Hi I am shelly new to the group

Dear Shelly, I'm sorry for the pain and uncertainty that you are going through right now.  Love and patience WILL get you through this.

I have struggled with my wife's acceptance and encouragement of my cross-dressing for several years. She has come to accept it, but still struggles to completely embrace this part of my personality.  I pray that you can find peace and acceptance within yourself. Does he still love you? Has he become an abusive husband? Does he still go to work and earn a living? Does he still go out and work on the car? Does he still mow the lawn? Does he still fix the plumbing? Do you still love him?  

I wish you good luck on this journey and I hope that you can find peace with this part of his personality.

Please continue to post.

Hi Ahwlly, I too am a crossdressing husband.  My wife hates it and we have not been intimate in years.  CDing is not (to me) an insult to a relationship, so please don't take it as such.

Hi Renee

Yes we still love each other and he is an amazing man. I want to understand and support him but I'm having trouble trying to get my head around it all.

Hi Blanche

I'm not sure how i feel about it all. It would help if he could talk to me more. I would like to work through it all.

Hi Shelly Nice to meet you and sorry about your situation but as a cd husband ive been married 37 years and came out to my wife within first year and she has accepted Stephanie within her limits its been a work in process and for you if you havenot found yet there a place for you here that we cant see so go their and chat with other wifes and SOs about your concerns and hope you get some advice that helps ease things for you and you husband I hop this helps and again nice meeting you

Stephanie Bass

Shelly

welcome is so nice meeting you. Your a very special partner and very understanding I must say. Your partner is so fortunate. There are certainly many happy stories about couples discovering this unique relationship but  unfortunately many don’t.
This is certainly the place you’ll find many of the answers you are seeking. Only a short while ago that I opened up to my wife after 40 years of marriage. It was a huge surprise for her and certainly very emotional. The biggest concern was the mistrust I caused. Seeing her and the hurt that it caused was hard. We had many talks and through this agreements and guidelines were set and together were slowly working it out. But Cdh and it’s resources helped my wife and myself understand more about our individual troubles. I learned more about myself and girl we do have a wonderful group here exclusive for significant others where many GG gals like yourself could receive the help and support to get the answers your wanted to know. There you can really enjoy chatting with others like you and truly enjoy conversations in your circle.
This group – private ( wives and significant others ) . For you special ladies where Cders are not allowed. Meet with them and get the support you need. Look into other forms written by others who talk about their experiences, their questions they may ask with many offering help and advice so everyone can understand better on so many confusing topic.
Links to contact Kayla and Eleanor can be found on the Meet the Ambassadors page.  They are wonderful and will help you .
Now you need to get him/her to join too.
Relax, get comfortable and enjoy being part of this wonderful community that really does care for all that passes through our doors. The best to you both as you venture through these new paths together . Very happy meeting you and welcome.
Stephanie 🌹

It's perfectly okay that you don't understand this. I'm pretty sure that none of us quite understand  this. Still, understanding this isn't quite the same as accepting it.  Maybe it's a bit like our faith in God. We don't always understand it, but if we accept it; life goes easier.

Please, don't toss out your relationship on account of this. Yes, it's hard to understand. Please remember that this person who you love still loves you. Please spend time and talk to him. I'm sure that he'd appreciate that. Share my words, if it will help you and him. Please with hold judgement. Please accept and try to understand. I hope for you the best.

Thankyou for sharing your story

I'm not giving up in any hurry. Thankyou

God Bless you for not giving up. Please find a way to accept this part of your husband's personality and id possible find a way to embrace it.

I wish you all the best.

Hi Shelly , welcome here lots of support & good advice .

Communication & honesty  are paramount for you both , it can be successfully  integrated into a marriage/ relationship , my wife & I certainly have done this .

PM me if you want with any questions 💐💐 Tiff

Hi Shelly,

For me, as I was growing up, I was shamed and felt criticized for everything I did. I consider myself a good communicator, BUT I have to feel that when I am going to communicate it has to be a safe situation. IF I think that I might be shamed or criticized for what I am going to say, I will close completely down. Childhood wounds can shape how we communicate.

Since I came out to my wife, my female feelings have brought us closer.

Kay

Hi hon have sent you an invite to the SO group Hugs

Hi Shelly,
Seem like we are kind of in a similar situation. However you have been married much longer than I. I recently found out about my husband as well and I am not sure how to handle this either. I have so many mixed emotions and thoughts on this whole issue but still not sure where I stand.