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well, what do I say, and how do I say it?
this is my first time ever going public, well at least in the cyber world, about announcing that I guess I’m a cross dresser??
im 45 who lives with his girlfriend, but over the last 10 years, I feel like my thoughts, interests, and desires has been more and more focused on the idea of cross dressing. Why?
I don’t know if I would enjoy to go out in public dressed as a woman, but then again, maybe that’s just a confidence issue about the way I look. Because I would not look anywhere near feminine, maybe that’s why it’s hard to imagine it?
so far, in wonder if it’s purely a sexual fetish. When given the chance to travel on my own, I absolutely love to buy and try on different kinds of hosiery and lingerie, and I’ve even bought my very first pair of heels last year, which made me feel so excited and I was in awe how beautiful the shape of my legs looked.
but anyways, as much as I love women’s clothes, and am becoming more adventurous, i find it very hard or even non-existent on the idea of being with a man, either emotionally or sexually. But then again, maybe it’s all because of the way I think I look, and I doubt I would look like a natural woman.
anayways. That’s where I’m at currently, ladies. Confused, unsure, but i do know that i have some intense desire to dress more and more like a lady. on my next trip, I would like to try a wig and makeup, as well as some fake breasts, and even try to learn how to tuck. Btw, if you have any tucking tips and stories to share, please do so.
Thank you for taking the time to read about me, and I look forward to learning more from all you beautiful ladies in the world!
bri
I understand and am right there with you Bri. In the short time I have been in this group, you will see your confidence grow. One step at a time.
Thanks Ashlyn!
Bri I enjoyed reading your intro thankyou for sharing..
welcome, never feel confused about who you feel you’ll wanted to be here with us all. Many here are in the same way and have in time learned that there’s nothing to be worry about. The girls here are wonderful in making one feel most comfortable and welcome. The support is always felt and help to better understand and deal with this amazing time. Chat with and with some make beautiful friendships. Much information on everything to help guide you through many of the challenges we face exploring our love of dressing. Your not alone and here express yourself with pride and confinance to explore further in this wonderful world. Happy to meet you and hope to see you around here soon. Hugs!
Stephanie 🌹
Hello Bri welcome to CDH big hugs sometimes feel confused too nothing wrong with that all natural Just be self and don't pay attention to the ones trying to bring you down
Donna
Hi Bri, welcome. Nothing wrong with feeling confused. We've all been there. You'll find plenty of support and tips here.
Lots of different ways to tuck and it's not nearly as uncomfortable as you might think. Easiest way is to invest in a gaff. I've also used a lady's body-shaper and tucked myself so it looked like I had camel toe in my leggings.
Xoxo, Dani
Bri, as you can see from the responses you are in the right place and not alone in your feelings. I too am new to all this, less than a year dressing. A pair of stilettos was my gateway drug. Now I'm hooked. I went through the fetish thing but like you, totally hetero. For me, when I let go and accepted that I have a stronger femme side than most males and that's ok, then the fetish side went away. Now I just want to dress up, and get as girlie as possible. You might see that reflected in my responses to forum posts. Even if I'm dressed in drab at the time (although I likely at least have panties on under my boy jeans) mentally I go total girl. 👗👠💄 Maybe a little over the top sometimes, but I love the freedom. I've only been here a couple week but so for I've seen no judgement. Differences of opinion, sure, but not judgement. So settle in, make friends, take it one day at a time and enjoy the journey! Look for my friend request and feel free to message me.
💖Lola
Hi Bri, welcome to the CDH family. You've found the right place to explore your gender and find answers honey. The gals angels on the site are amazing. Confusion is a common in the community. From what I've seen why isn't as important as accepting yourself. If you over think things you'll drive yourself crazy, just be and try and accept what Bri has to to tell you. She will challenge you the more you accept her, just remember to have fun.
Love Trisha
Trisha, thank you so much for the kind words!
Thank you so much for the kind words! I get you and the aspect of being attracted to males. there has always been that mental struggle and wonder if i was "gay" considering i have this thing for dressing up as a woman, but in my history, i was not sexually stimulated or fixated on males, until i discovered transgendered porn, and then i was very aroused and interested in these "chicks with d*cks." But even to this day, no matter how many times i've tried to, I just don't find much arousal of actual gay porn.
ANYWAYS. the mysteries of our minds and interests. like you, who knows - if i accept my CD side more, maybe i will see the world, and men differently as well.
and i bet you looked heavenly with your stilettos! yes, something about a pair of heels that just bring out that extra form of our legs....the first time i wore some last year has definitely sparked a drive for me to go farther with this interest. where it will take me, i don't know....
thanks sister! i've been looking into this gaff thing - is there a particular brand that any of you might recommend? i was hoping to find some actual instructional video of how to tuck, but it seems that doesn't exist.
Also, do yo uknow how long one can tuck without any dangers, if there are any?
just looking into tucking, i had no idea that the balls can even go up into the body that far high! the crazy things we learn about our bodies over the years...
thank you so much for the kind words! i imagine that i will probably always have some level of confusion about myself, but i hope that me finally proactively looking to learn more about myself and this CD side of me will help me feel better about myself in the long run!
Stephanie, thank you as well as all the other ladies for such a warm welcome! So far, this forum has been amazing so far. i'm actually wondering what the paid membership is like - are most of you a paid member? is the activity level and amount of people interacting a lot more on the paid side?
the one curiosity...and concern, is about submitting payment - does that somehow come up on my CC statement as "Crossdresser Heaven"?
for the time being, i'd like to keep my CD endeavors at a secret so any kind of paper trail would worry me.
Don't know where it will take me either. I'm just along for the ride and enjoying it.🤣
💖Lola
