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I've been suppressing myself for about 50 years. My wife and I have been together for 33 years and I shared early with her about my tendencies with underwear, which she was/is receptive of. Over all that time I would buy underwear and purge after a while and repeat. This was up until a few years ago and I started a job that was about empowering people. I started wearing underwear daily. Around October of last year I really stopped being oppressive and started exploring more of my feminine side. I did this slowly as it was more than I had ever done previously. I think too, it took a little time for my wife to recognize what all was happening, before she wasn't thinking anything of it. In the last month I've come out to my mother, brother, and our son/daughter, and each has been very supportive. I love doing my nails, toes and fingers, lipstick, and I've been wearing bra's now and feel odd when not wearing one. I am definitely adventuring out more with my toes/fingers, wearing the bra with a shirt so it's a bit concealing, still always the underwear. I wear girl clothes all the time while we're home including nighties. I am very at peace with myself.
Sincerely, Ruth
Hi Ruth
What a good introduction - it's great that you yourself turned out to be one of the very people you empowered!
Although, unlike you, I'm single at the moment I have also very recently come out to my Mother and one of my sisters (with very happy outcomes in both cases) so I know how liberating it can be. Like you I dress full time at home and always underdress for work; I wear clear nail varnish every day and am actively growing my hair out, so it seems that we are both 'exploring our feminine sides'.
You're going to find this a very welcoming, supportive and friendly site 🙂
Welcome aboard!
Hugs
Ellie x
Thanks Ellie,
It was uplifting sharing this and not hiding. When I visited my mom, I showed her a few pictures of me. She asked me why I was getting ready for Halloween, no mom, this is me, it's not Halloween. Once I had come out to her, I shared it with our daughter as I had been dressing during the day and changing to sweat pants/t-shirt before she got home. Now, its another day, she's very open/receptive to things. Her response, you be you, I am not judging. Couldn't ask for anything more really.
Welcome! Absolutely nothing to hide or be reluctant to share. We collectively have had every fear, hope, dream , and feeling you have. We are in many ways closer than blood sisters. We are here to listen and to support. That was really cool what your mother said, must have been nerve racking. Remember your wife is also your best friend and you need to thank her for her tolerance and show her your love daily. Life is so much better when they are with you not against you.
Ruth, honestly, I couldn’t be happier for you. You have crossed so many hurdles that many of us fear. Your experiences are both encouraging and inspiring!
Your story brings out the hearts of desire that is in all of us to be excepted as the woman we are so ready to be. I am so proud of you.
my mother has since passed. She would be surprised, and maybe not so surprised if she knew. All I know she does know. In the Bible, the book of Hebrews chapter 12, suggest that we are surrounded by a host of Angels encouraging us on. Maybe my mother is one of those. I still have my sister and we are close. If I were to share this with anyone else, it would be her. My wife would never understand, but might not be surprised after finding some of my things over the years here in there.
Welcome to the community and to our family. I hope you will continue to share your story and reach out and be friends with all you can. I am looking forward to hearing more of your journey and hope that some of it soon will mirror mine.
You are welcome to share some of those “Halloween” pictures (your mother’s words) with us
M
Hi Ruth
Glad to here that you are getting comfortable with who you are. It is a wonderful journey, hope you enjoy every minute of it.
Hi and thanks Lorraine,
I think the world of my wife and am madly in love with her. I have tremendous respect for her. As I've said to her in the past, she didn't sign up for this as she is a traditional person with an open mind. I love taking care of her, cooking all the time, house chores, laundry, open/close doors for her, drop her at the store door, especially if it's bad weather. Cheers.
Welcome to CDH Ruth!
Hi Ruth,
Welcome to CDH.
Alice
Hello Ruth welcome to CDH I am glad you have shared a part of who you are. Having found us you have made the step to become part of a family that is welcoming, understanding, compassionate, and supportive. While we are all similar and have many of the same desires we all differ on our goals or level of public expression and or personal experiences. I encourage you to explore the many forums, topics, polls and member biographies found here as there are a wide range of members all over the spectrum of feminine expression from differing levels of crossdressing to those on the path to transition and those that have. There are also links to websites that have products and services that may help you on your own personal path of self acceptance and expression. Ultimately it is a place, home, or space were you can feel feel comfortable and confident in who you are that you are not alone and this is a place where you can feel safe to express and share part of yourself as being who you truly are as your authentic self of you being a man, a woman, a man who dresses as a woman, if it makes you a better complete human being expressing your feminine desires feelings and or qualities. I am happy you are here and have made a choice to accept this part of yourself as self acceptance is the most important thing you can do for yourself and others. You can’t expect others to accept you if you don’t accept yourself all of you. As you are sharing a part of your authentic self here on CDH it ultimately lifts some of the burden that you may be feeling which many of us have carried for what seems like a lifetime you are not alone. Being here helps not only yourself but helps others gain acceptance and confidence. I so glad that you are happy with who you are. I am happy you have made the step to be here. Welcome!
Hugs April
Hi Ruth nice to meet you and so happy you found and joined us girls here so get settled in relax and enjoy yourself here.. Now as a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. Ok girlfriend there is a wealth of knowledge here to access and learn from so look around and ask many questions of these wonderful ladies here telling there stories about there journeys down the femme road they are on.. Now as you get comfortable with us please join in with a story or two about the life and times of Ruth as she travels down her own girly path in life.. Now as for making friends here there are so many ladies from all over the world to build long lasting friendships with and best of all we are just a simple click away from you .. So again girlfriend nice to meet you and hope to see you around for a chat sometime soon..
Stephanie Bass
Hi Ruth!
Welcome to CDH!
A supportive, caring, encouraging and helpful community!
I am a private dresser and have found CDH to be the place I can be Catherine.
Great introduction!
Catherine
