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Hi everyone, I'm Nancy's ( from a few posts ago) husband and I love to wear women's clothes.
It started at puberty. I got curious as to what women's underwear would feel like and tried some on. I loved it. I managed to gather discarded stuff from a closet at home and late at night or when I was home alone, would try it on.
My parents discovered my stash and wondered if I was gay or wanted to be a woman. They were pretty cool about the whole thing but I was still embarrassed to death. My aunt was a nurse and got me to see one of her friend at the hospital that was a psychiatrist. After listening to me and asking a few questions, he told me that it was normal for boys to experiment.
I stopped for several years altogether. It came back after I got married. My wife went to see her family abroad and I stayed home by myself. Here you go.
Then it stopped again for a long time but in the past few years, I started a new stash.
Then about two weeks ago, I asked her if she would think me weird if I wanted to get men's underwear that looked more like women's. She was surprised it even existed but gave me the go ahead.
That started her thinking and, to make it short, she finally discovered my stash and confronted me calmly.
After a bit of panic, I felt an immense relief come over me. That was it, she knew. No more secret.
I told her I liked wearing women's clothes and that I had always been jealous that women had so much to choose from, even men's clothes, and all we had was the same thing over and over. I answered her questions completely truthfully, just happy not to have to hide anything anymore.
A lot of questions had to be answered but in the end it all came down to the fact that I wanted to wear women's clothes from time to time, and she was ok with that.
So am I really a crossdresser? I wear a longish beard that I want to keep, I don't feel the need to wear makeup and a wig, I tried falsies but except for making some dresses fit better in the chest, they don't do anything for me (I don't like bras, they're too constricting). I don't have a female name and I speak in my own voice. I just like to wear the clothes.
Do I have a feminine side? Yes, I do. I read romance novels, my favorite movies are Dirty Dancing, Love Actually, When Harry met sally and almost every romantic comedy that was made, and I watch fashion oriented shows on TV.
But I don't feel the need to look completely like a woman, probably like many of you do.
So here I am. I hope you welcome me just the way I am.
And finally, I would like to thank my wife for being the awesome and understanding being she is. For the past week, communication has been awesome and life wonderful. I promised myself that I would never close myself up to her again and that I would be as open as can be about everything I feel.
Hi honey, welcome to the CDH family. The site is for everyone who enjoys feminine clothing, so feel free to relax here. There are many members like you who enjoy rocking a beard and dislike bras, Hippie being one of the most prominent. I truly hope things work out for you and Nancy, it sounds like there's every chance it will.
Love Trisha
Hi Sebastien
Thanks for sharing your story, and welcome to CDH, a place where you will find many friends who share our wonderful obsession.
Hope you have fun exploring, and are staying safe and well in these strange times.
❤️Bianca
Hi Sebastien, and welcome to the wonderful world of cross dressing, where almost everything you thought you knew about it is turned on its head!
Very few of us are like Dr. Frankenfurter, Dame Edna or Ru Paul - and the majority of professionals are not lumberjacks.
Even though I do like to put on women's clothing and hang around in bars, if you ever try it, the level of seediness in this activity is surprisingly lacking.
I have come to see it not so much as a new normal, as a normal that has been crying out to be such my whole life - and most people I have met while en femme have not only been good with it, but almost embarrassingly complimentary.
This is the place to uncover your history and truths, and expand them into your future journey. To boldly go where few men have gone before!
Love Laura
Hi Sebastien, welcome to CDH, we are all different in the way we practice our interest, some are like you and have no desire to be a woman, others are on the road to a full transition and the majority are somewhere on the continuum between the two points, there is no right answer - we can only be what we are.
You are very fortunate that Nancy is willing to go on this journey with you, many members here would give their left... umm arm... to have such a supportive S.O.
In short ask questions and participate in the various forums and have some fun - it's cool to be a crossdresser - ditch the dirty little secret mentality and embrace your inner woman - I have and I love her.
Hugs and kisses
Diana
Hi Sebastien,
Thank you for sharing your story. Welcome to CDH!
- Robyn
Hello Sebastián, i hope that you and Nancy find all your answers and support here at CDH. Welcome
Welcome Sebastian;
Glad you are able to join us and share your wonderful story.
Amelia 🎀
Hi Sebastian! Welcome to CDH!!❤️🌸🧚🏼
Sebastien,
As I said to your lovely bride, I’m so glad you’re here — both of you together. What a blessing. Treat her with kindness, patience, understanding and love. It’s easy to race ahead of yourself once she finally knows, but please respect any mutual boundaries that she sets and also know that she will likely go through a wide range of unpredictable emotions. One day she might be supportive and even encouraging and the next she might be hostile to the whole thing. Whatever it is, it’s ok (heck, WE don’t even understand this phenomenon very much and have dealt with it our whole lives), and just stay calm and keep communicating.
We’re here to answer any questions and offer support to both you and your wife.
I’ll be praying for you both and your marriage.
God bless,
Steph
Hi Sebastian
welcome and hope you enjoy the site !
hugs
Dawn x
Sebastien welcome to Cdh
Stephanie 🌷
Welcome Sebastian. Please put your mind at ease. You are not alone. Not at all. It is a very, shall we say, colorful community here. I’m sure you’ll feel at home here just as you are.
Best,
Clara
Welcome to CDH you will find out that you are not alone. That there is so many people out there that are jest like you
Hello Sebastien,
There is little I can add to what the other wonderful girls have said. Welcome, you and your wife are definitely in the right place here at CDH. You can learn and grow here and the best part is you can do it together.
❤
Beth
