Struggling with husbands cding

Hi Deidre, and welcome to CDH.
Thank you for joining here, and reaching out. There are quite a few wives of crossdressers here, and they have a forum of there own, we cannot see the postings, so you should look there.
I hope ,for your sake, and your husbands, you can resolve your issues, the support of our wives, for those of us that have it, means the whole world.
If you have any specific questions, that I as a heterosexuals' crossdresser, could answer, please feel fee to pm me, or ask in a posting.
Hugs, and thanks for trying, Regine👩💕

Deidre welcome and thank you for that post.  Ad Regine stated we do have a private forum for the wives and SO's of crossdressers.   I sincerely thank you for the effort you are making to understand your husbands situation, it speaks very well of you 🙂.   There are many others who deal with this -   just remember you are not alone Deidre!

Stevie

Hi Deidre There is a section on this site for SO's who have questions or as you have said struggling with their husbands desire to cross dress. I am sure you will find what you need there. If you want better understanding from a cross dressers perspective then ask away. I am sure there will be no lack of responses.

Stephanie

Deidre 🦋, welcome and I hope you find the answers you need! 🎀🌸

Hello Deidre and welcome,

First off, thank you for taking the time and being strong enough to reach out and gain some knowledge. The private wives forum has already been mentioned. Even reading some of the threads by us may provide some light.

Honest communication between the two of you is paramount. For myself and others who have accepting and even some supportive S.O's  this as a key.

It is sometimes difficult for us to properly explain to others some things that we don't fully understand ourselves, like why. We understand the way it makes us feel, the void dressing seems to fill, along with a calmer attitude and better ability to deal with stress and depression. I sincerely hope you can find the answers that help you, and that lead to positive discussions with your partner in contiuning a loving relationship.

Olivia

That is a double edged sword. I sooo agree with you that it would be beneficial, but see the need for them to be able to express their views, and feelings without fear that they may be "ganged up on" by us. Maybe there could be the private fourm AND a joint fourm.

Thanks for being here. I wish the best for you and your husband's relationship. Acceptance can run the spectrum from encouragement and participation to "don't ask, don't tell." Keep talking and learning and don't give up.🤗

Hi Diedre,

Your husband is lucky to have a wife willing to search for answers. Most wives will be found on the private forum, which is off-limits to us.
I can tell you that my wife had a less-difficult time with my CD, because she had previously learned from somewhere the concept of getting in touch with your feminine side- - which is exactly what it is we do.

Hugs,
Bettylou

Hi Deidre, Teralynn here. Welcome to CDH. As others have pointed out there is a separate group of significant others of crossdressing people who can share their experiences and answer many of your questions. Joining that group will provide you a lot more understanding of the current situation you are in - but not all. Some of the questions you may want to ask should be addressed to not only them but also to actual crossdressing people. Why would you want to do that? Because all of the people in that group are significant others and not crossdressing people. There are just some questions that only a crossdressing person can answer. So address some questions to both groups of people and it may broaden your perspective immensely. I have been a crossdresser for over decades. Have a wonderful accepting and supportive wife. When I first learned about Teralynn I did all kinds of research into it. Now I look at crossdressing from a psychological perspective. The whys and hows were always more important to me than anything else. It is a complicated situation you find yourself in and lots of us that have spouses/life partners/wives/or any other type of significant others understand how difficult it is for them to adjust to a new reality about the person who you have chosen to be with. That is why you will find a lot of crossdressing people and their significant others are willing to answer your questions and help you cope as much as we can. So join the support group, ask your questions and get to know members on both sides (crossdressers and significant others). If I can ever be of service please feel free to contact me through this site and let me know how I can help. A post on my home profile page wall or a private message will get the fastest response. - Blessings

No, I haven't seen anyone ganged up on either. I said that they might "fear" getting ganged up on. Sorry if I came across as being confrontational.

Hi Deidre nice to meet you and so happy you reached out to us for the sake of you and your husband/ girlfriend .. You are a wonderful sole to reach out to us as others here have said look into the Wives and SOs side to get a better insite in to the issues you are having .. You can allways come here and post some questions here for us to answer as like everything some may not be what you want to hear but thats where you have to have that line of communication between you to always talk you are a wonderful caring person or you wouldnt be here so thankyou for your love and care for your husband and again nice to meet you good luck ..

Stephanie Bass

Deidre

Nice meeting you. Your a very special spouse and hopefully this place you’ll find many of the answers you are seeking .There are certainly many happy stories about couples discovering this unique relationship but  unfortunately many don’t.
This is certainly the place you’ll find many of the answers you are seeking. Only a short while ago that I opened up to my wife after 40 years of marriage. It was a huge surprise for her and certainly very emotional. The biggest concern was the mistrust I caused. Seeing her and the hurt that it caused was hard. We had many talks and through this agreements and guidelines were set and together were slowly working it out. But Cdh and it’s resources helped my wife and myself understand more about our individual troubles. There is a place where many GG gals like yourself could receive the help and support to get the answers your wanted to know.
A special group for you special gg ladies to I’m sure will help you  ( wives & significant others )
https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/groups/wives-and-significant-others /
where ladies like yourself can offer their help to questions only you would like to ask them.  our gg ambassador to the group will be very happy to enroll you there. .
There is a procedure to identify the person enrolling and may a little time.
Theses ladies are awesome and will support you in every way.  No body is left out,  that ‘s what makes this such a wonderful place to belong. Best to you and hope to hear from you soon. As an ambassador and a cder, if you need anything please be free to PM me, I may not be able to answer your most personal questions but possibly give some hindsights to what your spouse is going through. The best to you both on this journey ahead…
Stephanie 🌹 🌹

Hi Deidre

Lovely to see you here, you have already been given a lot of advice and it will take a bit of time to go through all that and reflect on how it applies to your self. After that you probably will still have lots of questions. I have been crossdressing for years and finally came to terms with it a few years ago, there are no quick answers, it can be a struggle, but if you want to chat to me, and ask anything I will be  only too pleased to hear from you. So if you want to chat just send me a PM. Good luck for the future.................

Hi Deidre and Welcome.................PM me anytime.  Hope I can help make some sense of it .  karley