Hi, I'm VictorianLady, aka Vivian

Hi Vivian, and welcome.  I too love the feel of tightly laced corsets.  I wear them with virtually anything I may be wearing, whether its a dress or just a blouse and capris. The funny thing, that I am sure you also notice, is after you have a tightly laced corset on for awhile it is not uncomfortable.

I see from your profile you have not yet ventured out into public.  Going out 'en femme' is a choice each of us is free to make.  In my case, I was fortunate to make friends with a group of girls, who I met here at CDH, and formed a little group called "Confident U" to encourage crossdressers who are reluctant to gain the confidence to go 'out and about' to do so without fear or shame.  Our program teams 'newbies' and 'first-time-out' girls with experienced crossdressers who take these girls under under their wings to experience to fun being out in public can be.  We choose a non-threatening venue (currently Las Vegas fits this demographic), have a complete makeovers by a professional makeup artist (Amy at "Just You"), then it's off to Happy Hour, dinners and shopping.  While our program is in its infancy, we have had early success, since our concept is not about "PASSING" but "BLENDING".  And that puts a whole different perspective on being 'out and about'.  I encourage you to seek out new friends in your area (through the CDH membership directory).  It is so much fun to be with other like-minded girls and doing 'girly' things!  Hugs, Paulette

Hi Vivian,

Welcome to CDH.

Alice

Hi Vivian nice to meet you and happy you found and joined us girls here so get settled in relax and enjoy yourself here.. You know as a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also..  Well girlfriend there is a wealth of knowledge here to access and learn from so look around and ask many questions of these wonderful ladies here telling there stories about there journeys down the femme road they are on .. So girlfriend when you get comfortable with us please join in with a story or two about the life and times of Vivian as she travels down her own girly path in life.. Now as for making friends here there are so many ladies from all over the world to build long lasting friendships with and best of all we are just a simple click away from you .. Once again Vivian nice meeting you and hope to see you around for a chat sometime soon..

Stephanie Bass

Vivian,

Welcome to CDH!

As a history buff I am digging the Victorian Lady angle!

We are both at a similar point in our journey as you said:

I don’t want to transition and I don’t really want to come out. If I wanted anything it would be making one trip to a masquerade ball in full make-up and masquerade dress.

I can relate to the one trip to the ball dream. 🙂

Paulette, said: I see from your profile you have not yet ventured out into public. Going out ‘en femme’ is a choice each of us is free to make.

Very well said, and as cross dressing is a journey one never knows where it might lead. I am totally private dresser and very happy with that for now, but it is nice to know there are girls like Paulette, who support those who want to venture out.

Paulette also said,

It is so much fun to be with other like-minded girls and doing ‘girly’ things!

While I am not venturing out in public, I have found CDH to be a place where I am not alone any more in my cross dressing and I can hang out here with, "like-minded girls, virtually doing "girly" things."

Being able to hang with the girls here and do "girly" things, well they have all been great and has brought me much joy.

Can't thank everyone I have had the privilege to interact with at CDH enough.

Gratefully, Catherine

Hello Vivian,

"A girl after my own heart". I have two period gowns, one "Scarlett O Caty" Civil War replica. the other the full blown with panniers "Marie Antoinette". I have suitable wigs and the underbust corset to go with them. But I have lost the desire to fiddle around with the corset to get it on properly and dont wear it anymore. Bit the same with "Marie", but I wont part with them both

See my public photos on this site for more.

Perhaps "fittingly", (bad pun), "all of the above" reside in an old tin steamer trunk in my storage unit about 30 mins from home.

Happy (period) dressing

Caty.

Hi Vivian welcome to CDH it's nice to meet you we are like one big happy family on here so don't be shy come on in and join the family,

I'm a mature crossdresser I've been dressing most of my life since i was about 8 or 9 years old when i tried my older sister's lingerie on I'm still in the closet to my family,

I'm sorry i can't meet up with you for a coffee ☕ I'm on the other side of the pond in the UK, I'm sure there are lots of girls near to where you live who will be happy to meet up with you for a coffee and a chat I'm sure you will find lots of friends on here so if you have any questions just ask and the girls will get back to you, there are lots of girls on here from beginner's to full time girls who dress 👗 24/7 we don't judge anyone on here it's a safe place for everyone,

You shall go to the Ball I'm sure one or many of the girls will help to make your dream come true and join you there X

Hugs Rozalyn X 💋

Hi Vivian,

I have a corset and a cincher, they certainly help one feel especially feminine. I hope you have many more opportunities to enjoy being en femme.

Hugs & kisses,
W.

Hello Vivian welcome to CDH I am glad you have shared a part of who you are in your background and found us and made the step to become part of a family that is welcoming, understanding, compassionate, and supportive. While we are all similar and have many of the same desires we all differ on our goals or public expression and or level of personal experiences. I encourage you to explore the many forums, topics, polls and member biographies found here as there are a wide range of members all over the spectrum of feminine expression some like just to crossdress or be enfemme some are on the path to transition and those that have. There are also links to websites that have products and services that may help you on your own personal path of acceptance and self expression. Ultimately it is a place, home, or world were you can feel feel comfortable and confident in who you are; as being who you truly are as your authentic self of you being a man, a woman, or expressing your feminine desires feelings and or qualities. I am happy you are here and have made a choice to accept this part of yourself as self acceptance is the most important thing you can do for yourself and others. You can’t expect others to accept you if you don’t accept yourself all of you. As you are sharing a part of your authentic self here on CDH it ultimately lifts some of the burden that you may be feeling which many of us have carried for what seems like a lifetime you are not alone. Being here helps not only yourself but helps others gain acceptance and confidence I am happy you have made the step to be here. Welcome!

Hugs April

Vivian Wonderful to have you here with us. Many girls to chat ,make friends with and  much to read through our forums and such. So get settled and start enjoying being part of a place to express your inner feelings and share them with gals that support and understand our needs for dressing. Happy to welcome you here with us.   Hugs!

Stephanie 🌹

Hi Vivian, welcome to the CDH family. I'm glad you could join us.

Rose 🌹

So I have to ask, what was/is your favorite part. It's honestly the felling of transforming as much as it wearing all the layers.

Are any of you actually in the Huntsville, AL area?