Hi I'm Madison struggling accepting I'm a crossdresser

Hi Madison, and welcome to CDH. I'm afraid I don't have much advice to offer you, but I suspect one of the other lovely ladies around here will have some insights you'll find useful.

Talk about it, I don't know where i would be if I didn't get over my preconceptions about counselling, it has helped me so much.

Krisy

Awwwww thanks for the response seeetheart

Yea I guess I'm gonna have to see somebody for it thank u babe

MADISON YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE -- IT IS SO HARD THAT WIFE DID NOT ACCEPT YOU I HOPE YOU BOTH SAT DOWN TALKED ABOUT IT GOT INFO ABOUT CD WE ARE NOT PERVERTS. WE ARE THE SAME LOVING PERSON PANTS R DRESS . WE ALL HAVE DIFFERENT STORIES ,HOW, WHEN ,WHERE,THERE IS NEVER A WHY WE CANT BE A CD. ITS BECAUSE WE ARE. MY WIFE LOVED ME AND WAS OK W/ME CD SHE HAS DIED AND I HAVE 4KIDS THAT ALSO ACCEPT ME AS CD AND MY BEAT FRIEND/& WIFE OF OVER 50YRS ACCEPT ME AND THATS A LOT OF STORIES TO TELL. MAYBE YOU AND WIFE CAN WORK IT OUT IF YOU REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER. PLEASE TRY IF POSSIBLE. ALL THE CD GIRLS HERE ARE SO NICE SO JOIN IN THE CHATS LET YOUR HAIR DOWN AND BE ONE OF THE GIRS HUGS JENNIFER1CD

The hardest part Madison is learning to accept the fact that this is who we are and cant be changed. Everyone has gone through denial and purging but always return to it. You have to learn to live around it with family and work but learn to enjoy it in a safe place cause there is no other way. Psychologist realize that gay ppl cant be converted and now learning neither can we. I have learned to accept and now so  enjoy the girlie part of me with no regrets

Hi Madison, it's not your fault that you want and need to cross dress and it doesn't define your sexuality either. It's who we are. My first wife couldn't except my cross-dressing but my current wife does except it and encourages me to wear panties, bras or anything I want to wear on any given day. So don't blame yourself or the need to cross dress because it's really not your fault . Hope to talk to you soon. Lynn

Hello Madison, Welcome to CDH . You can't blame yourself that your a CD. I, Have be a CD moist of my life on and off due to the fact I was married and also divorced and widowed. The reason of the divorces was part of my dressing as this is built in in to us. I, repressed the urge to dress over many years and have purged many times also it was therapy that helped me in many ways I had to move in with my Mom to help her due to the fact she was ill and hid my dressing during the the time she was ill after her passing and therapy I found that I was doing nothing wrong and also Found out I was repressing that I was Bi /gay which was hidden inside of me also. So, I suggest if your feelings are confused please Seek Professional Therapy and help you understand you are not doing nothing wrong . Good Luck.
Hugs,
Stacey s

Hello Madison i feel the same way too and i am torn up inside at times i well. I use to crossdress when i was teenager when my parents were out of town. I stopped because i went to a military collage where his is not a widely accepted practice. I then went into the military and got happly married. Recently i feel the urge to cross-dress again, this could be do the incresse stresses in my life. Cross dressing was a sort of a coping technique i used to get my self through HS. Now i find i am doing it again. My wife doesn't know and i do went she gone or weeks for work. So i understand your struggle.

Dear Madison, take it from someone who's been down this road. I've been dressing since I was 11 and fought myself for years. I suffered bouts of depression and contimplated suicide more than once. I want you to go to your family doctor and tell them what's going on. They will send you to a therapist or psychologist and trust me this helps just to talk to someone who is not judgemental and they will probably get you in with a support group. This helps greatly to as you can see your not the only person in the world like this but the most important thing you have to do is accept who you are. You are not dirty or a pervert or a freak or any of those good names we get called. You are a loving, caring human being and this is what you are, it doesn't go away, I honestly believe it's hard wired into us just like everything else that  makes us all individuals. So as Deb says accept it and learn to enjoy it. I actually now look at it as a blessing because I now not only see things from a man's point of view but also from a woman's stand point, trust me it can help. I've sent you a friend request and I want you to talk to me, as I said Ive been down this road.

Take care, your new friend, Heather.

Madison,

There comes a time when professional  help is needed. Therapy with someone who specialises  in Gender issues is a great start. When you understand who you are, you can then accept  yourself as the beautiful person  you are. My therapist helped to open numerous doors for me over time .

Cookie  ☺

Aww thanks friend

Madison my Dear, you & I are very similar,my mother knew only because she caught me, but be true to yourself, my wife knows & has for 3 yrs out of 21 being together, she was ok with it but now it has caused us issues, I told her its not a light switch you can just turn off, cause I have tried, I love women & being with women but I also love dressing as one !!I think it the highest form of flattery we could give them. However thay just dont understand what we feel with it & how if they embraced it , it would keep us close together. Also I to have asked why me for years,

Hi Madison and welcome to CDH.

Rachel