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Hi all,
Excited to be here. I've followed the site for a bit and found the advice super helpful but finally joined. I am a busy professional, with a wife and teenage kids. My wife is awesome and super supportive. The kids don't know yet.
It took me awhile to fully embrace both my feminine and masculine side of me. I was a child of the 80s and 90s when you were either gay, straight, or bi, and guys that wore women's clothes must have been gay. So I was confused when I found women both attractive and that I wanted to wear their clothes too. I did have some fun at times -- my high school girlfriend and I went to a public viewing of Rocky Horror Picture Show and she and a friend dressed me up and it was my one and only time I fully went out in public as a woman (and it was fantastic). However, it took me awhile to untangle societal pressures and I buried that part of me for awhile, purged some clothes, and went on with life. Over the years I would crossdress in private and sometimes do cosplay with my wife. However, a few years ago when I realized that gender identity and sexual orientation aren't related and we are all on a spectrum, Jamie was truly born.
I do crossdress with my wife when we are alone and otherwise under dress regularly. I'd be open to going out in public in the right circumstances but I'm happy being Jamie when I can at home.
I am so appreciative of this site as there seems to be a lot of people with different and similar experiences. I love the support you all give, especially in our present political climate. I'm also extremely lucky to have a supportive spouse and I truly feel for our trans brothers and sisters with what is going on in the world. We aren't hurting anyone, we just want to be happy.
So, I'm glad to be here and take in all your advice. I get busy at times; so apologies if I'm not super responsive.
~Jamie
@jamiespig Hello Jamie, glad you decided to join, as I'm sure your already aware, this is the greatest place for support, friendship and advice. Glad to have you here
Hi Jamie
Welcome to CDH - I'm in Norfolk in the UK 🙂
This is a lovely place, so I'm glad you decided to join us! The wealth of 'different and similar experiences' is one of our many strengths. The love and support I've gained here since signing up in July 2023 has changed my life.
There's lots to explore. Have fun looking around, and if you need help with anything just shout.
Hugs
Ellie x
Welcome Jamie!
Your story sounds similar to mine. My wife is super supportive and has been since our earliest days of marriage. My kids are now adults and I told them last year and it has only drawn us closer. I go out dressed with my wife a couple of times per month and just last month spent a day out dressed with my daughters. Truly an amazing experience.
@mkat3874 I'm going to have to definitely pick your brain at some point in regards to telling the kids. I'm truly am thankful that we have similar stories and this site has really opened me up to better understanding and hope to explore more. Thank you.
@jamiespig I too ended up by having to tell them. I have three kids, they all took it differently, though all accepting, different. Possible that one of them felt they needed to be protective of their mum. So, there is no one size fits all with this, at least not for me.
@jamiespig “ We aren’t hurting anyone, we just want to be happy”. In the line you have reached into what everyone on this site feels. We any be diverse in our journeys, but share common threads. Thank you for reminding us and welcome.🤗🥰
@jamiespig Hiya Jamie, so happy you have so far found the site useful. and welcome , so nice to hear your wife is supportive also, always makes life much easier!
I am myself the wife of a CD member, and both of us love it here and gain just as much as each other by being part of such a wonderful and supportive community. It sounds like your wife is much further ahead than I am, as I only found out about hubbys CD accidently around four months back, so still a CD wife newbie really.
I am however totally supportive, if that wonderful wife of yours would ever fancy joining then she would be so welcomed and I imagine would be a huge asset to other Significant others.
Hope to chat more soon. Big hugs - Laura 
@bellaz76 I love it. Thanks for letting me know. If you knew my wife well, you would know she hates social media and is very private online. That being said, I showed her your post and she surprised me that she would like to connect and reach out. We might get her on here just yet!
@jamiespig well look at that!!! That’s exciting , well if she decides to join up, I shall deffo reach out, plus as a significant other she will get a free upgraded account too, there’s another carrot to dangle 🤗
Welcome to CDH, Jamie!
Your in the right place for all things feminine. Along with caring, understanding and compassionate girls like yourself. We're here to support and assist you in any way we can!
There's even a space on this site dedicated to supporting spouses and SO'S.
Welcome to the Pink Fog! 🥰
@jamiespig welcome Jamie to CDH nice to meet you welcome to this wonderful community
Welcome Jamie you are joining a wonderful community best wishes on your journey and thank you for your “Rock Horror Picture Show” story 💕
Julie
Hi, Jamie, welcome to CDH, the warmest, friendliest and most supportive crossdresser community you'll find.
You've "followed" us for a while so you'll have seen how much we love it here and how many of us credit this community with enabling real changes in our lives.
All of this encouragement and support is now yours too, so don't hesitate to ask if there's anything you need.
Allie x
@alexina Seeing the love and encouragement was definitely a magnet. I wanted to be careful on where I was going online but I am so happy I found it here.
@jamiespig Lovely insight Jamie, and one which I could have written about myself, except for the dressing with my wife, so you can embrace that.
Yes, lots of lovely people and useful advice here with a sprinkling of (acceptable) fun too.
Enjoy!
Valentina
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@jamiespig welcome Jamie, I’m so glad you are here. We absolutely have had similar journeys, but I just wish I’d have had some girls to dress me up to go out. I couldn’t really embrace my femme self until about 2 years ago when I also realized that I’m just a normal gut that likes t be female sometimes and I’m totally attracted to women. I hope you enjoy your time here and stay for a long time and share your experiences and journey with us.
@jamiespig Hello Jamie!! Welcome to this wonderful friendly place… feel free to reach out !! Hugs … Jo
@jamiespig Welcome to CDH, Jamie!
You have full acceptance from your wife and seem to even share clothes, but only privately. Since you also seem to want to dress more often in public, can you adjust your style a bit to dress more often?
You are very lucky that you have a supportive wife, someone that you can share this with. It took many years for me to tell our son. My wife didn't want him to know in case it executed y him in some way. He's an extremely intelligent young man and she was afraid it might effect his education, send him off the rails. When we did didn't tell him, just before he went to university, he just shrugged and said "Oh, OK". From this point on the journey for me coming out completely started. This took a while... A long while. I'm more fully out in the open. No more hiding. No more secrets. I spend 80+% of my time as Cerys these days.
I'm not sure what your goal is, how far you want to go, but having a supportive wife is a massive stepping stone along that path. There will be hurdles, but a supportive wife will help you overcome them. Look after her. She's special!
Cerys
Cerys, my oldest sounds a lot like yours and I'm having a lot of the same considerations. I'll definitely be looking for advice on this topic in the (near) future.
Thank you for a lovely introduction Jamie. It seems you are in a good place with a supportive partner and a clear mind. Yes you have found a very supportive space and am sure you will derive great benefit.
It is never easy but with the help and support of the girls here it should make things easier for you.
There is a group for wives and significant others if you feel your partner may benefit.
Any questions just ask away and enjoy your time here.
@ab123 I'm definitely already devising a benefit. So glad to be here and looking forward to the support I can give and get. Thanks!
Welcome aboard Jamie! You have found one of the best places in the world for a CD or trans woman to hang out with likeminded people. Don't be afraid to ask questions, everyone here is very helpful.
Hi Jamie so nice to meet you and happy you found and joined us girls here so do some looking around and reading the forums and posts from so many ladies here telling there stories about there journeys down the femme road they are on in life.. As a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. When you get comfortable with us please join in with a story or two about the life and times of Jamie as she travels down her own girly path in life.. Now as for making friends here girlfriend there are so many ladies from all over the world to build long lasting friendships with and best of all we are just a simple click away from you .. Once again girlfriend so nice to meet you and hope to see you around for a chat sometime soon.. Stephanie Bass
@fishingr8 Thanks for the warm welcome, Stephanie, I will be sure to keep up when I can with a story or two!
Hi Jamie,
Welcome to CDH. It’s nice to meet you.
Alice
Hi Jamie!
Welcome to CDH!
I think you will find the community helpful, encouraging and supportive.
Again, welcome to CDH!
Catherine
🍒🍒 Hi There ,
Welcome to CDH!, I'm so glad to see you here , !!!
