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Duchess
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(@2balternative)
Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Joined: 3 months ago

Hi,

I'm new to the site and thought I'd nervously 'look around'. I started CD when I was very young (13 years) but stopped at 15 years of age for a long time. I'm nearly 60 and my partner encouraged me to try again. She has provided me amazing support and purchased clothes we both like - so far all online. We are going to go to the shops soon but working out the best way to proceed. So I've started to CD at home and am happy with that at present. I CD a few times a week due to the activity in the house on other days. My partner has been picking my clothes each day. Whilst still nervous I am really enjoying the opportunity to explore and understand my new world. Something we are doing is waxing - my partner has completely waxed me (except my head Wink ). The feeling is amazing, it opened up a whole new world to materials and freedom I wasn't aware of. 

 

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Baroness
(@annaredhead)
Joined: 11 months ago

Famed Member     Cornwall, United Kingdom
Posts: 1777

@2balternative Welcome to CDH. I also have a supportive partner and it is so nice to be able to dress at home.

Hugs,

Anna xx

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Managing Ambassador
(@ellyd22)
Joined: 2 years ago

Majestic Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
Posts: 5171

@2balternative 

Hi Jan

Welcome to CDH 🙂

Your partner sounds wonderful!

You've just become a member of the best CD/TG site on the internet. It's a wonderful place to make friends, seek advice, chat or simply sit back and absorb everything that's going on.

There's lots to explore. Have fun looking around, and if you need help with anything just shout.

Hugs

Ellie x

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@ellyd22 thank you. So far I'm really excited and enjoying the site.

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Managing Ambassador
(@ellyd22)
Joined: 2 years ago

Majestic Member     Norfolk, United Kingdom
Posts: 5171

@2balternative 

Good ... it's a lovely place! 🙂

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Ambassador
(@gafran)
Joined: 9 months ago

Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 1099

@2balternative 

Welcome to CDH Jan!

 This is a nervous release zone. Your among compassionate, caring and understanding girls like us. 

Make friends, chat and find answers to all things feminine. 

 Welcome to the Pink Fog!

 Fran 🥰 

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Ambassador
(@alexina)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 2154

@gafran 

"Nervous release zone" I love that! 😊

Allie x

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Ambassador
(@gafran)
Joined: 9 months ago

Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 1099

@alexina 

I'm only speaking the truth!

Fran 🥰 

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Ambassador
(@alexina)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 2154

@gafran 

I know, Fran, this community has done more for my mental and emotional health than anything I've seen in over 50 years of reading cereal packs.

Allie x

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Ambassador
(@gafran)
Joined: 9 months ago

Noble Member     Warner Robins, Georgia, United States of America
Posts: 1099

@alexina 

AMEN, SISTER  🥰

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Baroness
(@chrisfp99)
Joined: 2 years ago

Famed Member     London , Kent, United Kingdom
Posts: 1709

@2balternative Hey Jan, no need to be nervous (although most of us were 😂). You'll find nothing but support and friendship here. We're glad to have you with us. There are plenty of girls here from Oz so you're not alone. How fabulous that you have the support of your SO. That's pretty much the holy grail around here.

Hugs, Chrissie xx. 

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@chrisfp99 she's a pretty amazing lady. chilled and laid back and very accepting of all

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Ambassador
(@alexina)
Joined: 1 year ago

Illustrious Member     Fife, United Kingdom
Posts: 2154

@2balternative 

Hi, Jan, I see you joined 22 hours ago so I hope the nervousness has long gone. Mine went about 22 seconds after the first replies to my intro post!

I'm also lucky in that my wife is very accepting and helpful, what a difference it makes! She waxes the bits I can't reach and I do the rest and I agree with you, there is nothing like the feeling of hair-free legs etc.

This is a unique community you've joined, you'll have loads of encouragement and help, just ask us anything and we'll do our best for you. It's been mentioned before that the feeling here is more like a family but without the shouting 😂.

So, welcome to the family.

Allie x

 

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@alexina yes a lot less nervous now having had time to go through the site - somewhat superficially. People have been very warm and welcoming. Can't wait to share more

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Baroness
(@river)
Joined: 1 year ago

Noble Member     New Hampshire, United States of America
Posts: 827

@2balternative  You summed it all up in a nutshell.  Its a freedom that cant be explained only experienced.  sounds like you are in a great spot already.  Welcome to CDH   . Cheers RC

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Lady
(@harriette)
Joined: 2 years ago

Illustrious Member     Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Posts: 3991

@2balternative Welcome to CDH, Jan!

I apologize for missing your introduction,  but sometimes it is busy and I miss a few.

Having said that, from all of us, thank your wife for being so accepting and supportive.  She is a treasure.

You seem a bit apprehensive about shopping in stores. There is nothing to it. Shop in the same way as you would shop for your drab clothes. The sales clerks will help you regardless of how you are dressed. 

Access whether you like it, want it, need it, can afford. The most important thing to determine is whether it actually fits your body. Don't guess or else you will eventually need to deal with returns. Either try it on in a change room or record your body measurements over the next little while and bring a measuring tape with you in your purse (or whatever). I haven't needed a change room for a long time.

With practice and attention to detail, you can do this, too.

I look forward to reading your posts, Jan.

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@harriette thanks great advice and hopefully I'll be trying the stores soon

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Duchess
(@gina5)
Joined: 3 months ago

Reputable Member     Washington, United States of America
Posts: 118

@2balternative That’s great you have someone on your side to share with. Being open sure helps with getting rid of anxiety. These girls here offer a lot of encouragement.

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(@lauren114)
Joined: 2 years ago

Noble Member     Delaware, United States of America
Posts: 1191

@2balternative Welcome Jan!  Sounds like you are in a wonderful situation.  We've all experienced nerves and it it completely normal.   Once you get past it, a whole new, amazing world opens up for you.  Just wait until you go out to the shops dressed.   That is totally amazing.   Good for you that your partner waxed you.   That is something that I have always wanted to try.  I just hate body hair!

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@lauren114 thank you  the waxing is great  the shopping we're working on  early days but confident we'll get there

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Managing Ambassador
(@bellaz76)
Joined: 4 months ago

Prominent Member     London, Middlesex, United Kingdom
Posts: 342

@2balternative hello and welcome 🙏 you will love this place ! I joined seven weeks ago and haven't looked back , my husband is also a member , if your SO ever fancies joining too she would be very welcome and can be a friend for me too! ❤️I have found I get as much out of the lovely ladies here as my hubby / wife does. We are similar to you in that hubby has only started to dress regularly at home and we did the first public shopping day recently so sounds like we are all in a v similar situation. I hope to speak with you and possibly your SO very soon ❤️🌈🥰

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@bellaz76 hi Laura thank you  I hadn't tight about my SO joining. I'll let her know you're in here   I'm sure she'll be interested in meeting people on this site

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Managing Ambassador
(@bellaz76)
Joined: 4 months ago

Prominent Member     London, Middlesex, United Kingdom
Posts: 342

@2balternative fabulous, pls tell her that the support I have got from everyone here has improved my relationship hugely, and there is also a specific area for SO's that I could add her to, where she can chat to others, we are treated like one of the ladies and are supported and welcomed hugely 🙂

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@bellaz76 thanks I have passed on your contents so she can work out whether she'd like to join

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Duchess
(@crazycynthia)
Joined: 3 months ago

Estimable Member     zuid holland, Netherlands
Posts: 87

@2balternative welcome! So glad you joined us! Did you realy stop from 15 to 60?! Didnt you miss it? Most cd stop at one point but return within 10 to 15 years!

❤️Cynthia

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@crazycynthia hi Cynthia  yes I did stop at 15 because I joined the military which you can do in Australia and back when I was 15 the world especially the military was less forgiving especially in an alpha male environment  it is only since I've been with my new partner I've built up the courage to try again

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Duchess
(@crazycynthia)
Joined: 3 months ago

Estimable Member     zuid holland, Netherlands
Posts: 87

@2balternative that sonds horrible to be forced back into your closet by an alpha male environment. I feel for you. Well you got a lot of cathing up to do. I also stoped for 10 years at one point. When i came back into crossdressing lipsticks were still called lipstick yet it are nog longer sticks but dips. I was confusion all over the place. What would you say changed the most? 😜 ❤️

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@crazycynthia funny and true  things have changed a lot

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Duchess
(@gina5)
Joined: 3 months ago

Reputable Member     Washington, United States of America
Posts: 118

Smile Laugh @2balternative I’m so happy you are at ease with yourself.  It took me years to get there, but it feels so good to express myself. It sounds like you found someone thats right fir you.  Hugs. Happy Woman Face

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Lady
(@dazzler)
Noble Member     Cardiff, South Glamorgan, United Kingdom
Joined: 4 years ago

Croeso from OLD south wales!

It's great that you have a supporting partner that is willing to explore with you. My wife is fully supportive, but body hair has to stay. Leg hair has gone, and has been gone for many years. She has a few other rules too, but generally I can live as Cerys. 

A supportive partner is a real bonus. So many have to hide their other side away. Embrace and enjoy what you have. You are very lucky.

Cerys

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Baroness Annual
(@d44)
Famed Member     New York, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Welcome to CDH Jan! You will find this a very friendly place with ladies that look forward to helping you in any way they can. It is a very supportive environment here. I hope you enjoy your time with us.

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Hostess
(@ab123)
Illustrious Member     Surrey, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 years ago

Welcome Jan, you have a very supportive partner and now a supportive community. We would love to hear how things progress and are ready with any tips and advice you need.

 

Enjoy your time here.

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Princess
(@erinb)
Noble Member     Ohio, United States of America
Joined: 5 months ago

welcome to CDH nice to meet you truly amazing to hear you have such a supportive SO truly a blessing glad things are going well sounds like you having such a wonderful amazing time best part is CD is addicted lol 😆 but in a good way TC hopefully see you around the site great community you joined 

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@erinb thanks Erin  and love the colour of your dress in your profile picture

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(@aliceunderwire)
Illustrious Member     Near Burlington, Vermont, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hi Jan,

Welcome to CDH.  Congratulations on having a very understanding partner!

Alice

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Duchess
Topic starter
(@2balternative)
Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Joined: 3 months ago

thanks she is amazing

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Duchess
(@jennconn)
Noble Member     Florida, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Hi Jan, it’s so nice to have you here.  I’m so happy you have a supporting partner.  You’ll love it here, there is so much support and information to help you on your crossdressing journey.  I know I was nervous too when I first joined, but with all the love here, I easily overcame any nerves that I had.

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Hostess
(@fishingr8)
Illustrious Member     Montana, United States of America
Joined: 5 years ago

Hiya Jan nice to meet you and happy you found and joined us girls here so keep looking around and reading the forums and posts from so many ladies here telling there stories about there journeys down the femme road they are on in life.. So girl as a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. When you get comfortable with us please join in with a story or two about the life and times of Jan as she travels down her own girly path in life.. Now as for making friends here girl there are so many ladies from all over the world to build long lasting friendships with and best of all we are just a simple click away from you .. As for your nervousness girl that's a thing of the past as you are here now among wonderful ladies and you will make many friends here as really we don't bite then again a few girls do be careful (ha ha ) just kidding have fun girl and so happy your wife is a supportive one as many ladies here have support as well as I'm in your boat with a very supportive wife and as you art part way around the world from me but really just a short row boat ride I'm sure you could make it here or a visit I'm in Montana USA so see not so far he he .. Again girlfriend nice to meet you and hope to see you around for a chat sometime soon..

Stephanie Bass

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(@coloradog1)
Honorable Member     California, United States of America
Joined: 2 years ago

Welcome Jan!! I was really nervous when I joined this site too. Just typing out what had only been in my thoughts for years felt nerve wracking. I never thought a couple years later I would be sharing photos of myself dressed. This is a great community and as far as I know the only one like this ! 

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@coloradog1 Hi Natalie, that is exactly how it feels. Not sure about the photo sharing even in a group like this it feels 'public'. will take time for me as it did with you

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(@coloradog1)
Joined: 2 years ago

Honorable Member     California, United States of America
Posts: 281

@2balternative don’t do any thing you’re not comfortable with! I don’t show my face because I’m still nervous about someone finding this page.

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@coloradog1 thanks, I just checked your photos and noticed that. Seems like a plan I could use when I get the confidence.  thanks for such kind and sensible advice

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(@coloradog1)
Joined: 2 years ago

Honorable Member     California, United States of America
Posts: 281

@2balternative of course !

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Lady
(@lillie)
Reputable Member     South Carolina, United States of America
Joined: 4 years ago

Welcome Jan, you have found a great group, Glad wife is accepting, I to have a somewhat accepting wife. After working all day Saturday, I came home to an outfit hanging on my dresser, with a note Sunday fun day. I am glad when she invites Lynne out.

Enjoy,

Lynne

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@lillie that's very accepting and I'm glad you have someone that supports you

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Duchess
(@lizzy89)
Reputable Member     GreaterManchester, United Kingdom
Joined: 5 months ago

Welcome Jane you've joined a very supportive and welcoming community of girls. I was nervous about posting on here at first , so I know how you feel. But after a week or so I wondered why as the girls on here are amazing and certainly made me more confident in expressing my femininity.

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@lizzy89 thanks I'm already starting to feel more confident.

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Duchess
(@lizzy89)
Joined: 5 months ago

Reputable Member     GreaterManchester, United Kingdom
Posts: 153

@2balternative no problem glad to know you are starting to feel more confident.

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Duchess
(@sandie9832t)
Reputable Member     Santa Cruz, California, United States of America
Joined: 6 months ago

Hi Jan!

Welcome to CDH! I'm Sandie. 

So glad you have an accepting partner.  That's great! Good for you. 

Also, no need to be nervous here, all the girls on here are very friendly and understanding. 

Hugs,

Sandie ❤️. 

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Guest
(@Anonymous 99388)
Estimable Member
Joined: 3 months ago

Welcome Sandra to our community of lovely ladies.So happy to have you.

Alexis Grace xx 

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Lady
(@chlosm)
Estimable Member     Dublin, Leinster, Ireland
Joined: 3 months ago

Hi i am very much in the same nervous place you are am 38 and only starting out on my own journet so just wanted to say welcome asba felloe nervous newbie.

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Duchess
(@2balternative)
Joined: 3 months ago

Eminent Member     New South Wales, Australia
Posts: 17

@chlosm thank you  is nice to meet people who have got over the nervousness  and also meet people who are on the same path as me  thank you for your support

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