ago and that has never changed girlfriend dont be shy and please say hello sometime as we all love a good old girly chat .. We so hope to see you around for a chat sometime soon..

Stephanie Bass

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Lady
(@jml)
Reputable Member     Near Boston, Massachusetts, United States of America
Joined: 1 year ago

HiLisa,

Welcome to CDH.

Joan

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Hostess
(@cdsue)
Famed Member     Delaware, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Lisa -

Welcome to CDH

XOXO
Suzanne

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Joined: 2 months ago

🍒 Hi Lisa 

    Welcome to CDH ,  I'm so glad to.see your here ..

    Good Luck ,  I think you will enjoy it Here !!!

   Huggs 

Stephanie 👠 

 

 

 

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Lady
Topic starter
(@lisagirl2112)
Active Member     Mesa, Arizona, United States of America
Joined: 7 months ago

Thank you all for the warm welcome and support. It is comforting knowing that I have a new family of sisters. 

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Duchess
(@catherine0918)
Prominent Member     Henderson, Nevada, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Hi Lisa!

Welcome to CDH!

I think you will find the community helpful, encouraging and supportive.

Again, welcome to CDH!

Catherine

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