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Sooo, my wife had let me know that she is not comfortable with my crossdressing. She wants me to be the man she married. However, she also wants me to be happy. Our marriage has been somewhat strained since I told her.
I dialed it way back, anyway (ditched all of my stuff and tried to quit). Well after a few months, nothing was said and I started buying things again (panties first, then stockings, leggings, etc.), but went back in the closet.
Well, just two days ago, while on vacation, when we were heading out to dinner, I asked her if she had any Chapstick. My lips were a little chafed from the sun. She didn’t, but offered either a tinted lip balm or one of her lipsticks that was very light.
I hid my enthusiasm as best as I could and tried both, setting on the lipstick.
I don’t know if she gave it much thought. But it felt incredibly good to me.
I don’t see this as a turning point. But I was shocked, nonetheless.
Well Raquel yes its a start congrats girlfriend just remember Baby steps back in and good luck on your girly future..
Stephanie Bass
Congratulations! Yes baby steps do not push too much I hope you can have another dialog with her soon or at least have her agree to read something about crossdressing to give her a better understanding of who we and you are and how those who do crossdress are affected by it. Hopefully some additional knowledge can move her a little closer to a level of unconditional love and understanding to have a common ground that is acceptable for both of you. Ultimately many women want and love their man. I hope she will see the benefits and understand the positive ways it affects you. Wishing you the best in this situation.
I have pretty much given up on chapstick as I find lipstick is vastly superior. I use a neutral shade most often, but have some bright I'd as well, including Cherries in the Snow which my cousin turned me on. Just beware, it is a bold color and does not come off easily.
Raquel -
It's nice to hear she did that, whether she gave it much thought or not. It's little things that are nice. Once we were out and my wife gave me Burt's Bee lip shimmer, think it was rhubarb, which gave my lips a bit of color. It wasn't expected and was nice of her to do. Enjoy the little things and as others have said baby steps.
XOXO
Suzanne
I don’t think it’s a start of anything. But we’ll see.
Trust me. I won’t push. I probably won’t ever even mention this. I’ll just keep it locked up in my memory as a fantasy of how things could be; the two of us sharing makeup as such.
I’ve had bold colors in the past that I wore when she wasn’t around. I’m aware of the difficulty involved.
The lip balm was Elf brand. The lipstick was Nars, which is fairly expensive. I selected that, because it WAS lipstick, after all. And I’d had a tube of Nars in the past. It’s very silky.
Both provided the lightest hint of color.
I feel so good for you right now... keep taking those baby steps!
Like I said, I don’t think there was any thought about it, by my wife. And I definitely didn’t get the impression she had changed her stance and was green lighting any other ever-so-slight manifestation of girliness.
I’ll just cherish this as something she did without any meaning, at least not to her.
Sadly purging never works. Enjoy.
Glad you had that experience. Maybe ask her for some "chapstick" again some day and see what happens. Or, when the moment is right bring up the crossdressing subject again.
My wife and I have had very good conversations while driving together. Just last month we took a driving trip and spent a lot of time discussing my crossdressing desires, and her feelings. It worked out well, and she needs to know.
Have fun, Staci...
Congrats Raquel!
Alice
I know that all too well. But it at least kept it at bay while she got over the shock, I think. She didn’t see anything of Raquel (she doesn’t know my femme name) for about 6 months, allowing the dust to settle.
