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(@Anonymous)
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Hi Everyone,

My name is Spectra, and I joined CDH this week.  I started crossdressing when I was a teenager.  Then I stopped for about 10 years.  I started again for a couple of years before I stopped for another 10 years or so, and I've been off and on since.  A little over a year ago I told my wife who has been accepting but has only been interested in limited participation so far.

I have a transgender daughter, and it was only because of her courage to come out to my wife and I that inspired me to come out to my wife.  My daughter has no idea about my crossdressing.

I've been in therapy for awhile now to help overcome my obstacles with depression, shame, embarrassment, etc.

By day, I consult with small businesses as a CFO and provide payroll and bookkeeping services through my business.

I was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder last year hence the name Spectra.

I'm looking forward to participating in the forums and learning more about other people's experiences.

Spectra

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(@Anonymous)
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Hi Spectra and welcome to the CDH family. I'm so glad you could join us.

Rose

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(@wanderer)
Noble Member     Stoney Creek , Ontario, Canada
Joined: 4 years ago

Welcome to CDH Spectra!  Please make yourself at home awith  what I hope will be your home away rom  home.  Any questions, please don't hesitate to ask, the gals here are the best around!

Pleaased to meet you dear! 🙂

Stevie

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(@sometimespaulette)
Prominent Member     Gilbert, Arizona, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Hi Spectra, and welcome.  I think you will find this to be a place where you can make new friends and share your experiences.   Please allow me to say you need not feel shame for your desire to explore your feminine side.  The fact you came out to your wife is a major accomplishment. I am much older than you so I guess my opinion of what others think of me is not very high on my 'social radar'.  In fact, when I finally realized this good things started happening.  CDH has been a wonderful place for me.  I have made many new friends. I get together with some of them for 'adventures'.  We just got back from Las Vegas where we had a wonderful time.   I don't know where you live in Northern California but there is a very active group in Sacramento, the River City Gems.  Hopefully you can tie up with them.  Take care,  ❤ Paulette ❤

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(@Anonymous)
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Hi Spectra,

Welcome! Toxic shame runs very deep and can be an obstacle to our real identities. It seems to effect me very often. I wish healing to you and all of us!

Autumn

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(@aliceunderwire)
Illustrious Member     Near Burlington, Vermont, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Spectra,

Welcome to CDH.

Alice

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(@fishingr8)
Illustrious Member     Montana, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Spectra nice to meet you and happy you  found and joined us girls here so get settled in relax and enjoy yourself here.. As a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. Girl there is a wealth of knowledge here to access and learn from so look around and ask many questions of these wonderful ladies here telling there stories about there journeys down the femme road they are on.. So girlfriend when you get comfortable with us please join in with a story or two about the life and times of Spectra as she travels down her own girly path in life.. Now as for making friends here there are so many ladies from all over the world to build long lasting friendshps with and best of all we are just a simple click away from you..  Once again girl nice to meet you and hope to see you around for a chat sometime soon..

Stephanie Bass

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(@rose)
Illustrious Member     Peterborough , Ontario, Canada
Joined: 7 years ago

Spectra welcome to Cdh

Stephanie 🌷

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(@Anonymous)
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Hi Stephanie,

Thank you for the kind and warm welcome.  I appreciate it very much.  Also, I love your bride photo!  You look wonderful.  I have a bridal fantasy that I have not yet been able to explore, but I hope I can find the courage to do so soon.

Take care,

Spectra

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(@Anonymous)
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Hi Adrienne,

It's great to meet you.  I'm glad you like my name.  I'm so used to sending emails for work, that I'm nervous I'm going to sign off with my regular name one day.  I think it can be hard to compartmentalize this part of my life when I'm trying to multitask.

Take care,

Spectra

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(@Anonymous)
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Hi Paulette,

Thank you for your warm welcome and sharing your experiences.  I hope one day I can be brave enough to go out in public.

Take care,

Spectra

 

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(@missylinda)
Noble Member     Ft Worth, Texas, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Paulette opened the door and escorted me out for the first time in Vegas.  With her encouragement , I was calm and comfortable.  The key was being scared the 3 weeks leading up to it. When it came time I was fine.  You will be also.

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(@wandaovahear)
Prominent Member     Washington, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Hi Spectra,

I guess this would be a rainbow connection. 😉

Hugs & kisses,
W.

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(@terria67)
Noble Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 7 years ago

Hello Spectra,

*Please excuse my long delayed Greeting*

Welcome to our CrossDresser Heaven (CDH) site. So glad you have joined us here. Feel free to explore all that our site has to offer.

The Warmth, Compassion and Hospitality of our community members can be found throughout the site.

Please do make use of the forums and articles or public chat room and friendships offered here on CrossDresser Heaven.

At any Membership level, You can contact any of us via Private Message (PM).  You can find that link on each member’s Wall under their Profile picture.

Also, you may find what you need from: The Help Center or our Ambassadors by using the links in the Top R/H Drop Down 3 bar Menu.

Here is a good link to review the membership levels and the privledges for each. Such as Private Chat (PC), Groups, Additional Photo Allowance, etc.

****** https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/membership-account/membership-levels/

Regards,

Terri Anne, Ambassador

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(@liara)
Noble Member     Texas, United States of America
Joined: 3 years ago

Welcome Spectra.

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