The Adrogous Crossdresser

Dear Hippy....first of all Happy New Year! It is good you've come back to us........welcome.

To me....if you want and like to be a full blown cross dresser, that is wonderful. But, as you illiterate, we are a "Varied Species".....that is to say....we all dress from just one item to many items. We all dress to suit our needs and whims as we like. That is what makes us happy and that is what is important to us. I don't always go out en femme to the hilt, probably more often I am just half dressed so to speak. Doing laundry in my Apt. building, I often just wear leggings and my army blouse(shirt) and slippers. I never go "combat", always wear undies!

Anyway......everyone should be themselves and enjoy.

Lady Veronica.

Hi Hippie and Happy New Year!

Like you, I have incorporated a lot more mixed mens' and womens' clothing into what I wear every day, even though I still love getting all dolled up sometimes.

For example, I like wearing my knee high riding boots with my girl jeans and a unisex sweater when going out in town.  It looks and feels great!  I also wear running clothes from Athleta since I prefer the cut of women's tanks, tights, and jackets - they look and feel great!  Even at work I am most often wearing unisex looking women's shoes or boots.

Like Veronica, I practically live in leggings but have yet to wear a skirt or dress outside unless I am en femme.

XOXO,

Zoe

My first foray into dressing in public was wearing pantyhose with shorts. I thought my look needed improving. I wanted to show off more leg so I began wearing short women's shorts over my pantyhose. That was better but my footwear was boring. I liked some of the shoes girls wore. I wanted something that looked nice would help enhance the appearance of my legs but not be too feminine and sexy.

I had kind of longish hair back then too. I was one of those who could raise the question, "is that a guy of a girl?" In my shiny tan pantyhose, short girls shorts and girl's shoes I could see where there was those who thought I might be a girl, especially when out dressed that while shopping for and buying more pantyhose, shorts and shoes.

Although it wasn't my preferred choice, there was also times I would just go out in pantyhose with my guy shorts and shoes. That was boring, not as much fun and a lot less thrilling but at times more appropriate. Then of course there was times and circumstances where not dressing even partly fem was required.

I was gender bending, from being totally guy to almost girl. One day while I was dressed almost girl and buying a bunch of pantyhose. A girl behind me noticed what I was wearing and buying. She was intrigued and wondered why I didn't wear other girl's clothes too. With her help, encouragement and clothes she bought for me I moved up to dressing fully fem and wearing all those wonderful fantasy clothes girls wore.

I'm sure I would have moved past androgynous to full all out crossdresser without her eventually. I was moving that way. Still she hurried the process along.

I have mentioned in previous posts that I sport facial hair most of the time because I look like I have no upper lip (without lipstick anyway) and my wife has only seen me clean-shaven a few times (I was testing the waters and also wanted to see how I looked totally made up without it) and seems to prefer me with facial hair.

I am currently reluctantly androgynous, I suppose.

My goatee has been getting smaller and shorter of late and I am preparing to give being clean-shaven a go. I am also still trying to find a way to come out to my wife about dressing but as some here know, am reluctant to do so.

Anyway, my personal preference would be to present as feminine as possible when dressed since I kind of think I actually look better that way. I have never tried heels or platforms and don’t believe I would like them and I am six feet tall already anyway.

This post is already getting too long, so I’ll just say that I have no problem with anyone dressing in any manner that makes them comfortable and feel how they like. I just would prefer a more feminine look for myself.

Tricia Lynn

First time I've every wanted to swear with glee at a post.  I actually almost wanted to quit this site because I felt I didn't really belong or that there weren't enough David Bowie fans lol.  Thanks for that for laying that out, Hippie.  Hugs - Terrisa

First time I’ve every wanted to swear with glee at a post. I actually almost wanted to quit this site because I felt I didn’t really belong or that there weren’t enough David Bowie fans lol. Thanks for that for laying that out, Hippie. Hugs – Terrisa

"I don't care what anybody says; I like doing it, and it's what I shall continue to do.” ― David Bowie

I'm only beginning to find my way, but much of what you've expressed has also been part of my thinking. I do like wigs and one of the reasons is that I'm bald and I hate being bald. And I do like female hair styles. I only have one wig right now, but expect to get more. I've often thought of mixing outfits with female attire and have been doing a little bit of that. I worked show NYE this week where costuming (a la Burning Man style) was encouraged and planned to go androgynous which my wife was good with at first, but became resistant. She did see me in wig, leggings, and a sweet top. So she knows I'm interested in going that direction, but she doesn't realize how strong that desire is in me. I've been dropping hints for a while. I have also run some of your exact thinking through my head and haven't totally abandoned it. I'm exploring. Makeup is tough, but whether I do it regularly or not, I still have a need to know makeup as I'm a portrait photographer and I work with makeup artists all the time and the more I know and understand, the better I can direct them for my shoots. Other things such as shaving my face, legs etc, I don't mind and find I love to shave as much as I can. I've believed for a time now that with the right mix, my androgynous look works and expect to explore that further. It may be enough. It is important that I feel confident in my look, whether it's with a mix or full on femme as I do love the feel of a dress, etc.

Terrissa. Count me in as a Bowie fan. For the past couple of years I've been covering a tour called Celebrating David Bowie when it comes through the SF bay area. It's a band made up of many artists who worked with David and a myriad of guests as they rotate out on vocals and perform from the Bowie catalog. It's one of my favorite shows I regularly hit and one of the things I got from that early on is that David kind of made it OK to let your freak flag fly. He was one of the first....gave full permission if one needed it. The tour starts up again in a week or two and will be in Europe for a spell before hitting the US. Don't know if they hit Canada, but worth looking into if you're a big Bowie fan.

bowie fan also. Especially like some of his acting, too.

Thank you so much .... this is what I try to do.. Sat here right now in a rugby shirt body con dress just above the knee and tights. I am not brave enough to do that outside just yet but I regularly wear skinny jeans or a kilt out and about. I felt that you were expected to wear make up and breasts.... these would look silly on me because  I hate my face without a beard and makeup doesn't really work... eyeliner occasionally but not much more. I know we are not alone but thank you for confirming it!!

That's awesome Stella!  There is that one picture of Bowie and Jagger in bed together seemingly naked that is implanted in my brain and that has acted as a source of inspiration (because of the times when it was taken) to say I'll do as I feel as long as it does no harm.

That Bowie quote is spot on and so true.  I'll be looking out for that tour and hopefully it does come to Canada so Terrisa can go to honour the man that made a difference in my life.

Hugs - Terrisa

LOVE IT!

Ohh, Tricia...

I’ve just sneaked a look at you photo you posted... you look lovely without facial hair! You have a great top lip and should make more of it! In fact your SO should be aware of your prettiness as a Sister!
Facial hair is anathema to me in any case... I have been wet shaving since I was a teenager and have alway abhorred facial hair even if the current fashion is bearded be different!!!
Ever see David with a beard?

Shave and be free, Sister! Hugs Polly

What... David Bowie fans. This is way to over the top for me... im outta here.

"Sarcasm alert."