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hi there. off and on cd, only private so far. buy/dress/purge cycles endlessly
@jennichicago Hi Jenni
Welcome to CDH 🙂
You'll find that this is a very friendly and welcoming community. I signed up at the beginning of July, and I've loved every moment of my time here since then. It's a very safe space, and we love to chat. Don't be afraid to ask for help and advice if ever you need it
Many of the girls here dress privately, and many have also been through the dreaded purging cycle more times than they care to remember. So ... you're not alone 🙂
There's load to explore. Have fun poking around. There will always be someone on hand to guide you if you need directions!
Hugs
Ellie x
@jennichicago Welcome to CDH, Jenni!
I truly hope that you break the buy/purge cycle. Is there any reason why you must purge?
@jennichicago Welcome to CDH Jenny! You are not alone and will love this friendly, supportive community.
@jennichicago Welcome Jenni....Thats a cute name! Just about all of us have been through cycles of purging. It really doesn't change anything. It's just a waste of money and time. One though for the next time you feel the need to purge is to pack your things away in a box and put them somewhere you don't see them on a regular basis,,,car trunk, dark basement corner...and just forget about it. Out of sight, out of mind. I have some big regrets about things I have thrown away or donated over the years...
Good luck sister and enjoy being here with us!
@jennichicago Funny you call it a Cycle as thats exactly what it is but I never thought of it that way. or That time of the month lol.I had my cycle for over 30 years since I moved from home. always afraid someone would find my stash or just guilt and shame. Since my SO has known a bit over 2 years now I guess I went thru Man-apause as the cycle has ended. except I Purged my hair 7 months ago out of shame. im trying again though.. I actually did get rid of a few items today but not purging. Just dont wear them and as someone here suggested I put them in the donation bin. first things I have gotten rid of in a long time. Did not have the same mixed feelings of releif and stupidity I used to have so I think it was more spring cleaning than purging. but I so get it.. Welcome. Have a great day RC
@river Very glad that you donated. I started doing that years ago, after hearing about that as a way of purging. Felt very stupid that I hadn't thought about it. lots of write offs lost!!!
thank you for the welcome!!
Hi Jenni,
Welcome to CDH.
Alice
Hi Jenni,
Welcome to CDH!
I think you will find the community helpful, encouraging and supportive.
Hoping being here will maybe help you buy more, purge less.
A girl can wish that for a sister. (and buying is way so much fun!) 🙂
Again, welcome to CDH!
Catherine
Hi Jenni,
Welcome to CDH it's nice to meet you we are like one big happy family on here so don't be shy come on in and join the family,
I'm a mature crossdresser I've been dressing most of my life since i was about 8 or 9 years old when i tried my older sister's lingerie on I'm still in the closet to my family,
I'm sorry i can't meet up with you for a coffee I'm on the other side of the pond in the UK, I'm sure there are lots of girls near to where you live who will be happy to meet up with you for a coffee and a chat I'm sure you will find lots of friends on here so if you have any questions just ask and the girls will get back to you,
We have all been there dressing and liking it then feeling the shame and purging, but there is no need to feel ashamed it's who we are just people who love wearing what is deemed women's clothes nothing more nothing less, we don't hurt anyone by wearing a bra and a dress 👗,
Hugs Rozalyn X
Jenni -
Welcome to CDH. You will find this to be a friendly place where you can share your journey, get advice and make friends. Be sure to check out the forums, articles and join the conversation in chat.
XOXO
Suzanne
Hi Jenni, and welcome 🙂
Remember - the trick is DO NOT PURGE!
You will always regret it and it costs a fortune 😉
Hi Jenni, and welcome to CDH. You'll find plenty of support and understanding here in this wonderful sisterhood.
Feelings of shame about what we do are very common. As others have said, we know exactly where you're coming from and can relate. My own first purge occurred when I was 14. I'd been dressing regularly at home for a year, whenever my parents were out. I kept all my stuff in a holdall in my wardrobe. One day I was horrified to discover my secret stash of clothes was not in the holdall. After a frantic search I found everything in a black plastic sack behind a chest of drawers in my parents' bedroom. Obviously this meant that one or both of my parents now knew my secret, and yes, I felt deep shame.
It happened to be dustbin day, so I took the bag and, vowing to never crossdress again, hurled it into the passing refuse truck. I've had several purges since then, though they've increasingly been more due to fear of discovery than shame.
Anyway, you are definitely not alone!
Take care.
Purging is common and everyone says they regret it. Perhaps there are people who have purged and never came back. But I've never heard anyone say that. Early on I would, shop, dress, purge in small intervals. Then dressed for a four or five years and then had a major purge. I immediately felt like I had lost a family member. It was a very sad feeling. I remained purged for almost ten years but the shopping and dressing infiltrated my dreams. The urges were strong anytime I was near a woman's clothes department. I've been back now for seven years and force myself to wait it out anytime I feel like I should purge because I know I'll regret it.
Hi Jenni,
Welcome to the site. I’m new too.
Joan
Hi Jenni, Im Kerri. I live just down the road from you near Rockford. You should stop feeling guilty about cding. After all they’re just clothes. Who cares what you wear?
Hi Jenni nice to meet you and as we see you joined a bit ago hope you have been looking around and reading the forums and posts from so many ladies here.. As a sister and family member you know you have been welcomed with open arms into this home with all the other girls here.. Have fun girlfriend and remember we all love to chat so please say hello sometime ..
Stephanie Bass
I can safely say I have never purged. I only started this lark at the end of last year and since my wife knows and is supporting I doubt I'd be able to chuck anything out without her going through it first to see what she could wear (not that I'm going to).
