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Hi, I have been crossdressing for a long time but the most activa when I was around 22-27. When my first child was born I decided to stop. I got depressed partially of suppressing my crossdressing desire. I told about this to my therapist and I was suggested to accept this part of me and probably it would be a good idea to restart it and to look for other crossdressers to share experience. My wife is absolutely supportive about it so I feel very much encouraged. I have fetched a few equipment (bra, clothes, makeup etc.) in the shop to test my courage and radically accept that I do like to crossdress and embarrassed about it. I am very exited to do it again. I am still waiting for the right time. Difficult to make a decision when where and how to begin. I would really appreciate if I could contact someone with experience to have a supportive chat about it. Any advice is welcome 🤗 Thank you!
Hi, Sophia, you've already taken a big step forward by joining this supportive and encouraging community. This is the place to share your concerns...and successes!
You've already had some excellent advice and I can only agree with the girls. I can certainly relate to Angela's,
never be ashamed of who you are as there are many here who felt ashamed at first but it soon wears off as the burden is lifted.
A huge part of that burden is feeling that you're alone, even if you have an accepting partner. There is nothing like sharing with like-minded others, it really was such a relief to find so many (apparently around 45,000 members here) other crossdressers who are genuinely warm and supportive.
So, to repeat, "The time is now" jump right in, Sophia, the water's lovely 😊.
Allie
@sophia91 Sophia, welcome back to the wonderful world of being yourself. I hope that does not sound daunting or something you don’t really want to hear. You are in a very lucky place that your wife is supportive, you can talk to your therapist about crossdressing and that she understands the importance to dress. So well done to your therapist and your wife! But also a big well done to you for starting to accept yourself.
I am sure dressing again will help with your emotional stress and may even work better than you think. I for one find dressing not only a way to alleviate stress, but to actually make me a happier and more social person.
I am sure you will find this site and the community of ladies a most helpful place. The girls here are fun, supportive, full of helpful advice (practical and emotional). You will find encouragement to embarrass your dressing…but at a pace that you are happy with.
You must thank your wife for being understanding and supportive, not all crossdressers have this positivity in their lives.
Good luck with your journey. Hope we get the chance to chat sometime.
Hugs Christine
BTW, what a great profile photo!
@sophia91 hey! My story is similar to yours, as many of ours are. But it’s great too hear that you are starting up again 🙂 feel free to reach out anytime I’ll help anyway I can
@sophia91 Welcome to CDH, Sophie!
You are so lucky to be where you are right now. Young, with a supportive wife, ready to get reacquainted with dressing. So lucky.
As a few here suggested, go slowly, at first, and ask your wife what would make it fun for her and for some advice. Partners in every way.
I would love for you to keep everyone informed of how well it works out for you, what didn't work, and how it goes in general.
The best time is now ;). Seriously, if you have a supportive wife and opportunities to dress at home, make something fun out of it for you and your wife. Maybe you could both get dolled up for dinner and a movie. After a few weeks of getting reacquainted with your inner girl, then the two of you could start planning your first steps out into the real world, either locally or some distance from home, if that’s more comfortable for you.
Beyond that, the sky is the limit!
To have a supportive partner is a massive boost for you and it was a very good move to let her know before you went further in your relationship. Obviously that could have gone in any direction but she was accepting.
It is understood you have apprehensions but perhaps the first step is to discuss this with your wife, work it through together as she is aware of your feelings.
Has she ever seen the femme you at all, in photos or in person?
Is there ever a right time? You have bought some items to wear so start measured and timely path for you to reacquaint with your femme self and introduce her to your wife too so you both become comfortable, then build up and take every step carefully. Plan for the future with Sophia in the house and hopefully beyond.
Take your time, build confidence and enjoy every step.
Oh and never be ashamed of who you are as there are many here who felt ashamed at first but it soon wears off as the burden is lifted.
I am sure you will get lots of encouragement and advice here as this is exactly the place to be for you.
Hi Sophia,
Welcome to CDH. Congratulations on having a supportive spouse. You are indeed fortunate. Perhaps with her approval you might openly discuss her level of support and set clear ground rules you both are comfortable with.
Alice
Sophia -
Welcome to CDH. You will find this to be a very supportive and helpful community.
You could talk with your wife and therapist about how to proceed. Others have given you some good advice. If you check the forums and articles you will find information that may be helpful. There is no right or wrong way just follow your heart and enjoy the process.
Good luck on your journey.
XOXO
Suzanne
Hi Sophia nice to meet you and so happy you found and joined us girls here so get settled in relax and enjoy yourself here.. As a new sister and family member you are welcomed with open arms into our home as well as yours now also.. Girl with so much to se and do here from reading the forums and posts from so many ladies here telling there stories about there journeys down there femme road they are on in life.. When you are comfortable with us please join in with a story or two about the life and times of Sophia as she travels down her own girly path in life.. Now as for making friends here girl there are so many ladies from all over the world to build long lasting friendships with and best of all we are just a simple click away from you .. Once again girlfriend nice to meet you and hope to see you around for a chat sometime soon..
Stephanie Bass
Welcome. I have loved my visits to The Netherlands...what a wonderful country.
