How do I get the courage

Welcome to CDH Tina.You will certainly make many friends on here.We are a friendly and helpful community.Have fun being part of it.

Tina , welcome . You’ll find just that many friends in an environment where all can enjoy our femininity without judgement. A beautiful place with wonderful people like yourself. Happy meeting you and looking forward to seeing you around here.

Stephanie 🌹

Tina,

Ditch the jeans. I had shaved legs long before most people knew I crossdressed, and I didn't get one comment. People are really unobservant. No-one notices.

Welcome Tina and you will find support and friendship here. I agree with Rachel, people will not notice. Go out once without those jeans and you will see for yourself.

Hello and welcome Tina! This is the perfect place to find advice, support, and encouragement. I agree, ditch the jeans and go out! Look around at other men you see in shorts, you will be surprised at the number of hairless legs you will see. It’s not as uncommon as you think.

Tina, struggling with the lifestyle is difficult enough. Don't compound it by trying to please others. They are your legs! At first you will feel a bit uncomfortable. You might even be confronted about it. I had a friend, say to me, in front of several others, you don't have any hair on your legs! I won't tell you my response but here are some you can use; do you always check out mens legs, it fell out just like my head, my SO likes them this way, I like them like this, is this a problem for you, I don't like fur on me, do you like it on you? Girl, I could go on and on. Making life decisions to primarily please others is bad juju. If you want em shaved, shave away and wear those shorts! HUGS Mina.

Welcome, Tina.

Well, I can certainly relate to being self conscious about my shaved legs.  I do like my legs shaved and I do like my toe nails painted.

Just for fun this week, when I had two air conditioning guys out to the house giving me quotes for a new system, I wore shorts and flip flops which didn't hide my toes or shaved legs at all.  If they noticed, they didn't say anything.  No one got to see my pretty floral panties.

I wore said shorts and flip flops to the UPS store - same response.

It is sad to read post after post where the writer is so consumed in fear that they cannot be true to themselves and show the world their beauty.  Prudence and caution are virtues.  But to live (and hide) in fear is not for me.  To thine own self be true is my mantra.

Be bold! Be courageous!  Be fearless. You may surprise yourself.

Choose joy,

Renee

Thank you sooo much for those encouraging words!  i have lived in fear for over a decade but lately i wear panties 24/7 even when going to the YMCA where i work out.  i change in men’s locker room because i present as male.  i wear plain, everyday panties(all cotton to workout) and no one has ever remarked on my underwear 

Welcome Tina, hope you'll enjoy your time here 🙂 It also took me awhile and a move to start going out dressed up. I started out with meetup and started going out with the groups in my area. Take it one step at a time, and I agree with everyone here - be your beautiful self!

Hi Tina , I know how you feel as well as probably a great deal of us here feel, I actually have recently moved to a new town although small its not far from a city. I'm pretty sure as big as it is their must be some place where the trans community gather, one must hope.I have not gathered the courage up yet to venture out and about in my town although I have thought about it a lot and have come close, just the other night I was all dressed up nails done cute dress sporting a beautiful pair of platform shoes and I had a glass of wine after dinner I got up walked to the door and said to myself open it go straight to the car and go to that city and find a place to go and have another glass of wine of course, I needed one at that point. But I just couldn't do it all I kept thinking about was if I were discovered what kind of trouble would it bring to my daughter who is turning 14. I also am having trouble with this, I know I am going to tell her of Coral soon but I want to be me, that is my job. Then I will be free to live as Coral and we could go to that place together and talk about this and have a good laugh

Yes, it is more difficult when there are children living at home that can be hostages so to speak to your behavior especially in more insular societies like small towns.  It is sad that our families can be punished for our indiscretions.  Take heart and use the closeness to a big city.

Hi Bobbi, yes it is a shame but we do have to be cautious don't we

I have never had anyone say anything about my shaved legs at least to me but they have shaven for many years I don't think my daughter has ever noticed or she might think I'm to old to have hair on my legs

Yes, we have to protect those we love especially  children.  i am fortunate both mine a grown and gone