Hi, I am Tiffany

Hey Tiffany

I can't advise you on getting out of the front door as I haven't done it yet. However, plans are afoot!

From your profile I can see you've already been braver than me.

Meanwhile ... I'll just say 'Welcome to Crossdresser Heaven' and wait for the rest of the room to join in 😛

Hugs

Ellie x

I've been surprised how little things I been afraid to show so long have gone unnoticed or at least unremarked

Less than subtle lipstick, earrings, mascara and nail polish.

You don't have to go straight to full femme to enjoy dressing.
Be strong

Hi Tiffany

Lovely to meet you. I have been out a few times, though I am totally in the closet so have to change (and do my make up!) in the car en route to where I am going.

My first time out a very kind friend on this site (hi Helenmarie!) went with me for a walk round a park and then lunch. I was terrified, but people paid no attention to us. I was expecting stares and sniggers but that never happened thankfully. In the cafe, which was busy, few people even looked at us, and the women who did smiled in a friendly way.

So glad I did it, and will definitely do it again when the opportunity comes. Its not easy by any means, but its sooo much fun!

Much love

Helen xx

Hi Tiffany,

Welcome to CDH.

Alice

Welcome Tiffany, some more of the room talking here. I would like to be of help but going out isn’t my strong point. I have only been a lady of the evening thus far, maybe someday I will venture out into the light of day.

Tiffany,

Most of us went out the first time not looking anything like a perfect woman. Just do the best you can with makeup, wear clothes to blend in with other woman in your age group and learn some basic female mannerisms. Don't wear high heels, wear comfortable shoes and wear sunglasses to hide your eyes which express nervousness very easily.  Most of don't have feminine voices either, we just try and talk softer and slower.

You will have to accept the fact that you will be read many times. Most people don't care or are somewhat accepting or at least tolerant.

Welcome Tiffany, it is great that your wife is so supportive. I just joined and am not out the front door yet either, but I am sure you will hear from girls who are and can offer advice.

Welcome to CDH, Tiffany!

"How do girls like us get out their front door?"

By doing it. You can do it in small stages, to acquire confidence as you go, or can grab the world with gusto. Most of us did something in-between these two bounds. Many start with underdressing, then get bolder over time. There lots of stories here about other ladies going out for the first time.

You are lucky to have a mentor wife helping you. Listen to her, love her, and thank her.

Our evolution as women is a process. Over time we add new dimensions to our femineity to move closer to what we see as the complete package which builds our confidence. In my case, my confidence in my presentation grew over time to the point where it allowed me to fulfill some of my wildest desires. I went out in Las Vegas a few times and that was an amazing experience for me. Of course, I had to dress to the nines for the events!

Still to this day, I see myself as a work in progress and I still work on my presentation. I'm a hiker and I love to go out into the woods and work on my feminine walk, movement and general deportment. Of course, I also get to wear cute shorts, leggings, sports bras and my pink sneakers. This enhances the experience even if I'm not specifically trying to present as female at the time.

Hey girl! Good on you for even making this post! Disclaimer: I'm lazy and a lot of what I'm about to say, might very well be in the comments above!

The shame is the thing, innit. That's your enemy. Your SO is accepting, and that's the biggest hurdle. Knowing that the one inside the smallest circle is on board and will have your back is huge...HUGE! So start there. "This person that I love and loves me says this is OK!" a) You're not going to start convincing strangers; and b) why would you wanna expend that kind of energy anyway? So when those near and dear give you the thumbs up, that's your sign to move forward.

After that, I'll drop you this nugget from the 18th century, "The enemy of good is perfect." - Voltaire

Don't worry about having every little detail just so. It's a journey, you're not going to teleport to the look/behavior/mannerisms of the final product. The joy is in *getting* there! Doll yourself up the best you can, then walk outta your house and go do what you wanna do! Pay attention, watch, learn, ask, listen. Then go back and try it again another time. I think you'll find that the first few attempts will exponential improvements! Success breeds confidence - so go breed! Uh....you know what I mean. 😉

xo Melodee

Hi Tiffany nice to meet you and so happy you found and joined us girls here so get settled in relax and enjoy yourself here.. Now as a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. Well girlfriend there is so much to see and do here from reading the forums and posts from so many ladies here telling there stories about there journeys down the femme road they are on.. So girl when you get comfortable with us please join in with a story or two about the life and times of Tiffany as she travels down her own girly path in life..  Now as for making friends here there are so many ladies from all over the world to build long lasting friendships with and best of all we are just a simple click away from you.. Once more girlfriend nice to meet you and hope to see you around for a chat sometime soon..

Stephanie Bass

Hi Tiffany,
My first times out the door fully en femme were to drive around at night and I only got out of the car to get gas. After a few drives at night I moved to driving the interstate in daylight but was limited because our state had not yet made it legal to use the proper restroom. When they did pass the law, I began longer drives and stopped to use the ladies room as I should. I was so emotionally overwhelmed the first time that a grandmother who happened to come in when I was washing my hands, gave me a hug and told me things would be okay. I am not sure if she "knew" or not, but it didn't matter really. After that I began to shop en femme and finally go for lunch at a local "lesbian" bar.
You are incredibly fortunate that your wife is supportive and if she is willing to accompany you, I believe you will find it easier, and of course liberating. Eventually, you will find it easier to just be yourself and be happy. Good luck!

"Pay attention, watch, learn, ask, listen." Melodee

Enthusiasm coupled with curiosity is so sexy, innit?

Hi Tiffany,

Welcome to this highly supportive group, you will find you are among friends here.

Regarding getting out the door, it is usually tentative at first. Going out for a drive around after dark, maybe putting gas in the car as others have mentioned. As you go out more, and I would think you are like the rest of us, you will want to do it more and for lengthier periods. You gain confidence as you go and, as many here can testify, confidence is the main thing. I have been told more than once, 'It is what you wear and the confidence with which you wear it'. This is from a young woman, by the way.

You have the support of your wife as well, which is a very big plus.

Good luck in your forthcoming journey.

Aurora Eden