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Hello everyone,
I'm very new to this , just wearing knickers for the last two week under my day clothes.
Not sure if it's a kink, But want to by ladies clothes and wear them at home.
I love my wife & get aroused by her. I am not aroused by men.
Not sure what to do next. My wife knows I wear knickers , and is not happy that I did it, but did not ban it.
Hi Tina,
Crossdressing and being in touch with your femininity does not mean that you are a different person. I am happily married and love my wife dearly. Whether I am wearing a suit and tie or a dress and heels, I am attracted to women. In the big picture, clothes are just clothes. I do, however, understand your wife's concerns. Think about how long it has take you to come to grips with your feelings, why should it not take your wife just as long. Give her time, and be open and honest with her.
MacKenzie Alexandra
Tina hi : There's nothing to be ashamed for having a true femininity. I too love the clothes it make me feel so relax. For me I now feel a norm ,no more being ashame and certainly not weird. After many years of marriage my wife came to finally to accept me but I had to understand her feelings and concerns many a talk and after guidelines were established things started to work . It takes a lot of work Like MacKenzie says it takes time for the hurt to ease . Her words discribe this remarkably well. Follow her feelings and show you care. Love having you here with us and the best on your journey 🌹
Hello Tina,
Welcome, so nice to meet you. As the girls said. Don't be ashamed, embrace it. My wife was the same way at first and now we shop for clothing together. I just takes time and some heart to heart conversation.
Love and hugs,
Lanna💋
Hi Tina!
Welcome to CDH. Suddenly having the urge to wear female clothing at 50+ must be confusing for both yourself and your wife. Let me first assume you that crossdressing doesn't have to make you question your sexuality. From what I have seen most of us here are heterosexual males wishing to explore the feminine side of life. We may be single, married, divorced or in another relationship, but still most of us, are into women, no matter what clothes we choose to wear. Of course there are exeptions, but then you're probably gay or bi in male mode as well but maybe afraid to acknowledge it.
Even though you have the right to explore and express yourself, you must concider your wife's feelings and her possible fears for this to change you and crash your marriage.
Thanks for the welcome, And i'll just have to see how the future goes
thanks for the support.
Purchased by first skirt and wore it when nobody was at home. It felt , nice. It did not fit on the hips but felt OK.
Not sure if I was up in Scotland and wore a Kilt, if that would ease the odd feelings. I was always happy with my male / female mix. Never been worried to show or have a female side
Hi Tina welcome to CDH. I also was late (ish) to dressing (in my 30s). Also like you I am happily married and while my wife doesn't particularly approve she hasn't banned it. Truth is I am happy being a male but feel a different kind of happiness being dressed as a female. My wife didn't want to feel that she was a kind of lesson so I suggested she looks on Pauline as a friend or sister. It's still a work in progress lol.
I have many traits that would be more thought of as female rather than male. For example I enjoy cooking, baking, shopping, cleaning the house etc. I've pointed out to my wife that these are benefits to me having a stronger female side than perhaps the average male. But they ARE benefits to her!
Don't be afraid to explore who you are. Keep your wife in the picture as much as possible as to what you're doing, even if she doesn't see you doing it. There's nothing worse than secretly dressing & looking over your shoulder all the time. Also, if she ever found out she'll likely be more hurt by the deception than by the actual dressing!
I hope all goes well for you & I'd love to be your friend.
Hugs
Pauline xx