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I’m glad to have found this place and hope to learn from all of you. Like some others have experienced, my wife isn’t into this at all. She knew before we were married. But I tried to stop and failed. Servers purges later she insisted I see a therapist to get fixed.
I found a local therapist that specializes in gender issues and made an appointment. Terrified as I walked in I hoped either she could make me stop and not care that I stopped or make my wife accept it. Neither came true.
After several meetings she asked me to bring my wife with me and I did. After some discussion she looked at my wife and said that there isn’t anything g broken or needing to be fixed. It’s just the way he is. We all decided that don’t ask don’t tell was the best option for us to stay together. Please understand my wife is a wonderful person and I can’t imagine life having any value without her. So this has worked out for us pretty well so far. That was about 8 years ago.
We are still married and she even has pointed out some skirts and things to me. She gave me a blouse that was too big for her. So it’s been really good. Great would be total acceptance but she can’t do that. I understand and don’t blame her. Ultimately what is important is that it works.
Thanks for reading.
Cindy
Cindy,
I can relate to some of your issues... my wife wouldn't understand my feelings either about dressing up as a woman. I too thought I was "broken" until I came to realize that I can't deny who I like to be; I like dressing up in short dresses and high heels and even lingerie but I remain in the "closet" for fear of what others would think of me.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts..
Cindy this is certainly the place you’ll find many of the answers you are seeking. Sorry about your wife’s lack of acceptance. Many face this troubling ordeal but be asured you have that support and help from everyone here . Look into our forums written by others who talk about their experiences, their questions they may ask with many offering help and advice so everyone can understand better on so many confusing topics
Relax, get comfortable and enjoy being part of this wonderful community that really does care for all that passes through our doors. Very happy meeting you and welcome.
Stephanie 🌹
hello Cindy nice to have you here! its nice that your wife is coming around. my wife knows I x dress and tells me when I can dress up for we have 1 adult child still at home. read my profile will tell my side of my journey. hope all will go well . there is more x dressers coming aboard. never know who is a x dresser, could be your co worker, Dr , neighbor, friend, dentist, car sales men, woman x dress all the time so why can't we x dress?
Welcome to site. My wife also doesn't understand why I have to dress as a female. I have explained it's not that I have to but I Want to be the way I am.
She tolerates but still doesn't understand.
Hi Cindy,
Welcome to CDH.
Alice
Some girls love being girly and some don't. They can do and be both. Some guys love being girly and some don't. Much of society dictates guys can't do both.
I love being girly. I love being in pantyhose, heels and a short dress. I dress that way most of the time but would prefer to be dressed like that all the time. Society dictates I can't or shouldn't in some situations.
I love going out dressed as often as possible. I would love to be dressed all the time and mostly do away with my guy clothes.
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I am in the same position as you my wife is the only one who knows about me wanting to be female she trying to understand me but thinks it just a fetish
Hi Cindy
Welcome, it is lovely to meet you. Like some of the other girls I can relate to what you have said. My wife knows but doesn’t want to be involved so we find a way that works for us, we shop together but that is as far as it goes. I look forward to seeing you around and hopefully we can chat someday.
Jessica x
Welcome Cindy!
Hi Cindy, Teralynn here. Sorry it took so long for me to welcome you to our on line community. Hopefully you have found it to be the welcoming, supportive site that most of us know it to be. I note that your wife knew about your crossdressing before you were married. It amazes me how many people get married with the mindset that I can get the person I am marrying to change things about themselves that I don’t like. In reality it rarely works out that way. Also going to see a professional to fix something that isn’t broken doesn’t work either. You crossdress because of a definite reason. That reason might be as simple as you liking how you feel when you wear feminine things. In the past on another site, I have counseled many young crossdressing people and transgendered people. So many had bad feelings about themselves for what they were doing. I always tried to stress to them that they should accept who they are, and what makes them happy, and to not let other people’s negative comments have a negative effect on how they see and feel about themselves. Here in this community you will find a group of wonderful people who have had similar experiences and are receptive to being reached out to. So make friends, share experiences and know that you are not alone. If I can ever be of service please feel free to contact me through this site and let me know how I can help. A post on my home profile page will get the fastest response. - Blessings
Hi Cindy Your Therapist is right there is nothing wrong with you or anyone of us..We all enjoy just feeling pretty and looking cute. It just is not fair that we did not get to experience all those compliments that cis girls got when growing up. We can all be who we want to be here. Please enjoy your self and share your thoughts and experiences of just being a girl. Stephanie
