Hello from the UK

Sharon, welcome to your new home and group of friends at CDH.  Time to relax and enjoy the person you are, surrounded by some of the greatest and most supportive girls anywhere.  Happy you have found your way here!

Stevie

Welcome to CDH, I hope you find this wonderful place as helpful and friendly as I have!
And wow! I reckon there’s loads of us coming to terms with new realities after the lockdown, some good some not so good. I also only came out to my wife in March this year.
dm anytime if you want to chat

Seraphina or Seren xx

Hi Sharon,

Welcome. I’m in similar situation to you. Thirty years married, but haven’t told wife...yet! Lockdown has made it difficult but  I’ve coped. Happy to chat any time.

Katie x

Hi Sharon,

So happy to welcome you to this amazing place!!! I know you will enjoy your time here at CDH.

Love, Stephanie ❤️

Hi Sharon, welcome. I'm from the UK too. CDH is a great place! I'm sure you'll love it. Tanya.

Hi Sharon,

Welcome, I am also from the U.K. and my story seems similar to yours, I too have felt more feminine, feelings that have grown stronger as I have got older. My wife is aware and we find a way to make it work for us.

I am always happy to chat so please feel free to get in touch.

Jessica x.

Hi Sharon,

Welcome to the friendliest place on Earth.  I'm from the UK but I've been living in the US for the past 15 years.  You'll find so many people here who have been through what you're going through now,  especially in terms of coming out to your spouse.  I hope she can accept this side of you.  Don't be afraid to ask questions.  That's what we're all here for, to support each other.  Make yourself at home.

Diana

Sharon

We certainly love sharing our experiences as much can be learned . Get comfortable and start browsing our wonderful site and explore  more about yourself , open up  your true feelings and discover  where your paths may lead. Meet many of our ladies who love to offer their advice and tips to better your understanding in our love for dressing. very nice meeting and hope to see you here soon. Look forward to your outfit. It is special to have your own..

Stephanie 🌹

Hi, how did your wife react to you comingo ut? How did you do it?

Tina

Welcome - I  from the UK as well but I  a supporting wife so if your wife ever wanted some help or advice or even just to chat we have our own "wives of" area as I know i struggled to find somewhere for wives/partners in the UK when hubby and started this journey together

xx

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Strangely positively.  More concerned for me that I had kept it hidden than for herself.  She has anxiety about it, then talks to me, tells me that she then realises that I am the same person that she married, but is concerned of what other people may think of me.  The first time she saw me in stockings after I told her it turned her on.   She suggested I get my ears pierced.  She has been thinking about trying makeup on me for when we are alone (we currently have our son and his girlfriend in the house 24/7).   Sunday morning I put on a dress and stockings and laid on the bed reading, and she came in, smiled,  and laid alongside me, and she was ok with it.   I think we are going on a journey together now.  I just hope it works out.

Hi Sharon,

Welcome to CDH.

Alice

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Sorry I didn't answer "how I told her"

We both recently read "Grayson Perry, Portrait Of an Artist As a Young Girl" by Wendy Jones.

I almost told here whilst we were talking about that, whilst she was reading it after me.

We were in the kitchen, I was getting emotional and apologising for being stroppy the last few days.

She asked what was going on, did I not love her anymore.

I told her no, it was an internal frustration, and discussed my recent over-grooming (hair removal) and said that was part of something coming out of me.  I then told her I had been secretly crossdressing my whole life, we have been all locked in the house together since February, and I have had no room to express myself.  She asked about my sexuality (do I fancy men when I am like this), whether I want to change gender, why do I do it, how, when, how did she not notice, why I had kept it from her.

I was totally open and honest, some questions I didn't have the answers to, as I hadn't asked them of myself, and gave an answer later after beginning to understand myself.  I told her of my earliest memories, and how I had managed, and apologised for stretching and ruining certain items of her clothes over the years.

Her current anxiety is if I change, now it is out, get too feminine, will I annoy her.  Time will tell.  I don't know how it will effect me, and how that will effect her.  We'll just have to deal with it together.

Hi Sharon

lovely to see you here and love your profile and intro post !

I’m originally a ‘Moonraker’ from Devizes - so another Wiltshire girl - but now live in Cornwall.

Also like you I have not progressed my transition as I am happy with being me and have a very supportive partner !

Yell if you want to chat any time

hugs

Dawn x