Hi, I’m Kate, a supportive fiancé of a CDer.

My SO forbids me to share her clothing which is probably pretty common to most of the girls. Maybe a "girls" shopping date to purchase him some of his own longerie would be fun and give him a reason to dress in front of you.

I agree as well, You, Kate are a CD'ers dream lady!  he is one lucky man (lady) to have such a supportive and interactive dressing partner that actually encourages her to dress.  We are all envious of her!

I think it is so wonderful, that you are so supportive. I certainly agree with my sisters here at CDH, maybe introduce her to our site. Encourage her to get a pedicure, going together, may make it easier. I go on a regular basis, dressed as a man, sometimes I get French tips, and leave the salon wearing flip flops, and I live in Texas. Best of luck, hugs and kisses Rochelle.

I SO appreciate all your compliments!!! I’m just me doing what I want(and yes, I do want all of this!!!). He makes life so good for me and I want to do the same. I do believe that tonight may *possibly* be the night, and least for lingerie... our toy order came in early, alone with a nice stretchy lace chemise for her. 😊 the kids will DEFINITELY be in bed early tonight!!! Lol

Love and hugs to you all for your words of encouragement!!!

I SO appreciate all your compliments!!! I’m just me doing what I want(and yes, I do want all of this!!!). He makes life so good for me and I want to do the same. I do believe that tonight may *possibly* be the night, and least for lingerie… our toy order came in early, alone with a nice stretchy lace chemise for her. 😊 the kids will DEFINITELY be in bed early tonight!!! Lol

Love and hugs to you all for your words of encouragement!!!

I am so excited for you Kate. The chemise for me made me feel more at ease in front of my wife. She was so excited to see me in it I don't know who wanted it more her or me, lol! have a great evening Kate! TTFN

Danielle

I charged the clippers, he’s going to shave! I’m crazy excited!!! Y’all, this is way more than a sexual post, it’s a progress post... I can’t imagine not feeling comfortable with those I love and trust... he’s trusting me to finally see a bit of Melanie and I’m beyond happy! I’m going to really miss the heat hair, but he assured me I’ll have it again..

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Danielle, totally thought your post was about me. 😂 PMS is a B! I was like wait, does she think I’m a robot or poser or something?!?! Thank you for clearing it up Persephone!

Danielle, totally thought your post was about me. 😂 PMS is a B! I was like wait, does she think I’m a robot or poser or something?!?! Thank you for clearing it up Persephone!

No worries Kate! I’m not sure what happened but I am so happy for you! For my wife and I just the simple act of her buying me the chemise really broke the ice. She had purchased panties for me prior but the chemise is different, it was truly a beautiful gesture on her part. Since then she bought us matching nighties and even a LBD for me. It makes a relationship much closer and the romance steamier. Have fun Kate. TTFN💋👠

Danielle

Where do we find these makeover salons?  That sounds awesome. I am also the wife of a CDer, and I’m trying to find ways to help him feel supported and open up.

HI Kate,

Ill give the same advice I give to CDs whove just opened up to their SO.

Give them time.   Baby steps.    For years we have had this terrible thing hidden and when we finally let it out its part relief and terror.  You now have access to the sort of secret that can ruin our lives.   He must really think you are special to share that.   Not wanting to dress in front of you may be partly to protect you from seeing your man gone and someone less so in their place.   So this may be a protection mechanism for him and you.   Just be casual.

Maybe let him under dress and if he does just say nothing,   let it go and let it be normal.   Maybe purchase a few simple things as acknowledgement but not go nuts.   A t shirt bra and panties maybe...its simple and also accepting.

Just stay as you are and be normal.   go shopping and do the things you used to do.

And dont be anything but yourself either.   Dont change you.   You are the person he loves so dont go changing to what you think he needs.   He has that already.

Hugs,

Sarah.

Your fiancé is lucky to have you. My wife doesn't wish to associate with my female persona. I wish she would. We could have so much fun being gal pals on occasion!

Well said Sarah . I almost came out to my Ex but always chickened out. Damn glad I didn't  Giving someone the power to ruin your life is brave or stupid. I agree 100% with you on advise. I would be absolutely terrified giving anyone that power.

Mikayla