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Hello everyone, I'm Nora.
It still feels a bit unusual to write this, because I named myself only two weeks ago.
Until this month I had only worn ladies underwear.
This started when I was around 13 years old.
I had never read anything about crossdressing until after the first time I was fully dressed as a woman, which was on April 7 2024.
Until then I only acted on what I felt was right.
I never tried nor did I feel the need to find out more about the longing to feel and look like a woman.
I'm sure part of the reason was also feeling ashamed.
End of 2023 I came into contact with a woman who, as she says herself, helps people discover themselves.
This was first about being submissive, I did not dare to tell her about crossdressing.
But when I finally did tell her, she understood how important this was to me, I think even more than I did.
The next time we met she had bought me a dress, a wig and stockings.
I put on just the dress and looked at myself in mirror.
I just stared and said nothing. I felt very vulnerable.
She knew we should not go further than this and just gave me a big long hug.
The next time we met, she had told me to bring make-up and shoes.
She told me this 2 hours before we were supposed to meet, so I was forced to focus on getting it and not worry about anything else.
Surprisingly I managed to buy size 16 heels in under 60 minutes and could have won an oscar for playing a helpless dad getting make-up for his teenage daughter.
I carefully put on the stockings, the dress, the wig, the shoes and the make-up.
I took my time, I was really enjoying this first time experience of transforming myself.
When I was done, I looked in the mirror and there I was, a beautiful woman.
I can't describe what I felt other than that it was emotional to see myself like this.
The next two days I was a mess.
I was overwhelmed by what I had seen and experienced.
I could not concentrate at work and I cried a lot.
I barely managed to keep it hidden from everyone.
Then, just after dinner, I could no longer keep it to myself and during an emotional peak, I told my wife and son.
My wife was mad at first, mainly because I had included our 15 year old son in my coming out.
And I agree, I should have told just her first.
I let my emotions get the best of me.
My son said he was proud I told.
He is transgender, on a waiting list to start his transition.
He knows a bit what I was going through.
After my wife's anger subsided, we managed to have a reasonable talk.
The day after she hugged me and said we would figure it out together.
And that is where I am today, a guy in his fifties who just told his wife he is a crossdresser and is now discovering what that means.
Hello, Nora, you have definitely come to the right place. Please take your time to explore the forums and our profiles, you'll see how warm, friendly and supportive everyone is.
You will also find stories very similar to yours, along with the feelings of shame and guilt that have plagued us all at one time. However, now that you've joined this family of like-minded people, you are free to discover what crossdressing means to you in complete safety.
I joined just a few months ago and this place, more specifically the people I've met here, have changed my life so much for the better. I thought for a long time that I was alone and/or wrong for crossdressing and searching online for information threw up a lot of unsavoury websites, which only served to make me feel even worse about myself.
Now though, far from feeling alone, I really feel part of a family of genuinely caring people.
I also think now that our enjoyment of expressing our feminine sides can be considered a gift, all men have feminine aspects but most deny and bury them. In my case, I feel more complete now.
Anything you want to know, just ask, you'll get all the help you need.
Welcome to the family!
Allie
Hello Nora welcome to CDH I am glad you have shared your experience of who you are not knowing where it might lead. Having found us you have made the step to become part of a family that is welcoming, understanding, compassionate, and supportive. While we are all similar and have many of the same desires we all differ on our goals or levels of crossdressing whether it is closeted dressing or underdressing or being dressed for public expression and or personal experiences. I encourage you to explore the many forums, topics, polls and member biographies found here as there are a wide range of members all over the spectrum of feminine expression from differing levels of crossdressing to those on the path to transition and those that have. There are also links to websites that have products and services that may help you on your own personal path of self acceptance and expression. Ultimately it is a place, home, or space were you can feel feel comfortable and confident in who you are that you are not alone and this is a place where you can feel safe to express and share part of yourself as being who you truly are as your authentic self of you being a man, a woman, a man who dresses as a woman, if it makes you a better complete human being expressing your feminine desires feelings and or qualities. I am happy you are here and have made a choice to accept this part of yourself as self acceptance is the most important thing you can do for yourself and others. You can’t expect others to accept you if you don’t accept yourself all of you. For some it means remaining private for some telling a select few ultimately you have to do whats best for your own situation and you ultimately know best. I appreciate you are sharing a part of your authentic self here on CDH it ultimately lifts some of the burden that you may be feeling which many of us have carried for what seems like a lifetime you are not alone. Being here helps not only yourself but helps others gain acceptance and confidence in themselves. I am happy you have made the step to be here. Welcome!
Hugs April
@noralisa we have all been in situations the same or similar to you. So much on the plate at first . Sorting out the relationship with your wife is first priority. Take it slow, find mutual comfort levels. Remember you have support and caring here.
@noralisa Welcome aboard the good ship CDH 🙂
I can relate to so much of the wonderful story you wrote here - thank you for putting it all down in words. I'm in a very similar situation to you, I just came out to my family as bi-gender over Easter, having really connected with my inner girl since the start of the year, thanks in no small part to the warmth, support and encouragement of the sisterhood here 🙂
You are absolutely in the right place to get information, advice, support, or simply to have someone there to listen, if you need to speak even your innermost thoughts in order to find your right mind.
I look forward to getting to know you better through posts and chats - again, welcome, and please do dive right in!
Hugs,
Fiona xxx
Hi Nora, welcome to CDH.
Thank you for sharing your remarkable story. I'm sure a lot of girls here would be very envious of your shopping skills. I've been a crossdresser for over 40 years, and I still find I have to summon up the courage just to browse the ladies' clothing, never mind buy them! The woman who helped you discover yourself must have been very persuasive. I'm glad your wife seems to be supportive, despite the initial shock your revelation must have been for her. Some here are not so fortunate in that respect, as you may discover.
Anyway, make yourself at home here, in a safe environment where crossdresser and trans members can share experiences safely and with empathy.
@noralisa Great Introduction thank you for sharing. I was just reading this topic in the forums and your story sounds like it fits the subject matter. https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/community/crossdresser-transgender-chat/does-crossdressing-run-in-the-family/ Goes to show no matter what we run into there is a good chance someone here knows a thing or two about it. Welcome . Have a great day RC.
@noralisa Welcome to CDH, Nora Lisa!
Your journey has just begun, so I hope you include us in it, too.
Nora, welcome to a great group. Question, did you stay in touch with the person, that helped you find, your inter self.
Hugs
Lynne
@lillie yes, ever since I met her she asked me to email her daily and write about my day and my thoughts and feelings. I still do. She is my diary. It helps me to not keep everything to myself.
I have really connected with her, not in a romantic way.
I told my wife about her because I wanted no more secrets. She was happy I had someone to talk to about my crossdressing. I was so happy she said that. I hope they will meet someday.
Thank you for sharing Nora!
I share part of your story but I still haven’t dared to come out. 🙁
@danielaafd I hope someday you will be able to, it’s liberating in many ways.
Within a short space of time you have overcome many issues with a C.D. coming out, something which can take others years and sometimes not at all. I am happy that you have come to terms with yourself and have a supportive partner and son. Life is full of surprises and happy to read of your good ones. I hope all settles and Nora with your family has a great future.
Angela.
Hello Nora,
Welcome to this wonderful community! You will find many girls here in very similar situations to your own. There are more than a few of us who discovered this side of ourselves later in life.
It’s good to meet you,
Lara
Hi Nora,
Welcome to CDH. You are indeed very fortunate to have a supportive son and an understanding and supportive wife.
Alice
Hi Nora nice to meet you and happy you found and joined us girls here so do some looking around and some reading of the forums and posts with a few profiles thrown in for fun.. Now as a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. Thank you for wonderful intro and congrats on letting your son and wife in on your little secret and got acceptance from them both as many ladies here have accepting wife's my self included its so much easier on your girly heart .. I came out to my wife just after we were married and she was supportive and that's been 41 years now .. If you or your wife would be interested there is a group here for natural women to be able to ask others like themselves all the questions they want answers to its called ( for Wife's and Significant Others ) just a thought if interested Have fun girlfriend and say hello sometime..
Stephanie Bass
@fishingr8 thank you for the suggestion. At the moment I think she is not ready for that yet, but maybe someday ❤️
Dear all,
Thank you all for welcoming me.
It feels unreal to share my story with kindred spirits.
It’s like I’m a princess in a castle who has been in her room for 40 years and is now exploring the castle to discover a lot of other princesses.
But it is overwhelming, where to start?
I have read the My husband Betty, which is both reassuring as well as frightening, but nonetheless realistic I guess (as far as I can assess that at the moment with my limited experience).
I gave my wife a copy of the book for her to read.
She thankfully accepted the book.
My coming out was not a complete shock for her.
Over the past 20 years that we have been married she discovered my underwear twice, but silently let it go.
She never saw me dressed in them. I wonder what it would be like to show myself to her fully dressed. I have no urge to do so, but I am curious.
Since I have been fully dressed I have started at looking at what women around me are wearing and whether or not I would like to wear that myself.
How did you decide what to wear?
Love, Nora
How did you decide what to wear?
I looked at the GG's all around me and decided I didn't want to wear what most of them do - slouchy sweater tops, slouchy leggings, hoodies .... why girls, WHY? (OK, I'd love to wear the yoga pants but I'd need a seriously feminine backside to pull that off properly and I'm not sure the padded enhancer shorts I've got are up to the job 😉 ) No, I like to feel more feminine than that in the clothes I wear, otherwise it's just like drab clothes again over the extra layers of padding for a femme shape. So it's dresses and skirts for me, sometimes with ¾-leggings underneath the shorter ones. So I have bought various casual, everyday dresses but with a few exceptions, and I'm sure there'll be some more occasion pieces creeping into my wardrobe before long. I still go with flat-soled shoes though due to my height at 1.8m plus. Not many GG's of that height in the UK, although I guess that might be quite common in the Netherlands?
@finallyfiona I’m 1.93m, even for Dutch standards that’s tall for a woman.
I love to see women wearing hoodies by the way 😊 but not to wear them myself as Nora, but I do as my male self. Confusing 🫤
Hi Nora and welcome!
Hi Nora.
Welcome to CDH. Thanks for share your story.
Deep down our souls, we all take similar steps no matter what journey we choose to follow. Along the way we decide our own destination.
Gisela
Just wanted to add this is an amazing community.
I have read and learned quite a bit already in such a short time.
❤️❤️❤️
Hi Nora!
Welcome to CDH!
I think you will find the community helpful, encouraging and supportive.
As someone have said, you will find many share some of what you have been through, some for each of us is part of our personal journey.
However, everyone supports everyone here!
Me, I dabbled as a CD, then two years ago, went all in privately and have just loved it.
So, one never knows where the journey may go.
Again, welcome to CDH!
Catherine
