What We All Know.

Most women want a man, like in this song. It's easy to understand it. Say if you're a man and you are not gay then you want a woman that will dress and act like a woman. Same for women.

Sure, she'll support you. My wife knows and she's supporting me BUT it's not that I turned to full time woman, so she can live with it. Still it doesn't look cool to her because she want a man.

So you wanted to tell her because that you don't want to hide anymore at home. Great thought! and it do worked! you don't have to hide at home. You don't have to hide great part of you from your life partner. Perfect!

Then comes the great times of the beginning of living your life with the fact that the wife knows. At first it's great for both sides. You can do whatever you want and from your wife perspective it's also fun for her to show you how hard is a woman life. It also fun for her to have a partner for all the women stuff.

But as time goes by it's not fun anymore. It stopped being interesting to her and she want you to be a man. That's what turn her on. Sure, she'll support you but it's not fun for her. And you feel it too because you know her and you can feel that she doesn't like it. So you step back and stop dressing in front of her.

That's life.

Hi Ellen,

Welcome back to CDH.

Alice

Hi Ellen,

Welcome. So glad you have joined us here. Feel free to explore to your heart's content.

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You will make many friends here and one day will say to yourself " I am home".

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Regards,   Terri Anne, Ambassador

I pray that you are wrong, Maya, at least in my case
And welcome back, Ellen, I am sorry for your situation
Hugs, Regine👸💕

Hello Ellen,
Am Jennifer Ramirez, and am going through the same thing.it's been hard, real hard.
If you like to talk, look me up, and welcome back too the sisterhood.
Xoxo
Jennifer Ramirez

Welcome back Ellen!!! 💐
Love and hugs, Stephanie 💖

I'm sorry you're going through that Ellen. I've only been dressing about a year and came out to my wife a couple months into it. We had a lot of fun together initially but she too has cooled to the idea now.  So I don't push it. I dress mostly in private even though I don't have to and I don't talk to her about it much. We had some fun with wigs a couple nights ago. It was great. I'm happy for the interaction when I can get it, otherwise I'm just happy I don't have to hide my clothes from her.  I too am here to be able to share with my new girlfriends who can truly understand and support me. But enough about me. You have a home here, you already know that.  Welcome back!  I'm sure you have a wealth of experience that can be helpful to the new members and we are all here for you!

♥️Lola

Hi Ellan
I'm totally new, but these stories make me sad. I sincerely hope there is a happy endong to your's. People just have to keep trying to see your heart. That is independent of what we wear.
Hugs snd hope
Michelle

Hi Ellen, so pleased you've chosen to return , I  know how hard it is without a supportive S.O. but I hope you will find comfort in the love present here.

Hugs

Diana

This is definitely a struggle.   In my case I only wear women's clothes anymore.   Socks on up.  Yeah I might not be able to wear a dress or skirt and wig often or makeup... but I don't deny myself floral tops or other feminine cut tops either.   I know my wife probably would rather see me wearing baggy mens jeans and a flannel shirt but it doesn't happen often and if I can ever find a good women's flannel that fots well, then she can see me in that outfit.   For me, dressing in MY clothes is just life nowadays.   But I don't get to chat about things with her, girl talk.  And I am still a he/him Husband.  It is not easy.

Ellen welcome back. Sorry to hear about your wife’s reluctance to your desires to dress but here have many who understand your passion and here to help you in every way. As for your dressing  experience of being who you are in a community that really cares about everyone . Happy to welcome you and enjoy your time with us.

Stephanie 🌹

Thanks so much Stefanie. I do remember you.

Ellen, welcome (back) to CDH!

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Hi Ellen Welcome back I believe you are right. It is fun for your SO for a while. It just gets a little boring for them. The novelty has worn off. Unfortunately for them the novelty it does not wear off for us. They enjoy having their man around and you can not fault them for that at all. It is simply clothes for them and its no big deal. We want our femininity confirmed almost every day for some of us, That can be a problem if our SO is not willing to participate or even worse she just does not want to see anymore. The danger for our sisters they look else where to get their needs met. This is where CDH plays a very important role. I always worry that our sisters will look for a man to confirm their identity even though they are not attracted to men. That is another pathway for guilt and shame. I have been CDing since my mid teens. Much too early to learn hard lessons of life. I used to watch middle age and older cross dressers come in to the gay bar I used go to weekends and some special event nights. All they wanted was a simple kiss from a admirer and that was enough to confirm how they felt. There were others that drank too much and left the bar with a admirer. I am happy to see that you have rejoined CDH to help those who are just trying to figure it all out. I look forward to seeing your helpful comments.

Luv Stephanie