Newbie

Well, welcome to the site! Doesn’t matter if you dress full time or on snatched moments here and there, you’ll find plenty of friends, help and support here, feel free to message me any time, I’ve fought bouts of depression plenty and been restricted on dressing (mostly self inflicted) so got a good idea of how you can feel

theres plenty of help here

Rach xx

Welcome to CDH Cathy.  This is a great site to meet some friends and learn from others.  It is also a great place to talk to someone.  It does not matter if your a model or Mel Brooks in a skirt we all are at different levels but all know one thing.  That is, that we all have a woman inside of us that wants to come out whether that is a little or a lot and we come here to learn and talk to others that are living through the same thing.  I hope you say hello and find this site all that you are looking for.

Again Welcome to CDH.

Sara

Hi Cathy and welcome to CDH. Sweetie, I understand completely what you are going thru in your life. It is so hard and nerve racking to want to participate in something that is generally not accepted by the general public. Cross dressing has come a long way in society towards acceptance but it is not as far along as it should be. It seems that it is ok for genetic females to dress in male clothing but not visa versa. Down thru history men have worn skirts....Scotland, Greece, The Vatican, Swiss Guard, Africa and Asia. I have always maintained that if you feel you are inclined or want to cross dress, then that issue should always be addressed before one marries, as after marriage the odds of problems are sky high. This does not always happen, as some of our girls will tell you but it is common. Cathy...in this life you must be happy with yourself BEFORE you can be happy with others. If cross dressing is a powerful desire of your then do it. Just be aware that it may cost you another marriage. There are lots of "find-a-date" services on the internet werin you can find someone accepting of you as you are. Attending "Brunches" in the LGBT group, you may find an accepting soul-mate. I highly recommend you explore this avenue, if your current relationship does not pan out. If your current depression is caused by this desire, then by all means look for a change. If there are other issues, seek professional assistance. Cathy, if you need someone to talk with, let me know....I would be pleased to talk with you about your issues. A lot of our sisters would be pleased to assist you as well. My life experiences and extensive travelling in other countries have allowed me to have an understanding of different cultures and how they deal with their issues. My door is always open to you my dear. Just come on in and set a spell. I am here for you.

Lady Veronica

Cathy  welcome  ;  sorry things are not going well at home. Many are dealing with this and the few that have that support should count their lucky stars.  At least now enjoy the company of many here to help you in many ways.  To receive advice from and support to allow one's self to express theses feelings lock up inside. Ladies love to chat   and share   their experiences. Make lasting friendships as you travel forward in your journey. Happy you are here with us and hope you find comfort being here and part of a beautiful community that cares .🌹

hello Cathy nice to meet you i understand what you go through on trying to dress up  and be free of depression. my wife knows but will not help with make up or sit in same room as her. i have 2 adult children still living at home. don't know how to leave and be on their own. so dressing up is hard.  here at C.D.H its a place where we can chat with others all around the world and meet new friends. join a group and look around this site has more to offer. welcome to C.D.H

Welcome, Cathy. If you even want to chat with a girl just yourself, feel free to contact me.

Thank you all for your kind welcome messages. It's not easy being in this situation, that's for sure, and I sometimes regret my life choices, but I've got to live with what I have and much as people have told me I should leave my wife and family (and frequently slated me for not doing so) I have a 12 year old daughter and feel responsibilities towards her, it may just be the way I was brought up but I believe that my wants are second to her needs, I'm not happy about it but that's the way it is. I'll now prepare for the usual barrage of people telling me what an idiot I am...

Dear Cathy, I would also like to welcome you to CD Heaven, I hope that your time here is pleasant and rewarding.
To deal with last things first, if anyone calls you an idiot for accepting parental responsibility for your 12 year old daughter, is not a fit person to be member of this site.

Secondly, we are all sisters here in similar but different situations and while some are further along in their journey than others, we are all equal.

It is quite clear that you are coming here with a considerable amount of baggage, this site is not about berating you for bringing that with you, our first priority is to help you along by taking a couple of bags off your hands until you figure out what to do with them.

The ability to erase an entire essay with one unintended finger stroke on a mobile phone is not unique to you, I have been guilty of the same feat on far too many occasions.
To put it mildly, that sucks!

There is one part of your story that I do find puzzling, as a transgender woman, I couldn't see the problem with breast growth at puberty, I would have killed for that.

I hope you have had a good look around the site and found some of the great articles and forums which may answer a question or two. There is also the chat room where you will meet a great bunch of friends that you never knew you had.

Most important of all, you belong here, come on in and make yourself at home in Heaven.

Welcome Sheryl. no need to feel inadequate here. we are all here for each other. please check out chat sometime as I have found it to be a great place to meet like minded people and receive thoughtful, loving support.

May you find your way on your journey!

Olivia

sorry cathy, I made a misread another members name as yours. didn't mean to, totally honest mistake. forgive me. I'm a bit of a scatter brain.

You are not an idiot for wanting to take care of your daughter. that's loving and noble and shows you to be a responsible person. you have baggage, everyone here does. it doesn't mean you are a bad person.

Sheryl,

Thanks for your response. Just to elaborate a little... For a 13 year old boy, at a fairly rough comprehensive school in the English Midlands in the 1970s, breast growth was tantamount to wearing a huge placard bearing the words "BULLY ME". My perceived lack of masculinity made me fair game, and on several occasions I contemplated taking my own life. Even the girls joined in with the bullying, on one occasion I returned to the changing room after a swimming lesson to find a tampon and sanitary towel on my pile of clothes, comments like "you're not supposed to be swimming at your time of the month" followed...

I've joined (and subsequently left) many trans* sites over the years, eventually people just get fed up of me and drift away, or just tell me so in various ways, hence the self doubt and loathing just grows and grows.

Olivia,

Some have called me a fool and/or a coward. Unfortunately I was brought up to put others first and it's a difficult habit to break. It's cost me a lot of money and most of my self esteem over the years. All I can say is, good luck to those who can get away with it, either by being good at concealing it or by having supportive partners, as I am neither then in the closet I must remain.

I wouldn't worry about the members here stopping communications with you. In fact its encouraged. I have a 13 year old daughter as well and i have to take care of her.

I feel your pain and struggle. Mt daughter knows that I dress up,  my wife is very supportive as well.

Dont give up being who you are. Be yourself.