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At a difficult crossroads in my life where I am looking to make friends with other crossdressers for chats, advice and most of all acceptance.
My partner of the last 21yrs, who i shared everything with, has recently passed away leaving me feeling very alone with no one to share the feminine side of my identity with. About 15yrs ago I fully accepted that I was Trans and shared this with my partner which she accepted, albeit with limitations, and this is how I have been living my life ever since.
To everyone in my life I present as a straight 50yr old male, but I am feeling, more now than ever, that I want to be open about who I really am inside, so I am looking for friends and community within the LGBTQ+ world to seek advice and acceptance.
I love to chat, listen and share experiences...
Love Nyla xx
Hey Nyla. Firstly my sincere condolences for the loss of your partner, taken far too soon. Welcome to CDH from another UK girl. I can understand that you must be in a state of flux, trying to find your best way forwards. You've come to the right place. The girls here are all so friendly, welcoming and helpful and we are all at different stages of our journeys. Rest assured some of the girls here will be in a similar position to you. Join in the chat and forums and ask questions. I guarantee you helpful and thoughtful answers and a real sense of belonging.
Hugs, Chrissie xx.
Thanks Chrissie
I'm really looking forward to making friends here, everyone has been so kind and good to hear from another girl from the UK.
It's been a hard couple of years as my partner died of cancer, but it's certainly made me realise that the time is now if there is something you want to do. I work with young people and their acceptance of diversity is inspiring and makes me realise how alone and unsupported people of my generation have been if they are Trans or LGBTQ+
I'm so glad to be here
Hugs back, Nyla x
@ndream Welcome Nyla , you have found a most wonderful place to share your thoughts ask advice and give it !Best of all just make wonderful friends .Best wishes xx
@ndream Welcome to CDH, Nyla!
You made a good choice by making CDH your starting point. I look forward to seeing you on the forums.
@ndream
Hello, and welcome.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Nyla. Many of us have lost loved ones so we understand some of what you're going through.
You've just joined a truly caring and supportive community though, so you needn't feel alone anymore. You'll see this in the replies that you'll get to your introduction.
You can read some topics and posts and also our profiles, you'll get a better idea of who we are.
Don't be afraid to ask for anything, we're only too happy to help.
Allie
Hi Allie,
Thank you so much for the warm welcome.
Everyone has been so friendly so far, it's really great to be here.
I've been looking around as you suggested and will write a longer post soon in one of the forums.
Hope to speak again soon...
Nyla x
@ndream welcome Nyla. You won’t feel alone here. It is the most supportive, beautiful collection of people!! Good luck to you!
Thanks for the warm welcome Serena,
Glad to be here with like minded people
Nyla x
@ndream
Hi Nyla
Welcome to CDH from yet another UK girl 🙂
If you need to talk then you've found exactly the right place. This is an exceptionally warm and supportive community. You don't need to be concerned that there's no-one to share your female identity with. We have around 45,000 members who would dispute that. And we're very good at listening 🙂
Have fun exploring everything that the site has to offer. If you need help with anything, just shout.
Hugs
Ellie x
Thanks Ellie
So far I've been overwhelmed by acceptance and understanding, really happy to have found this place.
I hope you don't mind but I looked at your bio and you and I have very similar jobs and i dare say backgrounds, all of which have helped me in so many different ways to come to terms with being Trans.
However, I am very much at the start of my CD journey but would love to hear more about yours..
Hugs
Nyla x
@ndream
Hi Nyla, so sorry to hear about the loss of your partner. You could not have found a better CD home than this where I am sure you will develop many friendships and find wonderful understanding and support. Many members are of more mature years and, like you, have been seeking to be open about who they really are.
I grew up in north Notts, so not too far from Scunthorpe, but for the last 30 years have been living in the Cotswolds. I have only really been out to most of the world in the last year, and it is exhilarating. I hope you find your own route to openness. Just remember - you are not alone, we are all with you!
Hugs, Rebecca xxx
Thanks Rebecca
I've been to the Cotswolds, it's such a lovely part of the world. What a wonderful place to live!
Thank you for such a lovely welcome. I have been looking at this site for a while but due to my circumstances this has been my first chance to actually write something.
Your CD journey sounds leagues ahead of mine but so glad to speak to another similar soul. Always up for a chat and I'm always happy to listen.
Hugs
Nyla x
@ndream so sorry to hear about your loss. Welcome to CDH from another UK girl. I joined a couple of months ago and have been made to feel very welcome and accepted here.
Hi Anna
Thanks for your welcome...
CDH has been so welcoming and friendly it's been like a breath of fresh air.
I'm always happy to chat and listen if you ever fancy it..
Hugs
Nyla x
@ndream
Hi Nyla,
Welcome to this site. It sounds like you are on a journey to your true self. I wish you healing and happiness!
Warmly,
Autumn
Thanks Autumn
Still need to discover what that true self is, but 100% certain about what it's not.
Lovely to hear from you
Always happy to chat
Hugs
Nyla x
@ndream
Hi Nyla, welcome to CDH.
My sincere condolences on your loss. It's good that she was able to accept your crossdressing within boundaries. I think you will take much comfort from that moving forward.
You have definitely come to the best place on the net to share your experiences with a like-minded community. Rest assured, you will find chats, advice and acceptance, because that's what the site is all about. This is a safe, supportive environment in which you can confidently explore your CD feelings. Advice is to be had by the bucketload, so don't be afraid to ask questions at any time.
It's lovely to welcome another UK girl, too. I'm up in Tyne and Wear.
Have a good look around the site. There's plenty to see and get involved in, so make yourself at home.
Hugs
Hi Jacqueline
Thank you so much for this welcome message
I had a peak at your profile and your situation is almost identical to what I had with my partner before she passed away. I told her everything but she would only accept some limited wearing of underwear and occasional clothes, but no make up or wigs etc. Basically i had to still look like a man.
I was with her for 21yrs and loved her dearly with all my heart and miss her with every breath. However, When i met her i didn't really understand or accept my own gender identity, and therefore I totally understand why she was reluctant to fully accept my CDing. But this just meant me pushing my feelings deep down inside and feeling incomplete.
All I know is that I need to be my authentic self if am to ever have any deep relationships in the future. At the moment I'm surrounded by people who dont understand that part if me and who can blame them because I've never told them!
Always happy to chat and listen...
Hugs
Nyla x
@ndream
Hi Nyla and welcome.
I’d also like to add my condolences for the loss of your partner.
I can see why this has left you in a bit of a crossroads in life.
Fortunately, you’ve come to just the right place to move forward with this side of you. This is a very welcoming and friendly and safe site, where you’ll find all the support you could ask for from lots of like minded people.
We love to chat and I’m sure you’ll feel right at home pretty soon
Hugs
Lucy
Thanks Lucy
Yes definitely at a crossroads. I feel like I've got a chance to change and that's what I hope to do.
It's no wonder that trans people who grew up without the Internet are realising who they really are so late in life. My heart goes out to everyone here because just to be here at all must have been a real mental journey.
Hugs
Nyla x
@ndream Im so very sorry for your loss and so young. Breaks my heart. Were all here for you ! Sincerely RC
@ndream Im so very sorry for your loss and so young. Breaks my heart. Were all here for you ! Sincerely RC
Thanks River that's so kind..
I'm working through it and trying to reorganise my life
All the lovely comments on here been so supportive and healing ❤️
Always happy to chat
Hugs Nyla x
Welcome Nyla. It's a small world....
Until 12 years ago, I lived in Scunthorpe too!
Hi Michaela, Wow, small world indeed. I see you're living in the states now, are you from Scunthorpe? X
@ndream Nope, originally from Oldham, but grew up in SW London before joining the Navy and travelling around. I ended up in Gainsborough for 22 years before moving to Scunny. I left the UK in 2012 and have never had the urge to go back. I used to live on St. Margarets Walk.
Wow you've really moved around!
I used to work in Gainsborough for year's
Totally understand why you've not been back...
What made you move to the states?
Nx
Hi Nyla!
Welcome to CDH!
I think you will find the community helpful, encouraging and supportive.
I took have gone through the loss of my SO and how that brought me to a crossroads in my CD journey so can empathize with your situation.
Again, welcome to CDH!
Catherine
Hi Catherine, thanks for the welcome.
I'm sorry to hear of your SO, its so emotional on so many levels.
It's like I have to start rebuilding my life again and I've really thought hard about what type of life I really want. It's so hard after being in a couple for so long, all my friends are other couples who have been great, but none of them know about my CDing and it feels like a lonely place at the moment.
How did that crossroads affect you? What changed in your life if that isn't too personal?
Nyla x
Hi Nyla,
Welcome to CDH. So sorry to hear you lost your SO.
Alice
Thank for warm welcome and your condolences
Hope to see you around
Hugs
Nyla x
Hi Nyla nice to meet you and again sorry for your loss but happy you found and joined us girls here so do some looking around then some reading of the forums and posts .. Now as a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. So girl when you get comfortable with us please join in with a story or two about the life and times of Nyla as she travels down her own girly path in life.. There are so many ladies from all over the world to build long lasting friendships with and best of all we are just a simple click away from you .. Once again girlfriend nice meeting you and hope to see you around for a chat sometime soon..
Stephanie Bass
Thanks Stephanie
I have been made so welcome it's almost overwhelming in a good way..
I have been looking around on here and so many stories that are the same or similar to my own. I plan to write more about my story and my feelings about going forward and hope to share experiences.
Hope to see you also, always happy to chat and listen...
Hugs
Nyla x
Hi @ndream
So sorry for your loss, I can't imagine how that must be for you.
As has been said, here you can find support, advice and a comfortable place to hang out.
On the subject of where you live, my partner loves the name 'Scunthorpe'. She thinks it sounds really romantic and posh. She is French though 😀
Thanks Caroline
Wow, romantic, she'll be shocked if she actually comes to Scunthorpe, its basically a steelworks with town on the side! Fortunately for me I actually live in a country village in the outskirts...
Thanks for your condolences
Hope to see you around, always up for a chat...
Hugs
Nyla x
@ndream
Haha, yes Nyla - I've tried explaining to her that Scunny is reputed to be... not as glamorous as she might think. Also, that the name doesn't sound very romantic to English ears, but every time we pass the Scunthorpe turn-off on the A1, she gets all doe-eyed 🤣
Hi Nyla,
Welcome to CDH it's nice to meet you we are like one big happy family on here so don't be shy come on in and join the family,
I'm a mature crossdresser I've been dressing most of my life since i was about 8 or 9 years old when i tried my older sister's lingerie on I'm still in the closet to my wife and family,
I'm a UK girl too I'm down in Shropshire, I'm sure there are lots of girls near to where you live who will be happy to meet up with you for a coffee and a chat, I'm sure you will find lots of friends on here so if you have any questions just ask and the girls will be happy to get back to you and help you anyway they can X
Hugs Rozalyn X 🤗
Thanks Rozalyn
Everyone has been really welcoming. Just talking to other like minded souls has been such an experience and i hope to make good friendships on here for my own sanity.
I too have been crossdressing since childhood but only really accepted it about 15 yrs ago. My dressing has been very limited throughout most of my life due to circumstances but im hoping to step it up in the future.
Good to hear from you
Always up for a chat
Hugs
Nyla x
@ndream
Your welcome Nyla,
I started young and i thought i was the only one who liked wearing women's clothes so i hid it away from everyone, then i got married and thought it would (cure) me so to speak, but over the years I've found that there is no (cure) really and over the last 5 to 10 years my desire to dress has gotten stronger,
The girls on here are fantastic they will help you anyway they can all you have to do is ask,
Hugs Rozalyn X 🤗
Thanks Rozalyn
I know what you mean about there not being a cure. As a newbie I just need to figure out to what level I want to CD. Full time, Part time or some kind of androgyny.
Thanks for your reply
Hugs
Nyla x
Hi Nyla and welcome to CDH. I am so sorry to read about the loss of your partner but I'm glad you're letting your feminine side come out and take care of you. She has steered you here for a start, which is the best place to get to know other girls, make friends and chat as light-heartedly or as deeply meaningfully as you wish.
Hugs,
Fiona xxx
