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My name’s Mel and I’m here to meet people and find out more about cross dressing.

My partner secretly watches cross dressing videos on YouTube and instagram and he won’t tell me why. I’m not angry, just hurt that he doesn’t trust me enough to not deny that he does and can’t tell me why.

I’m currently trying to work out whether he wants to cross dress, or whether he finds cross dressers attractive and whether that means he isn’t attracted to me.

I know everyone is different, I just want to try to be supportive enough for him to trust me

 

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(@reneeh)
Eminent Member     Tucson, Arizona, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

Hello Mel!

Welcome to CDH!

Everyone's story is different.  I realized I was gender fluid and a crossdresser suddenly while on a business trip.  Going through that experience helped me realize that I was probably born this way, been this way all my life, and denying it with all my power.  Looking back, I can see the unconscious feelings and urges.  But, life got in my way and through a bit of substance abuse, maybe more than a bit, I buried my feelings.  Perhaps it is the same with the important person in your life.

 

Give time time and check out the closed forum for Significant Others only.  I hope you find the answers you seek.  In the mean time, know that I see your desire to connect and to share in this intimate aspect of your person's life.  I bid you much peace and look forward to seeing you around on CDH.

 

Choose joy!

 

Renee

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(@jessica63)
Honorable Member     South Yorkshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 6 years ago

Hi Mel,

Welcome, it is clear from your message that you love your partner and just want to help and understand.  Unfortunately it is not possible to give a reason why he watches the videos in this message.  People cross dress for many reasons, some people don’t dress themselves but are turned on by watching cross dressers and for some it may be a bit if both.  I think your partner is scared he will lose you and that you will reject him.

There are lots of people here who can help and advise, you are showing through your willingness to learn that you care.  The partners group is a very useful support.

If I can be of help please feel free to message me.

Jessica x.

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(@rose)
Illustrious Member     Peterborough , Ontario, Canada
Joined: 8 years ago

Mel, welcome, it’s wonderful to have you here with us. Sorry to hear about your partner and his lack of communicating with you.  Wonderful for you  in your efforts  in trying to offer support. It must be difficult when he doesn't want it. Yes trust is so important and when partners can't communicate it definitely puts a strain in any relationship. Help and support here is for everyone, understanding of what this all means and to you lovely GG ladies, a place to have your questions and concerns answered . It’s certainly a major issue in a lot of relationships. We all need a place to have others to talk with, to listen and show compassion and help better your own feelings as one continues to grow and discover more of this complicating course in life . There’s a group you may like to know ( wives & significant others ) where ladies like yourself can offer their help to questions only you would like to ask them. No body is left out, that ‘s what makes this such a wonderful place to belong. Best to the both of you and hope your partner realizes just how much your trying to understand him and you just wanting clarity into where all this is going. The girls here are helpful and friendly with their advice and tips with a heart for understanding about our passion. Develop beautiful friendships ,share each other’s experiences and know you have us to enjoy here. As an ambassador here if you need anything please be free to PM me, im here and love to help if I can. Hugs!!!

Stephanie 🌹

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(@augustvaliant)
Noble Member     Long Island, New York, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

Hi Mel !

I'm sorry you are experiencing so much uncertainty. I know it's difficult to care so much and to be afraid of where things might be going (or not be for that matter). I'm going to echo what has already been said by Jessica and Renee. The Significant Others forum is a closed group only for people such as yourself. I am sure there are plenty of folks there who can help you and understand what you are going through. Don't be shy. Everyone here is pretty friendly.
I hope you find what you need here. LMK if there is anything I can help with.
Hugs
Autumn

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Hi Mel,

He might be a crossdresser and simultaneously he also likes you. Even I'm a crossdresser but i like women. Please try n understand him and give him the opportunity to fulfill his dream.

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Hello to everyone who took the tome to respond to me and for your kind words. I want expecting anyone to be able to give me answers here, I know that we’re all different t and fluid, but this is the first step on my journey of trying to help and support and I think of trying to help him too.

Its amazing that everyone here is so welcoming and supportive. I’ll definitely check out the SO forum.

Thanks ladies, much love xx

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(@Anonymous)
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Hi Mel,

Hope you help your partner to explore more of his feminine side.

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Lady
(@fatsmagic)
Trusted Member     Lincolnshire, United Kingdom
Joined: 6 years ago

Hi Mel,

Welcome.

I am a married man (to a woman), and have been a closet cross dresser since I was young, and I am very happy with being a man in my relationship.

I wish my wife was as understanding as you are, and I hope you can eventually talk it over with him.

Nikki x

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(@mnewman111)
Famed Member     Fort Lauderdale, Florida, United States of America
Joined: 8 years ago

Welcome Mel!

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