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Hi Kell,

Welcome to CDH.  There is a forum just for wives and significant others.  Be sure to check it out.

Alice

Hey Kell

I'm single and so can't really contribute to the discussion!

I just wanted to say though that you sound ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL. Your SO is so, so lucky to have someone like you to support him.

I'm sure that you'll get lots of replies - this is a very friendly and welcoming community.

Don't be afraid to friend people (me included!) if you ever want any help or advice, or even just want to chat.

Hugs

Ellie x

Hi Kell,

I have a supportive SO and, as per my bio, I was pretty sure we shared an interest in my dressing before I took a chance on a proactive move.

Sounds like it started more from his side in your case and I also compliment you for absolutely wonderful response.

I’m not sure what makes you feel hurt sometimes. His interest is a part of him, it’s not because of anything you lack personally or didn’t do in your relationship.

On the other hand, big picture, both of you are involved and you have every right to express what you are or aren’t comfortable with.

To be a CD is to push the envelope but I happily strive to keep the boundaries that keep her comfortable. It sounds like your guy has his head on straight where you are concerned. With love and communication you should do fine.

Hugs and kisses,
W.

Thank you! 💗 Yes we communicate well and he pays attention to my feelings.  It’s not anything in particular. It’s fear creeping it’s ugly head. Most of the time I can keep the noise at bay but occasionally fear creeps in.  Fear yes, I’m not enough. He literally does everything well. So sometimes the sadness creeps in that he can even be more feminine than me. It’s in my head. But it’s there. Thank you for the warm welcome.

Thank you Ellie!  I’m truly grateful for our relationship and know MANY of the reasons I love him is all her sides.  Thank you for the encouragement. Xo

Hi Kell

You're very, very welcome.

Hugs

Ellie x

Boy, how I wish I was Dr. Phil!! I can just speak from my own experience. I've been Jenny for all my life and never experienced or told either wife out of the horrible fear they just wouldn't understand and might mock me or leave me. I kept it my secret for my whole life, with so much pain, fear and shame. The fact that your mate has opened up to you tells me that she trusts you more than anything in life. Be blessed that she feels that way about you. You are very special to her and loves and trusts you so much!

JennyLynn62

Hi Kell

I met my wife through a mutual friend who knew about my dressing and have been together since the second time we laid eyes on each other. I told her that day but I suspect she already knew. We’ve been together 13yrs and married for 6 in October. We’ve had a couple of challenges over the years mainly caused by not communicating and keeping our feelings and fears hidden. We now communicate openly and honestly which is easier to say than do sometimes because we don’t want to hurt or upset each other but we both know leaving it unsaid will make it worse. We will generally say something along the lines of can I talk to you about something that’s been bothering me. The little things that I had never given any thought to that were upsetting her were easy fixes and have made us closer.
Feel free to message me anytime and if I can’t help she might be able to. Even just for a chat.
hugsnkisses

Cassie

Hi Kell very nice to meet you and im so happy you joined us girls here and thanks for the support for you Hubby/girlfriend you are a treasure to meet .. There are lots of GG ladies like yourself here that support us as myself here also .. Im a long time girl and met wife in 6 mounts we were married wow fast as she was married when we met in late August her devorice was final FEB first of following year then us married March of same year .. Now just past 40 years now and she knew right from the start I dressed as Stephanie working on 41 he he .. I will tell my wife as she is a member here also in the group For the Wifes and Significant others  look her up as Linda Bass and ask away she like us all we love to chat so again thanks for the support of your Girlfriend and if she hasent joined us girls yet please tell her to join in on the girly fun..

Stephanie Bass

"So sometimes the sadness creeps in that he can even be more feminine than me." Jenny Lynn

I am glad that you two are communicating well and that you recognise some of the issues that bug or concern you. We are all individuals, though, and how feminine someone is shouldn't be a competition.

To show this to yourself, why not take the femininity test? It may give you some insight into what your SO is dealing with from his perspective.

There is more than one test, so give me a minute to find the one linked on CDH.

Hi Kell!

Welcome to CDH a welcoming, encouraging, supportive community!

I, like Ellie, am single, so can't help with your particular situation, but have so much respect for you to come into this community to learn and grow like all of us, me as a private cross dresser, which I love being a cross dresser, sometimes hate to admit how much I've come to love it, truth be told.

If you ever want to know why I have come to love being a cross dresser shoot me a message. Anyway, glad to help and be there for you if you think I can be of help.

I have always had a great respect for women and femininity and well sending big respect your way for being here and being supportive of your SO.

Gratefully, Catherine

Hi,

You aree enotecniche alone. I am a transvestite and my so accepts it as long as I go out and do it in private.
Life is short and if you ar 90% ok and guide the lady and help. God bless you

Hi Kell.Welcome to CDH.My wife is very supporting of my crossdressing.When I first told her back in 2004 she was freaked out and did not accept it all.For nineteen years my feminine side was largely brushed under the carpet apart from the odd time or two when I wanted to reintroduce the subject.That all changed seven years ago.One day on a whim I got fully dressed as Roberta in front of my wife.She was shocked and could not look me in the eye.The very next day she had a change of heart.She said that she would allow me to dress on the understanding that she bought all my clothes for me.Inutially,I did not dress in front of her for around six months.Thereafter,my wife let me dress in front of her everyday we were at home.By stealth,she became more and more accepting.Evenrually,she started saying how good I look dressed.Nowadays,she loves my femme persona as much as my make one.We are like girlfriends always chatting about clothes.There are only one or two things she is not comfortable about.She would not be comfortable if I went outside the home dressed as a woman.She is absolutely awesome and so are you.Drop me a private message if you have any questions.Apologies for the lengthy post.Take care.