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Hi I'm Bree and I'm mid 40s and just coming to realize / accept my...proclivity. I'm not even entirely sure how to catagorize it. I've just sort of come to realize that theres more in me than my masculine identity. Bree is there too, just as real and as important and she needs to come out. I guess the closest term if seen is non binary.
I am super fortunate to have a supportive wife who wants to be part of this journey with me. I'm not sure how far it will go as far as being "out" in public and the like, but said "I can go out with my husband or my wife". She's pretty amazing. (Yeah I cried when she said it. Her calling me "wife" when I was terrified it was going to screw up our relationship lifted a huge weight off me.
I'm overwhelmed by what to do next. Clothing, figuring out makeup, should I get a wig (bald as I naturally am, how to fill out a bra, how sex changes etc. I'm excited to get started...but its daunting.
Welcome Bree. You will find a lot of love and support here. Everyone understands what you are going through. It sounds like you already have a lot of love and support from your wife. You are so lucky. You will be surprised at how quickly and how many friends you will make here. Once again, welcome.
Thanks Kara. I do have an amazing wife; who is willing to figure all this out with me. It's kind of weird, I went years without really even realizing I was suppressing this part of myself. I've gone through a litany of mental health diagnosis (anxiety, depression, bipolar) and even with counseling it never came up. I had a dream one night that I was a woman; and woke up and something about it felt right; in the same way that my masculine side had always felt right. I guess I'd just thought that it was sort of an either/or thing (or a fixed point somewhere in the middle).
I have a feeling I'll be working on the balance for a while. As well as figuring out how this girl with zero artistic talent is going to do makeup without turning herself into a Picasso. 🙂
WE are here for you Bree. Any questions or concerns...do contact anyone of us. Bonne chance mon amiee. Lady Victoria Graunwolf.
Oh Bree what a wonderful story! So many girls here have felt the effects of the pink fog but are unable to share those feelings with anyone. I remember being so excited the first time my wife shared fem things with me. A new color 💄 and one of her used purses. I had tears in my eyes. Be sure to thank her often for being there for you. Being her girlfriend will be so nice.
maybe you can become the housewife, wear a cute flirty little apron and be sure u look pretty when she comes home. Have fun. Girl power rules.
Love julie
Hi Bree and welcome to CDH.
Rachel
oh Bree - I just joined, and yours is the first post I read. I am so glad it was, you give me such hope.
I am early 50s and slowly (yes, i am scared) sharing my 'secret' with my wonderful wife. I have always been very feminine, which my wife likes - not liking typical "guys" - but that is different than telling her that I want a new pair of over the knee tights too...
you may have guessed that I am overwhelmed too, but taking it slowly - no need to rush it, it is not like "Julie" runs out at midnight...
You're very fortunate in your wife's acceptance. I'm in a similar situation, & it certainly makes things easier--though there remain awkward situations & the need not to push too far too fast.
