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Hi, I’m Kate, a supportive fiancé of a CDer.

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 Kate
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(@katrina2336)
Active Member     Rhode Island, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

Hey y’all, I’m looking for ways to help my love feel at ease dressing around me. I’m 100% supportive and we talk about his alter ego often, yet he’s still unable to dress for me... any words of wisdom?

 

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(@cyberian2)
Noble Member     Elliot Lake, Ontario, Canada
Joined: 8 years ago

Hi Kate!    You are a dream come true.

Look thru our site and chat with us girls.......You will find plenty of suggestions. My door is always open.....feel free to contact me.

 

Dame Veronica

 

 

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Hello and welcome Kate,

As Veronica said “you are a dream come true” for one of us😁! A romantic relaxing evening might put her into a mood where she would share herself and dressing with you. I am just wondering if you have bought anything for her yet? A nice chemise or nightie might be nice. If she has a natural breast if the garment fit without the need for breastforms feels great to sleep in. Maybe play a game to get her to open up and dress up for you. Something like reverse strip poker. Sounds silly but if she gets relaxed and puts on clothing or lingerie to play the game maybe......you never know. Just a couple of suggestions. Is she a member of CDH yet? Chatting with some of the ladies might help too. Anyway I hope one of us gives you an idea which works for you two. Good luck dear, hugs and again welcome. TTFN💋👠

Danielle

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 Kate
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(@katrina2336)
Active Member     Rhode Island, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

I’ve spent a small fortune on us both at Victoria’s Secret, have put lipstick on her by kissing it on, yet even though we talk about “Melanie” daily he feels stressed about letting me be a part. My SO is aware that I dated another CDer back in the 90s and had no issue with it(minus some of the hard core BDSM stuff). We are FAR from a prude couple, I guess I’d have thought the initial telling me would have been the hardest part, but it seems not... I’m patient and not at all trying to force him to dress for me, however he is a sub and maybe that’s what he’s hoping I do. We shall see! Thank you!

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(@stefaniemaybe)
Estimable Member     Alabama, United States of America
Joined: 8 years ago

I have no ideas but I wish I were in a similar situation

glad you are supporting him/her

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Hi again Kate,

So she is a sub....well maybe you should tell her you want to play a game with you as the dom. If nothing else you both will have a fun time😉!

Danielle

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(@katrina2336)
Active Member     Rhode Island, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

<p style="text-align: center;">We actually just had a little chat(mainly how he obsessed over my bras I leave hanging to dry) and I looked at him and said help yourself! So I’m getting the feeling he’d prefer to transform into Melanie in my clothing... whatever... let’s just cross this bridge so that our relationship keeps getting better! 😊 plus, if she stretches out my $20 panties that means I get new ones! Lol</p>

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Hi Kate!

Might I suggest that he visits here and sees that a lot of supporters could help him open up here.

My wife is a huge supporter of my CD and we have the best relationship ever. We absolutely love our girls nights!

 

Take care

Sasha

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Hi Kate,

Guessing your crossdresser has regrets he may NOT look too good as he hesitates taking advantage of your kind support. Recommend you go with him to a professional crossdresser makeover salon and the both of you can see what is the best they can do to make him look like a passable woman. That will give him the confidence that he will not be making a fool out of himself and let him know if at that point you have any misgivings. A starting point for both of you so to speak of where things could go. It is one thing to have the urge to crossdress but it is another thing to have the confidence to do it with you...I would probably feel the same way to a degree.

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Welcome To CDH.

 

Drop Kayla or Trisha a message in the signifiicant others section.   They may be able to point you in the right direction.

 

Welcome to you both

Sarah D

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Hi awesome woman! Let me first express my undying gratefulness of your awesome support.

I was kind of the same way when I started with my wife.  Would not hesitate in secret but felt I had to be macho man randy savage in front of my wife. She bought me things and still does. Mainly what it was for me to brake down was make up. I absolutely loved make up and was secretly watching guru vids for like 2 years.

 

The first time I saw her was when my wife said just sit back and let me do your make up.

But if they don't want to do that

a good ice breaker is black nail polish, mascara and eyeliner girl.    Those three together will help him break down the wall.

I remember she painted my thumb only. Bought clothes for me   A week later I tried them on and then told her I liked them. She kept on. And well  you can see my pics for the result. We all start somewhere. Tell them it's ok and you're not going anywhere. Now zah wife loves it because our sex life has never been this good. She calls me her wife! Hope it works out. Sorry for poor grammar.

 

❤️

P

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 Kate
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(@katrina2336)
Active Member     Rhode Island, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

Thank you Persephone! Going to try polish on his toes tonight. He knows I’m not going anywhere. The conversation we had when he told me was ok, 1st, do you want to be a woman aka transition? The answer was NO! 2nd was do you want to be with men, again a huge NO! My first CDing boyfriend in fact lied to me and is now a woman who dates men, so I had to be sure of all this. Again, we are far from a “vanilla” couple and we have great communication. I have a few things being delivered today for her, she’s a huge fan of sheer, lacy, tactile undergarments. 😊 also got a bottle of Pinot Noir, let’s turn this Monday into a party!!! 🤣❤️

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(@rose)
Illustrious Member     Peterborough , Ontario, Canada
Joined: 8 years ago

Kate,  welcome happy to have you with us. As many of the girls have already mentioned. We're here to help and support you and your partner. She is a very lucky girl to have such a understanding wife and accepts ythis. As you have said about your guy not being able to dress in front of you. I've heard that many times before and also myself. I still do in ways. For me it's a bit of an embarrassment . I try to sense what she thinking about, is she content with me or secretly holding back that it's not something she really doesn't accept. I'm no where near passable as no makeup has been done. . YET! !  little help is offered as she knows moving on to more will just take time on my part. Maybe it's like what was mentioned and I've thought of how terrible we actually look and it scares not just me but her. One thing she had mentioned is not wanting to go out with me  (when that time comes ) so yes appearances are a good reason for not being comfortable to show of ourselves. Maybe in time with confidence we can be more at ease share our dressing with our spouses. It's getting better for me I'm  still nervous about my wife's thoughts on my dressing and probably always will. As Sarah has mentioned we have a wonderful group  (wives and significant others )I know you'll be interested in and kayla and Trisha are there to welcome you in their fold . Your a remarkable woman for your support for him and girl you are a dream for many here. Happy to meet you and please enjoy your time with us all.                    Stephanie 🌹

 

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 Kate
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(@katrina2336)
Active Member     Rhode Island, United States of America
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Thank you Stephanie!!! ❤️

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Hi Kate! Awesome you support your fiance. I felt awkward dressing in front of my SO because I felt embarresed trying to appear fem. Over time she has offered so much advice about how to act and appear feminine that now we are more like girlfriends. At home I am Allyson 24/7 but she doesn't want me to go outside the home dressed. We do have our nails and eyebrows done together. I am very blessed but it took a lot of time and talking for me to be able to dress with her. Good luck, hug Ally

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