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Hi Gina, welcome to CDH, you will find plenty of support here. I know only too well how difficult it is to put your self on the internet. But you have made the first step, and as they say a journey starts with the first step, so you are on your way! We would love to see some pictures of you, but only when you feel happy about it. Look around the site and settle in, I'm sure you will enjoy it. Always happy to chat PM me if you want to.

Andrea xx

Been there, done that.  Listen to me, You are treading in dark waters.  Your marriage with her will definitely be on the line and in great danger, just for trying to share your true self with her.  I don't mean to sound negative but the truth is, your wife is just like all wives.  Typically "Mind-molded" in the society projected idea of what a "Family" is supposed to be and she will not be openly accepting of who you are inside.  This is a difficult thing to hear and to accept.  Listen, I myself had to tread down that road to nowhere and believe me, you will not like the outcome.  She is a "WIFE" and expects YOU TO BE THE HUSBAND / MAN in the relationship as dictated by what "Marriage stands for" and she is comfortable in HER ROLE and the Female / Woman / Wife.  There is no room for 2.  So, you may not want to hear it but prepare yourself for a tough road ahead and make plans for your own space and to be on your own alone soon.  It may be a good idea to secretly find your own place to live alone.  Something in an LGBT Socially acceptable area, and cheap so you can easily and affordably maintain it by yourself.  Call it a "Safe Haven", TRUST ME !  I was once YOU and I know...  The hard way !  

Lady Fox 

Hi Gina, Denise has raised some very good points, however not everyone is the same,  your wife knows about Gina to a certain extent, I have to agree with Denise it may not work out and you may have to consider an alternative. However, at this stage you do not know what to ultimate conclusion will be. You need to tread your own path, without doubt it may be difficult at times, but hopefully you can work your way through it, but have faith, a solution may be out there, just take your time, and support is always here if you need it.

Andrea xx

Hallo Gina welcome to crossdresser heaven you will find support advice friendship and all sorts we a very friendly website hope you enjoy what CH offers.

kind regards

Lilley Matthews

Thanks all for the replies, yes I know that I'm treading on some unknown footpath, everything I do will be with caution and will not jeopardise my marriage, I'm willing to carry on as I am, happily, she knows that I dress, that I "borrow" her clothes sometimes. All I want, at the moment is a bit more of "me" clothes, something I'm comfortable in, not into the "hooker" look, if you excuse the phrase, just some nice dresses, something that fits me!! Sorry if this is me rambling on, I'm new to all this and really appreciate someone to talk with, without preconceptions. Thank you all very much. Xx

Welcome   ; as our ladies have already mention were are a community that cares and offer support to  all here. Coming here will be so helpful in so many ways. I hope the beat with your wife. Yes a marriage is most important as it is to me and will never jeopardize  it ever. Her feelings are very real and must be respected. You must understand is her and what she's going through. Deceit, confusion as to what is transpiring. Wondering about who you are; are you still the man she knows and your sexual preferences . And her clothes,  her personal items. For me it was very clearly told,  "my things you must have your own". Small steps and her guidelines I have enjoyed my dressing and now she starting to accept me but with caution I may add but still a work in progress. Best to you and happy to have you here.

Stephanie 🌹