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As I am new to this community, I would be rather inconsiderate of me to begin posting and responding to posts without a "proper" introduce, so here it is!
My name here is "Ghige" and if you read my bio, it will explain how and why I selected this name. I am not new to the world of crossdressing as I have been doing so for as long as I can remember. It was not until very recently, however, that I started taking my love of heeled boots, in particular, out into public. During the autumn, 2023, I came across another website for both men and women who love wearing high heels and after reading so many encouraging stories there, I decided to take my first steps out in heeled boots. The problem at the other web-based forum is that as I am new, my postings must be approved by a moderator and this can take up to a month to happen before anyone can read them. Thus, following a bit of research, I can across this forum and decided to join.
I am thrilled to be part of a community where I can discuss what is such a part of whom I am and always have been. Over the years, I always thought that I was destined to be a "private" crossdresser, only doing so in the comfort and "safety" of my residence. I have always wanted to tell someone, anyone who would listen, about my love of wearing an outfit that included heeled boots and a miniskirt without judgement. Sadly, many reasons prevented me from doing so. Now, here I can tell "everyone" that yes, I love wearing a great miniskirt with a pair of heels and have others let me know that they feel the same.
One topic that I am sure most every crossdresser must face is if others (i.e. wife and/or family) are aware of such. My situation in this regard is rather complicated. I have been happily married for over 31 years and very recently told my wife about my crossdressing. She is accepting of it but to what degree remains to be determined. Our "problem" is that I am involved in a very long distance marriage as my wife lives and works overseas (non-military) and has not been with me when I am simply wearing a pair of heels or in "full" crossdressing mode. She has expressed her wish for me to do whatever I want (within reason, of course) to find personal happiness and fulfillment, even if that means crossdressing. So, where we stand on this is somewhat unresolved at the moment. I think that it will not be be a "big" issue what I wear or how I present myself has not and will not affect whom I am or how I feel about her.
Finally, as I could roll on for pages and pages, I want to conclude with letting a wish be known. I would love nothing more than to meet other members of this community, in person, just to share a drink, dinner, or whatever and talk about what it is to be a crossdresser/transgender and not only the challenges we face, but the enjoyment and satisfaction we derive from it. Unfortunately, I live in an extra-large small town where the possibility of doing so is very limited. Thus, if there are ever any events where this such be the reason for getting together, I would love to attend. That which I want more than all else at the moment is to be out in public in a miniskirt and heels, and to interact with others who may be dressed the same way. Sadly, where I currently reside, such may be frowned upon for many reasons.
Oh, one more point...I recently started writing a blog about my new adventures while wear high heels in public. Hopefully, in time, it will evolve to include stories about wearing skirts, uncovered heels, and the like out and about. Right now, however, the blog is in its infancy but I plan on adding a new post every other Sunday, and I have about a year's worth of material waiting to go!
CDH site guidelines mean that I can't post a direct link to my blog here. If you would like more details, please send me a PM.
Thank you so much!
Ghige
@keetii Welcome to CDH, Ghige!
I have now read everything. Your introduction, your profile, and your blog, therefore none of it went to waste. 🥰
It wasn't clear about how / when you told your wife about you wearing heels. Did you do it face-to-face? Also, do you consider your interest in wearing heels a fetish of some sort? I don't want to presume anything here.
I, too, want to wear heels in public, however I have to keep a rule in mind - don't embarrass my wife. That didn't work out so well NYE, as I posted here recently, and I tend to wear heeled shoes more when she isn't around.
In public, I have worn high heels a few times, with varying degrees of success. I tried to mask them by wearing pants. Whether they were long enough or not is hard to say. However, shopping for high heels while wearing high heels is an interesting experience. I am dying to wear heels and a miniskirt in public again. That was thrilling in its own way.
Recently, I bought some low-cut boots and a pair of Mary Jane shoes which all have low block heels. They tend to draw less attention, and that is good, but they aren't entirely invisible. I do catch people looking at them, even if more than just glances. Shoes without laces tend to do that.
As for your detailed writing style, I tend to do the same thing. You could call it thorough details. I try to make each word count for something, though, because it would be nice for someone to learn from my experiences.
Feel free to write about your heeled adventures on CDH, too. If we can help inspire others to dress in public, even if it is just in heels, all the better.
Thank you so much for your response - I truly appreciate those responses that show thought and effort has been put into them. Do not get me wrong, I appreciate all responses to my posts even if it is just a single word or sentence. I wanted to take some time to respond to some of your questions and they have given much about which I have though all day.
First, my writing style is, at least in my opinion, highly refined as my current and recent employment (legal field) requires a substantial amount of detailed report writing and thus, I have become very good at doing so even though my proofreading is terrible! Likewise, about three years ago, I finally completed my Masters Degree which required extensive written analysis of legal/judicial issues. So, as might be evident, I am prone to long written answers.
Next, with respect to telling my wife...given that we currently live on different sides of the Atlantic, telling her was done by way of video conferencing. Sadly, due to my extremely limited vacation time, our in-person meetings are twice a year - spring and the end of October for our anniversary.
Finally - wearing heels as a fetish - this is an excellent question that I gave much thought over the course of my day. I do not view my wearing of heels as a fetish given how I view the idea of what constitutes a fetish. To me, a fetish is an extreme obsession that is driven by the need to fulfill sexual desires. Although it is easy to associate certain items (ballet boots, leather) and activities (BDSM) with fetishes, they may not always be fetishes. A leather skirt, for example, can be highly elegant. I see my crossdressing as a means to express part of me and even though I crossdress somewhat frequently, I do not always do so. As I am writing this, in fact, I am dressed in my drab clothing, and want to change into a comfy pair of pajamas to watch a good movie on a cold, snowy night. Thus, as there are times were drab clothing if fine with me, I would not consider my crossdressing as a fetish.
Again, an excellent topic for discussion!
G.
@keetii Hi Ghige
Nice to meet you and so happy you found and joined us girls here so get settled in relax and enjoy yourself here.. As a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. Ok girlfriend a nice intro thank you so look around and ask many questions and get many answers good luck girlfriend we are all here for you ..
Stephanie Bass
@keetii Thanks, Ghige.
I knew afterwards that fetish was the wrong word. Maybe one of fascination, fixation, obsession, yearning would have been better. But at least we got that out of the way, eh? 😀
Enjoy your time on CDH.
Welcome to CDH. You will find a lot of supportive people here and great advise. You can look up who lives in your state by going under the Social tab and at the bottom search for friends. The search will allow you to narrow it down to state or even city, if you wish. I did my state (Michigan) and found 470 others like me. Good luck and keep the communications going. -Traci
Hi Ghige,
Welcome to CDH. You’ll meet many very nice people here. Enjoy perusing the site.
Alice
Ghige,
Welcome to CDH!
I think you will find the community helpful, encouraging and supportive with, as Alice said, many nice people here!
Again, welcome to CDH!
Catherine
Hi Ghige, welcome to CDH, and thank you for that super intro. I love the origin story of your name.
You're in very good company here, with a supportive sisterhood of ladies who love to chat about what we do and why we do it. There's tons of really varied experience to drawn on, so don't be shy with your questions; you're sure to receive great replies.
I'm looking forward to having a read of your blog.
Take care.
Hi Ghige,
Welcome to Crossdresser Heaven. I’m new here too.
Joan
Ghige -
Welcome to CDH. You will find this to be a friendly place where you can share your journey, get advice and make friends. Be sure to check out the articles and forums, as well as joining the conversation in the chat room. A unique and interesting name and intriguing the way you came up with it. I also enjoy wearing boots with heels as well as high heels. I have 2 pair of ankle boots that I have worn in public (with my wife's consent) and it was a thrill doing so. When worn with jeans they looked like cowboy boots (although one pair has a cut out design on the side but the jeans covered it). Thank you for sharing your story about your wife, she sounds like a wonderful woman to accept this part of you as she has. Hope to see you in chat.
XOXO
Suzanne
