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Duchess
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(@feline)
Estimable Member     If using a city the closest city would be Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada
Joined: 2 years ago

It has been almost a year since I left because of my silly guilty complex and purged most of my en femme clothes and I miss them all. I kept my panties and bras and a couple of other things. But I know Sara has not been impressed with those decisions and so here I am back again. Saying that any helping hand would be greatly appreciated and thank you in advance

 

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Baroness Annual
(@fembecky)
Joined: 5 years ago

Noble Member     Gloucestershire, United Kingdom
Posts: 602

@feline 

Hi Sara, welcome back. It's a story so often told ... purge and then start again; I have been there myself. I also recently published an article about my own faltering early steps ("Mentors and Muses") that you might relate to. You are back among many friends here, where I am sure you will find much support.

Hugs, Rebecca x

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Duchess
(@feline)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     If using a city the closest city would be Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada
Posts: 161

@fembecky Thank you so much for the quick response to this mixed up "girl" 

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Ambassador
(@alexina)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 2208

@feline 

Welcome back, Sara, I hope you're feline better now! [Loud groans from the cheap seats]

Purging: The throwing away of perfectly good stuff because, a) we think it'll "cure" us, b) we allow our notion of society's disapproval to influence our harmless and beneficial behaviour. Best avoided in favour of "stashing".

Sara, you'll know how understanding and supportive this community is already, spending time here is the best preventative for those unwelcome and costly feelings.

You'll also know that this it's safe to share here so please do, especially if you're thinking of purging again!

Allie x

 

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Duchess
(@feline)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     If using a city the closest city would be Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada
Posts: 161

@alexina Thank you Allie and it is nice to hear and feel the compassion from other members already and to know I am not the only one that has gone through this

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Ambassador
(@alexina)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 2208

@feline 

I think most of us have purged, often more than once. I know I have 🙄. Not any more though.

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(@carolinecd306)
Joined: 7 months ago

Estimable Member     Fraser Valley, British Columbia, Canada
Posts: 119

@feline Hi Sara, I returned last fall after a hiatus, welcome back. 

 

C

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Duchess
(@mkat3874)
Joined: 4 months ago

Reputable Member     Northeast GA , Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 231

@feline 

Hi Sara

I joined during the time while you were away. Welcome back and nice to meet you.  I can relate as, like many others, I've done the same.  It's been a few years now since my last purge and I've come to a more accepting place now but after I last purged I decided to see it as an opportunity to rebuild better.  In my case I had held onto many items that were either outdated or impractical.  As I started to build back I determined to focus on developing my style to what I would wear if I were going out of the house.  I've now got a larger closet than before and, for the most part, it is comprised of items that I would wear if planning to go out. 

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Duchess
(@feline)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     If using a city the closest city would be Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada
Posts: 161

@mkat3874 Hi Michelle and thanks for the encouraging and positive message. I like your pictures and know I can never look as good as you do and can relate to your profile too. But I kept a few things (panties) that I just can't part with and wear them and only them. Now the chore of building my regular things is about to begin. Thanks again for the message Heart

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4018

@feline Welcome to CDH, Sara!

Your profile may need a bit more updating, but, if you really are single now, then there should be no need to purge.

Hopefully CDH has the right stuff to keep you active here and to keep you crossdressing. 

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Duchess
(@feline)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     If using a city the closest city would be Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada
Posts: 161

@harriette Thank you for the message and I hope that will be the result of this time starting again. I realize I had to update my profile and it will be updates ongoing as Sara has reemerged and we are not going back in the closet. She is making that perfectly clear. Heart

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Lady
(@kimdl94)
Joined: 9 months ago

Reputable Member     Blearmill, Texas, United States of America
Posts: 175

@feline been there, done that! Glad you have found your way back!

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Lady
(@joannajoy)
Joined: 2 months ago

Reputable Member     British Columbia, Canada
Posts: 217

@feline hello Sara… welcome back!! I to am a Canuck , from NE BC… feel free to reach out, I’d love to chat some time… hugs… jo

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Duchess
(@jennconn)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Florida, United States of America
Posts: 768

@feline I’m glad you are back Sara, and I hope you never have to feel the guilt or shame that we’ve all felt that made us try to give this up.  I know for myself, I finally realized that I’ll never be able to give this up, and I’m never going to purge again.  Once you get to that point I hope you’ll never leave again either, it’s just too traumatic.

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Ambassador
(@gafran)
Joined: 9 months ago

Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 1142

@feline 

 Welcome back to CDH, Sara!

 We've saved a place for you! 

Your sisters await to support and assist you in any way we can. 

Welcome back to the Pink Fog!

 Fran 🥰 

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(@jessicacynthia)
Joined: 3 months ago

Reputable Member     London, United Kingdom
Posts: 193

@feline Welcome back.

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Managing Ambassador
(@ellyd22)
Joined: 2 years ago

Majestic Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
Posts: 5221

@feline 

Hi Sara

Welcome back 🙂

Since you've been here before, you'll have a good understanding of how this place operates; if there's any support needed, we'll be here for you. We're all in this together and you'll always find friends here.

Hugs

Ellie x

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Duchess
(@feline)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     If using a city the closest city would be Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada
Posts: 161

@ellyd22 Thank you Ellie for the wonderful and encouraging message and I did read your profile and I have similar feelings inside aching for Sara to be set free. I thought I was there and had quite a wardrobe in my girl closet but when I was having some friends coming and staying for a week I had to make a decision about my clothes and you know it was the wrong one but then had to live with it with the pain of Sara being locked up again. I kept a few things hidden and still have them and wear my panties all the time and the bra whenever I can but now I think I am ready to start a new wardrobe. Here's hoping this road will have fewer bumps in it. Thank you again

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Lady
(@nataliecd)
Estimable Member     Minnesota, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Welcome Sara! There are a lot of people who have gone through similar things and hopefully you can find support among friends here 🙂

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Duchess
(@feline)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     If using a city the closest city would be Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada
Posts: 161

@nataliecd Thank you Natalie for your compassionate and helpful little note along with the others. First day back and was glad to see my old pics still here as they are all I have left from before I left because of the guilt complex which I realize was a stupid glitch

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Hostess
(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Sara, Welcome back to the fold. You know we are an understanding group and are always ready to embrace offer a helping hand.

This place is like having a red button to press when we have an emergency knowing a rapid response will come.

Always good to see someone return.

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Duchess Annual
(@firefly)
Noble Member     Panama, Panama, Panama
Joined: 7 years ago

Hi Sara.

Welcome back. 

Gisela

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(@Anonymous 100087)
Reputable Member
Joined: 2 months ago

i left for a year or two. not because i purged, but because thing got repetitive here. i left to enjoy the real world for a while. done lots of things and gone lots of places. i have new stories to tell. and to help others out into the real world. if you are out in the real world you probably never get rid of your clothes. you would show the world who you are or who you want to be. so that's why i'm back. hope we can change your views with what we do. 

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(@justnikki)
Prominent Member     Seattle, Washington, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

So glad you found your way back! To us, and to yourself!

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Baroness Annual
(@d44)
Famed Member     New York, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Welcome back Sara!

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Princess
(@erinb)
Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

Welcome back Sara nice to meet you sorry to hear you post hope all is well tho 

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(@aliceunderwire)
Illustrious Member     Near Burlington, Vermont, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Sara,

Welcome back to CDH.  
Alice

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Hostess
(@fishingr8)
Illustrious Member     Montana, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hiya Sara so happy a sister has come back home its so wonderful to see this happening as for keeping the porch light on so you can find your way home he he .. Hugs sister and our friendship has never changed and never will as you are just a little bit above me here in Montana think about it sometime send a message so we chat ..

Stephanie Bass

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Duchess
(@feline)
Joined: 2 years ago

Estimable Member     If using a city the closest city would be Regina, Saskatchewan, Canada
Posts: 161

@fishingr8 Hi Neighbor. Love to chat any time you like. Starting to rebuild my wardrobe again.

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Lady
(@jml)
Reputable Member     Near Boston, Massachusetts, United States of America
Joined: 1 year ago

Hi Sara,

Welcome back to CDH.

Joan

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Prominent Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Joined: 2 months ago

🍒🍒 Hi  Sara   ,
Welcome to CDH!, I'm so glad to see you here , !!!

Huggs 💓
Stephanie 👠

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