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Hi Everyone!

My name is Becky and I am so excited to finally join a community of like minded friends.  I love my wife and family so much, but I am a closet panty loving crossdresser.  My wife is totally okay with me wearing panties, but she doesn’t know the extend of my crossdressing passion.  I would love to dress up all the way and go out in public.  For so long I’ve been convinced I’m straight, but I’ve been very bi curious lately.  I guess I’m hoping to meet some fellow crossdressers that I can learn from and share my passions with.

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@smheo12345 Hi and welcome Becky,a wonderful worldwide smorgasbord of chat, advice and friendship await you honey x

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@samanthaxxxx thanks so much for the welcome! Do you have any advice on how to get into community?

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@smheo12345 I've sent you private message x

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Illustrious Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
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@smheo12345 

Hi Becky

Welcome to CDH 🙂

This really IS a community. It's one of the most supportive groups of people that I've ever come across. I've been on the site for just under a year and I've loved every minute of my time here.

It's a great place to make friends, and hopefully you'll have kick-started that process by posting your intro.

When you send people friend requests (clicking on their name will take you to their home page, where you can select 'Add Friend') the first thing they usually do is to go to your profile to find out a little bit more about you. Because of that, it's a good idea to make your profile as full as you can. A few minutes spent doing that can really pay off 🙂

There's lots to explore here. Have fun, and if you need help with anything just shout.

Ellie x

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@ellyd22 thanks so much!  I’ll work on my bio!

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@smheo12345 

Here's a direct link to your profile page:

Profile – Becky Acosta – Crossdresser Heaven

To make any changes, for example to your bio, you have to do the following:

 

1). You'll see various options: 'View', 'Edit', 'Change Profile Photo', 'Change Cover Image'. Select 'Edit'.

2). In this view you can make changes to anything you like EXCEPT for your username, which has to stay constant.

3). IMPORTANT! Once you've made any changes it's essential that you scroll down and then click on 'Update'. Unless you do that, any changes that you've made will be lost.

 

Hope that helps 🙂

Ellie x

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Posted by: @Anonymous 96439

Hi Everyone!

My name is Becky and I am so excited to finally join a community of like minded friends.  I love my wife and family so much, but I am a closet panty loving crossdresser.  My wife is totally okay with me wearing panties, but she doesn’t know the extend of my crossdressing passion.  I would love to dress up all the way and go out in public. I guess I’m hoping to meet some fellow crossdressers that I can learn from and share my passions with.

 

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Noble Member     Fife, United Kingdom
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@smheo12345 

Hi, Becky and welcome to CDH, the best crossdresser community there is.

We are all at our own stage in our journey, be it in experience, motivation or future plans, but we share a love of expressing our feminine sides. 

Feel free to be yourself!

Allie 

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@smheo12345 

Hi Becky, welcome to CDH.

You've already found what a supportive and encouraging site this is. You're part of an amazing community, in a truly safe environment where you can talk freely about your desire to crossdress.

You have a good starting point with your wife. She knows about your need to wear panties, so it should be easier (not easy!) to tell her that you would like to go further. She will have questions, and it's possible that you may not know the answers. Be patient and respect her feelings, and the way forward will become clear to you both. 

Don't hesitate to ask questions or seek advice from your sisters here.  We love to chat and help if we can!

Hugs

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@jacquelinelarkspur thanks so much for welcoming me and your advice!

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@smheo12345 Welcome to CDH, Becky!

Good communication with and respect for your partner will be key to making a smooth ride out of things. Try not to be impatient.

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Noble Member     Baltimore, Maryland, United States of America
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@smheo12345 You've unpacked a lot in those few sentences, it's tough to say where to start.

My advice would be to first repeat most of that to your wife. If you truly feel she's your life partner, then she deserves to know. Buckle up, however, because she may have questions either you can't answer or don't want to. Still if you want a relatively smooth path, I'd say that's the first item to tackle.

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@melodeescarlet I appreciate your thoughts.  Thanks!

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(@rebeccabaxter)
Noble Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
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I'd try to find a way to test the waters. Just because your wife is perfectly happy for you to wear ladies underwear, -- I expect a lot of men do that and their girlfriend or wife thinks it's a bit sexy and deliciously illicit -- to suddenly come out and say that you not only want to do this but also want to present as a woman in public; I mean, that's one hell of a jump from a bit of harmless panty wearing. To also admit that you are tending towards bisexuality might be a real shock.

 

However, and how much, you decide to reveal, I wish you luck and truly hope it all goes well.

 

In any event, welcome to the forum.

 

Becca

xx

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(@fishingr8)
Illustrious Member     Montana, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Becky so nice to meet you girl and happy you found and joined us girls here so do some looking around and reading of the forums and posts from so many ladies here telling there stories about there journeys down the femme road they are on in life.. As a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. So when you get comfortable with us please join in with a story or two about the life and times of Becky as she travels down her own girly path in life.. Now as for making friends here there are so many ladies from all over the world to build long lasting friendships with and best of all we are just a simple click away from you .. Now as miss Ellie has mentioned filling in more on your profile page only helps us get to know you better so thanks.. Once again girlfriend nice to meet you and hope to see you around for a chat sometime soon..

Stephanie Bass

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(@aliceunderwire)
Illustrious Member     Near Burlington, Vermont, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Becky,

Welcome to CDH.  It’s nice to meet you.

Alice

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