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looking for company to dress girly with!

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Lady
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(@stephaniemelody)
Active Member     morris, New York, United States of America
Joined: 2 months ago

Hello everyone. I'm just a shy crossdresser, still usually in the closet, dressing up late nights and alone. I want company to hang out with and dress girly girl with. have a little party or something. what do you all think?

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Duchess
(@rebeccaoh)
Joined: 7 months ago

Estimable Member     Oxford, Ohio, United States of America
Posts: 77

@stephaniemelody I’ve always thought a video session meetup would be a fun idea since people are so spread out. I’ve used the location tools on this site and found somewhat local people, but all of them are inactive members for years. I know some of the UK members here have been meeting up on a regular basis. Not sure stateside, wishing you good luck!

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Ambassador
(@gafran)
Joined: 9 months ago

Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 1136

@stephaniemelody 

Welcome to CDH Stephanie 

 This is the place for all things feminine.

With caring, understanding and compassionate girls like yourself to guide, advise assist you in any way we can. 

You'll have no trouble finding friends and places to experience enfem. 

This site has tutorials, chat information and other girly things. 

Welcome to the Pink Fog!

Fran 🥰 

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Managing Ambassador
(@ellyd22)
Joined: 2 years ago

Majestic Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
Posts: 5217

@stephaniemelody 

Hi Stephanie

Welcome to CDH. I'm glad you found us - this is a wonderful, warm and supportive community.

In terms of meeting up with people, I'm with @melodeescarlet 

https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/community/postid/561613/

When I first joined the site (back in July 2023) I really wanted to make contact with other CDs but I was also a little apprehensive about the prospect. I didn't have a clue how I was going to bring it about. After a lifetime of hiding, I was also rather frightened by the thought 🙁

In the end, it just happened naturally.

I'm simplifying a little, but the basic sequence was that I made lots of friends here on CDH. Some of them were better at keeping up that friendship than others, and the conversation flowed. A few of those friendships developed over several months, to the point that we knew a reasonable amount about each other and decided that we might actually like each other in real life as well 🙂

We started up a series of regular Google Meets, and that in turn led to physical meetings.

Now, I have a little posse of good friends that I can go out and about with. We've shared our adventures here on the site, to the extent that everyone else has probably become very bored with us:

First night out … pretty in Pinks – Crossdresser Heaven

The Privilege of Friendship – Crossdresser Heaven

Leeds First Friday, a Real World Adventure - Part One – Crossdresser Heaven

Leeds First Friday, a Real World Adventure - Part Two – Crossdresser Heaven

Mixing in Manchester – Crossdresser Heaven

The point is that it all happened organically, without any of us forcing it.

Send out a few friend requests, keep up a few conversations and find out who you genuinely click with. You might be surprised where it could lead 🙂

Hugs

Ellie x

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 4016

@stephaniemelody You might want to see what the Meet-Up app has available in your area. There may already be an established group that you could check out. You would need to work up some enthusiasm, to not be shy.

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Duchess Annual
(@janetw)
Reputable Member     Caterham, Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 years ago

Hello Stephanie,

While sadly I would no use to you as I live near London, England I think it is great idea. I have CD friends and as I live alone it is lovely to have friends who accept me as Janet. I very much hope you manage to find friends in the same way. This is great site for doing  this.

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Managing Ambassador
(@melodeescarlet)
Famed Member     DC/Baltimore, Maryland, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

@stephaniemelody Hi Stephanie, I would say that the idea of dressing up with someone in one's home (yours or theirs) is apt to make people wary that there is an ulterior motive - not that there is, but it's likely to set off some alarms.

Getting dressed and going out for a drink or coffee or shopping - somewhere public - first is going to make people more comfortable. It's a tough spot for a closeted gal to be in. :/

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(@stephaniemelody)
Joined: 2 months ago

Active Member     morris, New York, United States of America
Posts: 3

@melodeescarlet 
Yes, it is a tough space cause I won't go out in public dressed UP girly YET.  Too afraid. Id meet someone as a guy in public, wearing a girly outfit under my guy clothes. and after a while, if it feels safe enough to invite whoever over, I WOULD! then strip to my girl clothes and proceed with hair & makeup. then hopefully enjoy the rest of the night.

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Duchess Annual
(@janetw)
Joined: 4 years ago

Reputable Member     Caterham, Surrey, United Kingdom
Posts: 297

@melodeescarlet I must confess I had overlooked that point Melodee, in fact I met in public in male mode before any private meetings and it worked well as everyone felt safe.

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

Stephanie, glad you brought it up! Melodee is correct. That type of invitation will set off alarms. To me it goes without saying, but apparently for some on here it doesn’t. This comment is not aimed at you personally, you just gave me an opening to vent a little as I have a little experience in this matter. If I don’t know you, if I have no past history, or knowledge of, or relationship with you, do not invite me over to your house to play dress up. I will assume you have ulterior motives. I don’t care how subtle and innocent it sounds. Especially since, if you’ve seen me around CDH these last 4 months, you have a fairly good idea of my personality and what I look like, yet I have none of you. No profile pic. Very little profile filled out, although you somehow manage to make mention in your profile that you’re bisexual. No forum comments. No dialogue with me whatsoever. And then you want to invite me to your house? Thanks but no. (And yes, I’ve had a couple invites in my time here already).

That said, to your point, back in my “first time around” crossdressing time, I did go play dress up with a couple girlfriends. It was fun and memorable. So I’m not against the idea. However, I met them both first a couple times for coffee and lunch…in drab. We all got to know each other first. Then the three of us got all dolled up and drove to the Bay Area for the Miss Gay East Bay pageant and it was a hoot! One of my girlfriends in that adventure was a chief of police in a Bay Area town. She had a weapon in a holster strapped to her thigh under her dress. Needless to say, I felt pretty safe going with them.

CDH resembles Match.com to me in that not everybody is one. A match. You should hang out here and establish yourself a bit before you start sending out invites. Post some pics, make your feelings known about things, and make a few comments. Peel back the onion so to speak. Lest we think you may have nefarious schemes hidden in your bustier.🥰

GP

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(@rebeccabaxter)
Joined: 1 year ago

    Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1332

@gracepal Quite so.

Becca

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(@stephaniemelody)
Joined: 2 months ago

Active Member     morris, New York, United States of America
Posts: 3

@gracepal thanks for the advice.

 

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Posts: 1019

@stephaniemelody Thanks for the opportunity to get something off my chesticles!🤣

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 Erin
Princess
(@erinb)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Posts: 1171

@gracepal well spoken 

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(@ladyc001)
Joined: 4 years ago

Active Member     New York, United States of America
Posts: 3

@gracepal I love everything Grace said.  The group experience is much safer and rewarding. I’ve encountered so many non gentlemen in these spaces.

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(@aliceunderwire)
Illustrious Member     Near Burlington, Vermont, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Stephanie,

Welcome to CDH.

Alice

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(@jessicacynthia)
Reputable Member     London, United Kingdom
Joined: 2 months ago

Welcome to CDH.

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(@ladyc001)
Active Member     New York, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

I have been dressing since forever and meeting people in these rooms has always been scary. Admirers don’t know how to be gentlemen and others I felt weren’t in the same emotional place i was in so I stopped using sites to meet people. I recently went to the Erie Gala and that was life changing. I met a few ladies that were on this site and all said this was pretty cool. I say look for group outings first. Besides it’s nice to have someone else confirm what I’m thinking, “this dress does look good on me.”

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Duchess
(@gracepal)
Joined: 5 months ago

Noble Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Posts: 1019

@ladyc001 I think that with crossdressing especially Carmella, no saying was ever truer than “It takes one to know one.”

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Duchess
(@augustvaliant)
Noble Member     Long Island, New York, United States of America
Joined: 6 years ago

Hi Stephanie!

Welcome to CDH!

Hugs,

Autumn

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Hostess
(@fishingr8)
Illustrious Member     Montana, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hiya Stephanie nice to meet you and happy you found and joined us girls here so get settled in relax and enjoy yourself here.. As a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. With a wealth of knowledge and experience here to learn from do some looking around and reading of the forums and posts with a few profiles thrown in for fun .. When you get comfortable with us please join in with a story or two about the life and times of Stephanie you know seems like a echo here some where any how as she travels down her own girly path in life.. Now as for making friends here girl there are so many ladies from all over the world to build long lasting friendships with and best of all we are just a simple click away from you .. Once again girlfriend nice to meet you and hope to see you around for a chat sometime soon..

Stephanie Bass

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Lady
(@stephanieann)
Honorable Member     Northern California, California, United States of America
Joined: 2 months ago

🎄🎄🎄 Hi  Stephanie    ,   I'm glad to see you join us ,   Welcome !!!

   I think you will.enjoy it here ,  lots of good  support & lov  here 

Anytime you like to chat , Gurl , That would be nice ???

Huggs 

Stephanie👠 

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Duchess
(@catherine0918)
Prominent Member     Henderson, Nevada, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Hi Stephanie!

Welcome to CDH!

I think you will find the community helpful, encouraging and supportive.

Again, welcome to CDH!

Catherine

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