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Melina here from sunny florida. I have been a crossdresser on/off for 56 years. Just recently caught by wife dressed. I have told no one for my entire life. Completely blind sided. She is my sole
l mate whom I love more than anything. I may have to quit forever (if possible)
I fell into crossdressing after sexual misconduct by father from 7-11, I think. quite sure i has been a coping mechanism. Looking for answers and advise. It has been almost a week and things have calmed.
Hi Melina.
Welcome to CDH.
You must be close to my age. I have found many answers here at this lovely community. There is a lot of reading material and contact with the sisters. I can't say I know how you feel, because I was never caught dressed. My girlfriends tended to be conservative and attempts at communication about my crossdressing never went beyond the hypothetical level. Once ended with she asking what was the important thing I have to tell her but after her remarks about trans people, I asked her what she wants to do on Sunday. Stopping dressing was never a real option. It didn't work. However, perhaps my fears and my shadows can give me an idea of your feelings. It is frustrating when a SO does not understand your need or the pain she faces because you could not open up to her in a timely manner. In my case, I ended up deciding to live alone. A very personal decision. Not everybody can handle solitude well enough. Sometimes I miss the company.
I hope with all my heart that you manage to resolve your relationship. May your wife understand from the love she professes for you. I hope I haven't gone on too far, but there are days when I feel confessional.
Gisela
Thanks for the thoughts. I never had the courage to tell anyone. As an only child, living alone would not be a problem although I think it might make CDing dominate my time. I wish she was more understanding but.... from forum experience it seems 50/50 could go either way. Any way I wil stay in touch with the forums and people like me to get through the rough stuff. Thank you,
Melina
Hi Melina and welcome!
Melina,
if you were sexually mistreated as a child you should seek counseling from a professional. Cross dressing is normal, sexual misconduct is not.
Hi Melina and nice to meet you like the other girls here sorry for the problems in your youth .. As a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. We are all a friendly and helpful bunch so don't be shy as we all love to chat and help all girls in need .. Now if and when you are ready please return to your profile page and fill in more please as this is how we get to know you better thanks.. As you are a Sunshine state girl so was I born and raised in central Florida moved to Montana many years ago so if you need a chat please say hello anytime girlfriend..
Stephanie Bass
Hi Melina,
Welcome to CDH.
Alice
Hi Melina!
Welcome to CDH!
I think you will find the community helpful, encouraging and supportive.
Glad things have calmed a bit, but still a tough situation, so know many supportive people here.
Again, welcome to CDH!
Catherine