Very uncertain about my own feelings in cross dressing

hello Michelle, welcome to C.D.H to me there is nothing wrong with dressing up as a female {woman} women dress up in manly cloths and think nothing of it. so why cant we dress up as females and show our fem side. i love every min of dressing up, i buy my own clothing and perfume and make up and even pads, bras, nylons, panties. wife knows of my desire to dress up, she also knows of my own set of female clothing. she lets me dress up but only when the 2 adult kids are not home, my daughter knows i dress up but not like i really dress up 24 7.. love to look and smell like a female and helps me be depressed free , stress free. i have no desire to go out with another cd either. its all about letting your fem side out an be what we should of been. i would say its common tread to explore your fem side.

Michelle,

There is nothing unusual about your feelings as mine are similar.  I too am comfortable with my gender.  I am a man; I do not want to be a woman.  It just so happens that I am in touch with and accept my femininity in balance with my masculinity.  As with most individuals, I believe in where the clothes that are most comfortable and express my current mode.  For me, sometimes that is a shirt and tie while other times that is a dress and heels.  I hope this has helped.

Mac

Hello Michelle!  As fellow members indicate....do not fret about your situation....we all go/have gone thru it.  I am content being half male/female but the I am a Gemini...what do you expect. I think it might help you a lot to visit a transgender scene and talk with them......they are very approachable and can be a wealth of information about the "change". It isn't a whim that comes lightly and it is costly from a financial/physical and mental aspect. Be well armed with information and knowledge Before you make that descision because as the song goes........Once you've torn up the track, you can never go back".

At my time in life, I could undergo the "change" mentally but physically.....just too old now.  Besides....it doesn't matter to us, we all accept others as they are.  Any other q's....just contact me and I will try to help answer same.   Lady Veronica Graunwolf

Hello All, I am a mature guy who now wants to express a hidden need to identify his more feminine side by dressing as a woman. I do not feel the need to change my gender (does that make sense), I am happy being a man but do wish to dress as a woman. I’m not sure whether this is a common trend amongst crossdressers and would welcome some thoughts regarding this. Michelle

You've hit the proverbial nail on the head Michelle (for me anyway).  I too am happy being a man and treating women with the love and respect they deserve (all people come to think of it). The part about dressing, for me, is the allurement of being a desired woman (or the woman I desire) - and possibly seeking that same respect. Treating my body with gentleness and enjoying my feminine side is a welcome contrast to trying to live up to society's expectations of masculinity which, today, seems to be in constant flux depending who you talk with.

Enjoy the journey Michelle, and welcome.

Jacquie

I feel the same Michelle. And I agree with the others.

Thank you all for your replies.  It does help to know I am not alone on this journey. Is there, perhaps, an intimate aspect to any of this? I do, at times, feel the need to act as a woman in a male/female relationship.

Michelle,

This is a very common thread for so many here, including me. It isn't easy, and won't ever be. We are lost in the middle. Heterosexual and wanting to enjoy our feminine side...who could understand that. Only us.  (Do we even understand it?)

What hurts is that it would be easier and more acceptable to be gay and leave or wives. It shouldn't be the case but that is exactly what we face.

I'm still struggling to have my wife understand me. I don't know if she ever will, but she loves me and is trying her best.

Hope the best for you.

Hannah Jeanne

Hi michelle,
The answer really depends on whether you consider gender to be binary. Male OR female, or a spectrum, anywhere from 100% male, through 50% of each, to 100% female.
If you think of yourself as, say 10% female and 90% male, there is no reason that you should not enjoy your feminine side by presenting yourself as a woman whenever you please to do so.
You can be considered as transgender without ever having the néed or desire to transition from one to the other.
However you see yourself, as a crossdresser, you are still a valued member of the CDH family.
Hugs
Sheryl

Michelle, how we who identify as transgender express our sexuality is no different to anyone else in society. Sometimes, being transgender makes us ask different questions or imagine different situations than perhaps more traditional males do but in the long run, you get to decide how you want to identify, who you are attracted to and there are no correct or incorrect outcomes.

Enjoy embracing who you are, wherever that is on the spectrum Sheryl mentioned.

You are certainly not alone here.

Jane

Hannah Jeanne's point resonates with me: the fact of a guy being attracted to other guys is more readily accepted these days than that of a guy wanting to acknowledge his femine side by sometimes dressing & acting like a woman. And it seems more accepted for women to dress & act like men than the other way around.

Michelle, being born into this dichotic sorority means many different things to many different girls. Your feelings and desires are yours, you should own them. We don't get to live forever sweetheart, so make this one amazing life of yours as congruent to who you really are as possible without sacrificing things that are important to your survival.

Some of us get lucky and enter this world with prominent feminine characteristics and some of us have strong masculine genetics that cannot be overcome easily. Genetic females are often born with masculine characteristics too dear. It happens. You cannot change that anymore than you can change the way you feel inside.

You sound as if you know who you are and that you're not transgendered but are more along the lines of having a cross dressing fetish. In other words, you don't believe you're a woman but you still love to dress up and feel feminine from time to time. It's a far more common occurrence in men than most people know or believe - so there's nothing wrong with you.

Just have fun and honor that side of your personality having no regrets. It's an innocent and harmless indulgence that makes a wonderful impact on your mental well-being so get out there and sashay those curvy hips Gaga.

Hi Michelle and welcome to CDH.

Rachel