Hello from Spokane Washington

Kendra welcome to CDH and I think you came to the right place.  There are many of us that have or are going through the same thing as you.  There are many articles and forums to browse as you see fit but I will say from the time I have been here and many other sites that the one thing you have to do is keep communications open.  Listen to her questions and answer what she is asking not what ever you want to have her learn.  It has to be a slow process.  She is in a world wind of emotions and information that does not make sense to her you have been dealing with this information for many many years and have come to some understanding if not a part understanding.  If you do not know and answer be honest with her and take it very slow.  Some woman take months some take years others never can rap their heads around the idea.  As I said there are many girls here that have been through or are going through this process and each are different you will have to see what fits best for the two of you.  My wife accepted it but was not fully on board with it at first.  Now she is trying to reject the concept you will find as you go further she may tend to reject it a little more.  I wish you good luck and drop me a line when you get the chance, I would love to chat.

Sara Marie

Thank you for reaching out. I am amazed at how many have already contacted us! Yes, the wife signed up for the SO section. She is feeling much better about things already! I appreciate your input and, yes, I need to slow down! I know I am like a runaway train when I get it into my mind to do something. Interestingly, just this morning, I realized that I also need to remember to allow myself to be my male self also! I keep turning on and off "Kendra" but not the acknowledging or becoming Ken. Funny little nuance, but seemed light a light bulb going off when I thought about it.

Thanks again for all of you and the support you are giving  us.