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Welcome Kellie

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So many questions....

My husband is a secret cross dresser, I have tried everything to get him to talk to me for years now. He still hides the majority of the time.

He is away at the mo with work so I messaged and asked if I can wash the contents of his chest of drawers and he agreed.. he has so many ladies underwear items and dresses and some random outfits.

I just want him to be honest with me and happy, he is generally a very angry person and I wondered if this was fuelling it?

How can I get him to talk to me???

Hi Kellie,

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Alice

Hello, Kellie, the people on here are super friendly, I am sure you'll find several people who would love to listen. Everyone opens up at it at their own time, I don't know your husband, but just letting him take his time and you being there for him will probably go a long way. There's no magic wand solution unfortunately, some people struggle with this side of themselves for years and having someone kind and understanding is such a shock to their system they don't process it well, expecting a trick or a joke or the other shoe to fall.

Best advice is to treat it like every other interaction with someone you love, sit down with them, let them know you are here for them, and let them handle the rest.

If you need an opening, I've heard several people suggest things like pick out a movie with a crossdressing character or try and tie another one of your shared hobbies into it, so it's not just about him dressing. Take it easy, slowly and give them time.

Hi Kellie

Welcome to the site. Hope you have fun exploring. A great place to share things you may not be able to with family or friends.

❤️B

Kellie

Nice meeting you. Your a very special spouse and your partner is so fortunate. This is certainly the place you’ll find many of the answers you are seeking .There are certainly many happy stories about couples discovering this unique relationship but  unfortunately many don’t.
This is certainly the place you’ll find many of the answers you are seeking. Only a short while ago that I opened up to my wife after 40 years of marriage. It was a huge surprise for her and certainly very emotional. We had many talks and through this agreements and guidelines were set and together were slowly working it out. But Cdh and it’s resources helped my wife and myself understand more about our individual troubles. There is a place where many GG gals like yourself could receive the help and support to get the answers your wanted to know.
A special group for you special gg ladies to I’m sure will help you  ( wives & significant others )
https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/groups/wives-and-significant-others /
where ladies like yourself can offer their help to questions only you would like to ask them. Our gg ambassador to the group will be very happy to enroll you there. .
There is a procedure to identify the person enrolling and may a little time.
Theses ladies are awesome and will support you in every way.  No one is left out,  that ‘s what makes this such a wonderful place to belong. Best to you and hope to hear from you soon. As an ambassador and a cder, if you need anything please be free to PM me, I may not be able to answer your most personal questions but possibly give some hindsights to what your spouse is going through. The best to you both on this journey ahead…
Stephanie 🌹 🌹

Sorry to hear of your SO being the way he is.  He is likely both very scared and maybe disgusted with himself at his desires which he likely doesn't understand himself.  All you can do is try to reassure him you love him and want to help in any way you can.   Best of luck to the both of you!!!

Kellie, Teralynn here, Just a quick note to assure you that you have a made a wise choice in joining us since you are in serious need of people to talk to about your situation! I will send you a more detailed welcoming post later on when I have more time but for now I hope you have a lot of time to spend on the site because soon you will have all kinds of wonderful people to talk to and most will offer you a shoulder to cry on if you need one! More later. - Blessings from Teralynn

Hi, Kellie. Welcome. You're among friends.

Welcome to CDH 👋

I hope you find this wonderful place as helpful and friendly as I have 💚👗🦄

seren xx

Hi Kellie,

Welcome to CDH. Getting someone to open up can be extremely difficult. I'm glad you found CDH because there is so much support and information here for spouses. In general,  you can talk to just about anyone here and we would all gladly lend you advice and support but I think that your best course of action is to follow the advice of Stephanie Flowers and get with the Wives and Significant Others group. I believe you will get the most help from those like yourself who have already gone through what you are currently going through. I am a closeted CD and if you want any advice from my personal point of view I am always willing to help, just send me a private message. I hope it all works out for you.

Hugs

Autumn