Significant other

Thanks for your post, Natasha. So many of us CDs do not have the support of our SOs, friends, or family and feel like the whole world is judging us. I am happy for you and your man that you are both accepting of his lifestyle and I wish you both the very best.

Erica Love

You sound wonderful, he's v lucky to have you. All the best on your journey..

Hi Natasha, Teralynn here. Thanks for sharing your story. I hope to see many more SOs/spouses join this on line community. I use to counsel young crossdressers and transgendered persons on another site, and I always told them that if they had special person in their life they should tell them all about themselves, and the most effective time to do it is early in the relationship. Honesty is still the best policy. At least he has told you now so give him credit for that. I told my wife about Teralynn early on. She didn’t really understand. Now 15 years later, she is comfortable with me as Teralynn or John. Please keep in mind that for a lot of crossdressing people this is a big secret that they don’t want anyone to find out about. When I would tell them to sit down with their special person and have a sincere conversation, most of the time I got responses like - oh no I couldn’t do that, she would leave me. But the hurt you felt because he didn’t tell you earlier is real. I applaud the fact that you are going to stay in the relationship. If I can ever be of service please feel free to contact me through this site and let me know how I can help. A post on my home profile page will get the fastest response. - Blessings

Teralynn thanks I'm just happy he has told me ever since he has hes much happier you can definitely tell the difference between me knowing and when he was trying to hid it now we shop online and at local stores together for lingerie I'm still learning what he loves and doesnt we will get there I simply just want him to be happy he told me the other day that because I do accept him fully he cant ever lose me that felt amazing thanks all of you for the support

Natasha

welcome is so nice meeting you. Your a very special person and your partner is so fortunate. This is certainly the place you’ll find many of the answers you are seeking. Only a short while ago that I opened up to my wife after 40 years of marriage. It was a huge surprise for her and certainly very emotional. The biggest concern was the mistrust I caused. Seeing her and the hurt that it caused was hard. We had many talks and through this agreements and guidelines were set and together were slowly working it out. But Cdh and it’s resources helped my wife and myself understand more about our individual troubles. I learned more about myself and as it has been mentioned from others we have a wonderful group we have here exclusive for spouses  where many GG gals like yourself could receive the help and support to get the answers your wanted to know. This group – private ( wives and significant others ) . For you special ladies where Cders are not allowed. Meet with them and get the support you need. Look into other forms written by others who talk about their experiences, their questions they may ask with many offering help and advice so everyone can understand better on so many confusing topic . Many face this troubling ordeal but be assured you have support and help from everyone here . Relax, get comfortable and enjoy being part of this wonderful community that really does care for all that passes through our doors. The best to you both as you venture through these new paths together . Very happy meeting you and welcome.

Stephanie 🌹

Hi Natasha, welcome to CDH! And thank you for wanting to give support to your partner.  As Stephanie, mentioned there is a SO group here and I am sure one of the mods will reach out to you soon about joining up. Please feel free to ask questions and if you get a moment take read through our articles and forum posts, you may get some information that may help both of you in figuring out this journey together.  I know that my wife and I are at a much stronger place since my opening up to her about this part of me that I was not able to fully understand or be comfortable with.  I know it took me a bit to get more comfortable around my wife with my dressing, so encourage if you can but let it be only a piece of the whole for you both.  I wish you and your partner much happiness together.

Michelle

Natasha, welcome, and I'm glad you've found us here. Previous posters have said many good things, so I won't repeat them, but I will tell you about myself.

I've been married to the same lovely Lady for nearly 35 years, and have two adult children, none of which know about Amy.

However, my wife always knew I liked to "borrow" her lingerie from time to time, and she was fine with that. It was only a few times a year that I got the urge to dress up a bit, wanting to up my look a bit, I bought a Halloween wig, and veil to cover my beard, to go along with my dressing up. This must of gone on for perhaps 20 years, or more. From time to time I had the desire to dress more completely, with makeup and everything, but never did. Then late in 2018 I got a serious urge to dress more often, more completely, and started buying my own things.

Oh my, one thing lead to another, and I every few days I was trying to head to one of the used clothing stores to find more things!

When I told her about this change, which of course I cannot explain, she was rather disconcerted, and it took her a bit of time to come to grips with the "new me", as it were.

Ultimately it has brought us closer together, and we shop together for clothes, with me in drab. I now will go out and shop dressed, but she has not yet got comfortable with that. Though we have gone out for dinner to a few places with me en femme. I'm sure a few of the store clerks have figured us out, or at least have their suspicions, as we don't act like a typical couple where the man hangs around and lets her look and shop. as I actively shop, and point out things I like, or that I think would look good on her.

A couple of places know, and its rather nice shopping there, she picks things out for herself, and I pick things out for me.

So it sounds like you are a fabulous wife, and by spending some time here you can gain some insight into what its' like to be the SO of a Crossdresser.

Amy

Hi Natasha and welcome. You are one of the "good ones" sweetheart, and your man is very lucky. My loving wife is also very accepting of my Gigi persona. She does what she can to show her approval from doing my makeup and toenails, to shopping and encouragement. I hope your man truly knows how fortunate he is to have you.