New here and struggling

Hi sweetheart!

Just tell her! Maybe lead up to it with fantasy talk at "bed time" who knows, she may like it too! 😉

She knows a little bit and it didn’t go over well. I’m Waiting for it to come back around again

Hi Brooke

You are definitely right in letting her know your feelings,  and her feelings also matter, but marriage is A two way street if one partner is unhappy it will fail and end in A divorce and that no one wants. I know it's not easy but both of you must sit down and discuss both of your feelings and if you can't agree it's better to call it of and be friends so nether of you has to live with things that upset one another.  life is to short to live by not being yourselves.

Hi Brooke, hello, and welcome to CDH! You have just arrived at the best and greatest CD site on the web! CDH has tons of very helpful crossdressing information, and support from real people just like you! We highly encourage new CDH members to ask questions no matter how trivial you think they may be, as we are happy to answer to the best of our ability. We also love a well written profile, this helps everyone to get to know you better as the beautiful woman you are! We hope that you enjoy your stay here at CDH, as we are happy to have you as a part of our wonderful community.

Thank you, Samantha Roarke

Brooke, don't wait for it to "come back around again".  There's a very good chance it won't.

Put on your big girl panties and be honest with her now.

Just so you know, my situation is much different.  At 64 years old, my wife and I discovered my feminine self about 4 months ago.  But I've been married 40 years, and keeping secrets or waiting for the "right time" has never worked out well.

If  you are prepared to give up your feminine self, then you can wait until after the wedding to have The Talk.

My wife is supportive of my dressing, but she has told me many times, "I don't like girls".

So Jessie Mae doesn't flirt with "my" wife.

Hi Brooke, I know it's tough but you can't "wait" for it to come around again. It might not and if she doesn't want it to then it won't. You have to (gently and slowly) prod the ongoing discussion. Trust me on this.

-Jen

Brooke, welcome , it’s wonderful that you have joined our family. We’re always happy to help our new girls and offer our advice and tips and were here to chat about anything you have on your mind. Sharing experiences is so helpful and fun to explore more as you get comfortable with being here. Certainly an emotional time for opening up to your fiance and I hope you will have an acceptance to which both of you can live with. I too held my feelings for many years and this year opened to my wife after 39 years of marriage. She went through all the questions, the emotional feelings and in time was accepting but with caution. I would have liked a more welcoming acceptance but was happy for what was offer and relieved that I didn’t have to hid it any more. Since then things have gotten much better as she is seeing a likeable and more sensitive husband one who understands her and her needs and things important to her. Now we’re moving forward as she now to allowing Stephanie more into our lives. All I can say is follow her lead, set guidelines and never move on anything until your both ready to do so. And most important talk, talk and more talk. These to me helped but like everything different strokes for different folks. I’m happy to meet you and if you gave any questions please be free to PM me, love to help. Very nice meeting you

Stephanie 🌹

Hi Brooke,

Welcome to CDH.

My opinion here:  be honest with your fiancée.  You shouldn’t have secrets or try to hide things from them.

Alice

Brooke, nice to see you here. This is a great place to find acceptance, and to learn how others have gone about the often difficult subject of explanation to their SO's. I found to it hard to explain what I really don't understand, and that's the "Why" of this.

However, I have learned to better accept my feminine side in the last few months, and enjoy the times spent dressed, without the guilt that often followed.

Amy

Hey Brooke, welcome

If you don't see the needed info in the current forums go ahead and ask, an involved member is a good member. The lovely people you are about to meet love to share.

Like others I believe being honest is better for the relationship. Life is about choices and they should be made using all the relevant information. Let them love you for all that you are.

Welcome

Hi Brooke, and welcome. If you're about to enter a (hopefully) lifetime relationship with the lady, you need to be up-front with her, now. Hiding it is bad and the potential fights about it later are worse. Unless she has an absolute, no-compromise opposition to your dressing, you two can resolve any differences of opinion and be happy together.

Come try the Chat channels... always lots of fun chatting there... feel free to be open! Just keep the conversation rated PG!

Hi Brooke , welcome , with honesty & communication you can do it together 😊Tiff