Hello to all! Happy to have found this place

@caughtcrossing 

Hey Ryan,

Welcome to CDH!  I'm glad we got your membership 'issue' straightened out.

There are a lot of girls here that can relate to what you are experiencing.  Our community is kind and welcoming.  It won't take long for you to get more responses.  You did good to reach out.

CDH is an amazing place.  I think you'll like it here.

Liz K

@caughtcrossing Welcome to CDH!

@caughtcrossing 

Hi Ryan

Welcome to CDH 🙂

I'm glad you've found us. We're a large and diverse community and the girls here are exceptionally warm and welcoming. You also need to know that this is a very safe space. Feel free to chat with us at any time. There will always be someone on hand to chat or offer support and advice when you need it.

There's lots to explore. If you need any help while doing that, don't be afraid to ask!

One other thing ... you may have noticed that most of the members adopt a female name on the site (in my case, since I'm trans, 'Ellie' is what I call myself in real life as well 🙂 ). If you'd like to change your name ... and you don't have to! ... let me know and I can show you how to do that 🙂

Ellie x

@caughtcrossing  Hello Ryan. I welcome you to the community. I understand about your wife's reaction. Mine is not thrilled and we've been married 29 years. My CD life is part-time. When I met Met my future wife I thought my  CD life was over so I didn't bring it up.well. as you will see as life goes on and once you're a CD I believe you're always a CD. My wife resents me because I didn't mention it. We are raising 2 grandchildren  age 10 and 13. Now that I've found this community. I no longer have to talk to my wife about me being a CD. That eases the tension tremendously.  Again, welcome.  Jennifer 

@caughtcrossing Sorry that your wife is having a tough time with all this. there is a group  here for SOs that may have alot of support for her. maybe chatting with some of the other SOs,  My wife is supportive but I still generally keep to myself. I sincerely hope everything works out for you.  Welcome to the community.  RC

@caughtcrossing 

Hi, Rya, thanks for your introduction, as you have already seen, your situation is by no means, unique. I hope you can take some comfort from this.

You have indeed found a safe place to explore your feelings and to find out more about this wonderful thing we do. I say wonderful because, although it can cause problems in our important relationships, if discovered, recognising and accepting our whole selves is amazingly liberating.

I have said before that few, if any of us, are 100% male or 100% female. We all have aspects, to a greater or lesser degree, of both in our personalities. To embrace and express both aspects instead of denying and suppressing them, takes some courage but is so rewarding.

You'll see that we are indeed a diverse community, from those who rarely if ever get the chance to dress as they would wish, to others who are or have transitioned, and everything between. This also goes for if and how we share our crossdressing with our partners, some simply cannot while others have found support and encouragement. It is one of the biggest decisions we can make, to tell our loved ones and it's no less of an impact on them. Some take time to process and others just leave. It's a huge risk.

@emmat  puts it very well in another topic post when she says, 

My ongoing logic for the way forward is that it's taken forever and a day to work this decision through in my head. The least I can do is to give them some time to get their own heads around it. 

Whatever decisions you make and whatever happens, know that you have a family here who will accept and support you through it all.

Know too, that we all hope things do work out for you so keep posting and just ask if you have any questions or need help with anything, we'll gladly do what we can.

Allie x

@caughtcrossing Hey Rya (what a beautiful name and a great profile photo by the way), welcome to CDH.  I am sure you will find what you are looking for on this site…and so much more.  The girls here are fun, informed and supportive.  

When my wife discovered my dressing, she too was shocked and upset and worried.  The biggest concern was actually why I had lied to her and were there any other secrets I was keeping from her.  It took time, and lots of honesty and reassurance to get things right.  Now I enjoy being Christine with my wife and she is fully supportive.  You should note there is a section on this site for the wives and SOs of us girls and you may want to let your wife know about that.

Hope you enjoy CDH.  Hope to chat sometimes.  Hugs Christine

@caughtcrossing thanks for sharing. I think many of us can relate to your experiences. I know I can

@indiexplore Hi Anadini! Happy to meet another newbie. HMU whenever 🙂