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Hello! Returning to CD life

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Hi everyone!

I'm Lexi. Just typing that seems odd to me. I thought I had banished that part of me...

I had a few outfits, makeup and red heels to die for but last summer I got rid of the lot. I'm bi, but want a relationship with a woman. For some reason I thought Lexi had to leave for me to be successful on that front. But I miss her! And I'm no happier or closer to a meaningful relationship. :-/

I've got a list of clothes, shoes and accessories on a shopping site ready to buy, but can't bring myself to go through with it just yet. I live on my own, so I have a lot of freedom. I'm pretty anonymous in my neighbourhood and I even went out dressed a few times (albeit in the dark). But I am scared - I have a friend who comes round quite a lot and I'm terrified of him finding out. I'm also torn about the social side - the options I've looked at, dating sites, LGBTQ clubs etc, all appeal to me but terrify me at the same time.

I'd appreciate any advice you lovely people have.

L xx

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(@jenna-az)
Estimable Member     Prescott, Arizona, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

It's pretty normal to come back to dressing.  I've been on and off many times.  Your on your own so live the life that feels good to you.  Personally I wish I could have transitioned when I was young and have regretted not doing so.  If you really like being feminine and feel you would be happy as a woman go for it.

If you pretty friendly with the person that come around often, maybe he has the same interests as you do.  Try asking him his interests discretely.  You might be surprised.

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Hi Lexi, your story is similar to mine and many others I'm sure. I have dressed on & off for many years. I give it up when I'm in a relationship and go back to it when the relationship ends. I would love to find a woman who is accepting of my desire to dress up as a woman. Best wishes in your journey. Hugs, Mishael

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(@dlgeb275)
Noble Member     niagara falls, ny., New York, United States of America
Joined: 9 years ago

Hi Lexi  nice to meet you and welcome to this growing group C.D.H. i was also on and off on dressing up. later in years it came back and never left it grew more and more on me where now i except my fem side.  wife knows and lets me dress up but when 2 adult kids are not home. i have more female attire then she does. i wear dresses and nylons and make up and perfume more then she does. i am a medically retired 50 year old wife works so i play the wife and do the house work so i dress up and be the female of the house when i can.

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(@rose)
Illustrious Member     Peterborough , Ontario, Canada
Joined: 7 years ago

Lexi   welcome,  it's a passion that never goes a way .Society  at times shelves our desires and thoughts of expressing ones self are at times  ignored because of social comittments. But one thing that's there is the urge to follow our feelings and when involves emotions it truly hard to fight. Here you can express your needs and desires among many here who understand and support you in your feelings. Here at cdh the answers your looking for will be available to you in our readings and many of our ladies here.  So relax,  kick off those heels and enjoy your stay with us. Very happy to meet you and hope to see you here. 🌹

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(@cyberian2)
Noble Member     Elliot Lake, Ontario, Canada
Joined: 7 years ago

Hi Lexi and welcome to CDH. To dress or not to dress....that is the question. Well, we do what we must do. Be very careful with these clubs....a lot of them can be quite nasty. Most of them have unique "pecking orders". I do hope everything works out for you as to finding a partner/friend. If I can be of help with any questions, do let me know.

Lady Veronica

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(@elisemichelle)
Reputable Member     Ft Lauderdale , Florida, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

Welcome Lexi:

Similar story here. Been through the cycle of binge, guilt, purge, too many times to count. I tried everything to smother the urge. Got married twice, grew a beard, gained weight so I wouldn't feel sexy, took anti-depressants, drank, etc. And all of them are gone (except the alcohol and too much of the weight), but I still feel compelled to dress. I've recently decided to just embrace it. I can't come out of the closet for personal and professional reasons, but I can't deny who I am either. It hurts nobody else and makes me feel complete. So why not?

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Thank you all so much! I knew there were people going through the same/similar thing to me but it helps a lot to get some certainty. After reading these replies I took a deep breath, dusted off my credit card and have ordered some new things. They'll take a while to get here but Ill be sure to post an update when Lexi is fully back.

Love to you all and thak you again 😀 xxx

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(@sandy-cd)
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Hi Lexi.  I think that many of us go through on/off cycles of dressing.  I certainly have.  But from everything I have read and experienced it never goes away permanently.  As a closet girl myself, I understand your fears about discovery, but I hope you can accept and embrace Lexi because she will always be there.  We are all here at CDH to help and support each other.  I'm a new member too, but the girls here are so kind and supportive.  I hope you'll find a home here and I look forward to chatting with you.

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