Hello I'm Janice. And i've been dressing for nearly 40yrs .

hello and welcome. sorry to hear your wife does not accept your fem side, mine did not either took a long time for her to just let me dress up but as long as she did not see me or the kids see me dressed up. but know wife has seen me all dolled up pretty and daughter has seen me also. plus seen me in a night gown.                           what is it with woman not liking us men dress as females any ways. its just clothing. plus woman wear manly clothing all day. i rarely see woman in dresses or skirts, make up and heels. now days its jeans and a shirt and sneakers                     woman should appreciate us men dressing up as females. woman can see us dress up and see how long it takes to put on a bra and and panties and pad, nylons what color nylons to wear along with the dress or skirt and blouse to match, how to apply eye shadow and lip stick. how to walk with heels on. how much it cost to buy clothing and make up and jewelry.     what it takes to be a female is what i am trying to say.                         i got hooked with a pair of tights in a school play. i am now 54 years old and my X dressing is more dressing up as a female and then male cloths, i wear female panties and pad and bra and dress with my male cloths over them when i go out shopping. nylons most of the time except in summer time. too hot to wear.        i buy my own female stuff and wife knows of it. i have more female stuff then she does. i am a medically retired person so i have the female work to do when wife is at work, so might as well dress like one and be happy. well hope your wife will come around and let you dress up or except your fem side. nice to have you aboard.

Some how I can't see her ever letting me be who I want to be. I would love to dress permanently but she says that she doesn't want Janice in our marriage. I do love her but Janice is such a big part ofy life that I can't let her go. The kids don't know about it at all but know things aren't right between us. It not only her I find are so closed minded. My wider family are also like her though they don't know, well some might have suspicions, nothing concrete.

Hello Janice and welcome to CDH. I am saddened that your wife doesn't tolerate your dress desires. I have spent years trying to understand why a lot of women are this way and have made much progress in this area, I do get people especially annoyed with me when I let bits and pieces of info into the public realm. Basically, girls are raised by women who raised them the way their mother did. Old traditions die hard and the young are pre-wired mentally about how things should be. Also, far too many media outlets and industries heavily reinforce these ideas. Have you thought about what you would think, if your wife decided to transgender to a male?? What kind of doubts would be raised in your mind? Most women are raised to be little girls who look for someone to provide everything for them and look after them till they die or find someone better. Males do it do but usually for wealthier, better looking or sexier models.  Once married....as time goes by, both of you change in attitudes and desires and quite often you both wind up being completely incompatible with each other. They say that before you marry you should really study parents, aunt and uncles and grandparents, if alive.  Your bride will become close to their mannerisms....could you tolerate them all day long?? Anyhow, I wish you well and hope you both can come to some sort of arrangement that sees the family unit stay together amicably. Feel free to contact me if you wish to discuss further. I won't tell you what to do just suggest things you might think about. Or, if you think that I am full of do-do, let me know too....it's not the first time I've heard it...........sometimes I think they may be right. Women are truly enigmas wrapped up in conundrums! Be careful.....I have been told women ask questions to trick men into confessing things and then take the opposite side and go on you. Good luck....hope to hear how you make out. Hope I gave you some understanding.

Lady Veronica

Hello Janice and welcome To CDH ! sorry to hear all this! There alot pf us girls in the same Boat. I have been dressing on and off most of my life but for the last 10yrs I have begun to dress more and more due to the feelings. You will find alot of understanding ladies here tyo chat with and share with.
Hugs ,
Stacey s - Ps hang in there !

Hi and welcome!

I am a transgender lady would be glad to help at any time.

Hi Janice,

I have been crossdressing for well over 50 years,since I first put on mum's girdles and bras etc.couldn,t understand the feelings I got when doing this,but all I knew is it felt "so good"

I continued to dress into my teens,and into my 20's. At 27 I met someone who I married,and had 6 lovely children with.My biggest regret is not telling my THEN  girlfriend that I  crossdressed. I was married to her for 28 years,until one day my wife found some of my female clothes in my guitar case.

She came downstairs and tipped them out in front of me on the table,I  couldn,t deny it.Anyway subsequently we ended up getting a divorce.It must have hurt her deeply.

Although in my eye's I was doing nothing wrong she couldn,t accept the fact that I was dressing up as a woman.She saw video's of me dressed and maybe could not accept that I looked so good as a female(I am totally passable) maybe....it challenged her sexuality.

I can not imagine how it made her feel,but to her credit she kept my secret,we have 6 lovely children together,and we are still friends.

Maybe you should tell you wife.

to see my pics just google Shannon5358

Shannon

Hi Janice and welcome to CDH. This is a wonderful place to explore those feminine feelings. The girls are fantastic and often eager to help you with advice and encouragement. I've been crossdressing since my early teens some 40 years ago and have been going out fully dressed on a regular basis for the last five years, mainly on business trips but also in my hometown and on the commuter bus to work. My wife is aware that I do crossdress, but don't know the full extent of it. She accepts my need to be Marianne but don't want to see me dressed. The children are pretty cool with it, and  my eldest son admits he sometimes makes a double take before realising it's me.

I sure hope it will work out between the two of you.  You're welcome to contact me anytime.

Hi Janice,

Welcome, so very nice to meet you!!!! I just got back from Florida and have a a lot of catching up to do. So sorry to here about your wife not accepting who you are. You will just love it here. A lot of great ladies with awesome advice to share!! Enjoy!!!

Love and hugs,

Lanna <3

Hi Janice and welcome to CDH.

Many of us have the same problem with our loved ones.  My wife is fairly accepting to my crossdressing but prefer not to see me dressed, so I mainly dress on my frequent business trips or then my wife is away from home.

Like yourself, I've been crossdressing for about 40 years and regularly gone out fully dressed for the last five years. Please feel free to contact me anytime.